Freud said: I have exhausted thirty years of studying the soul of a woman, but I am still unable to answer the following question: Woman, what does a woman really want?
Zhang Xiaoxian: What women want is man, love and security.
Qian Xiaoyan in the TV series "Three Lives Have The Luck to Meet You" starring Huang Jingyu, Wang Likun, Cheng Zheng, Wang Ce and others is a woman who is extremely eager for security and money.
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Qian Xiaoyan (played by Cheng Zheng) has dreamed since she was a child to marry a rich person and let her parents live a good life. Hou Zhirong (played by Wang Ce) entered her life.
This yearless relationship is 29 years apart.
In addition to age, Hou Zhirong conforms to Qian Xiaoyan's concept of mate selection. He is mature, golden, and considerate.
Hou Zhirong is actually a good husband and father. When he was young, he was busy with work and spent little time with his wife, but he handed over all the income of the company to his wife.
However, his wife Yujie wants the company of her husband more, and she is tired of the big and small affairs of her young son Marquis (played by Huang Jingyu).
Yujie ran away from home with her son, and later fell into the water while driving and unfortunately passed away.
Hou Zhirong also finally realized that he was neglectful of his wife's company, and he always believed that as long as he handed over the money to his wife, he could get along without incident.
Hou Zhirong lived alone in a huge villa, and his heart was lonely.
It is said that it is a pity to meet the right person at the wrong time. Hou Zhirong met Qian Xiaoyan, a 29-year-old girl who was 29 years younger, and the other party made him feel youth and throbbing.
Hou Zhirong is a businessman, and he vividly expresses the businessman's pursuit of profits. He didn't want to be responsible, he didn't want to take responsibility, he only wanted to keep Qian Xiaoyan in captivity in the villa for a long time, and he didn't mean to marry her.
His interests come first in everything.
When Qian Xiaoyan proposed that she wanted marriage, the two people naturally broke up.
Hou Zhirong's concept of career is very problematic. At the mall, he was a week of pickpockets, and the employees were alienated from him. He was good at PUA, and in the end everyone around him betrayed him.
Hou Zhirong's company finally went bankrupt. After bankruptcy, the Marquis took over the hot potato left by his father.
Bankruptcy means that Hou Zhirong has no money. He sold both villas under his name and gave the money to his son.
Between family affection and love, Hou Zhirong decisively chose family affection. He was a good father, but not a good lover.
Qian Xiaoyan wants to compound
In the past, he was with Hou Zhirong for money, but now he has no money, but wants to get back together. How ironic that is.
Knowing that Hou Zhirong is bankrupt, the average woman will most likely leave decisively.
Wan Wan did not expect that Qian Xiaoyan actually wanted to reunite with Hou Zhirong. In the face of a 60-something man who has no money, she is willing to take care of him willingly.
For your sake, I can be the enemy of the whole world.
This sentence was portrayed by Qian Xiaoyan into three points. She can ignore her parents' thoughts and do not care about the views of the outside world, and she wants to live with Hou Zhirong.
I was not born, I was born and I am old
If you were 20 years younger, I would treat you well. This is Hou Zhirong's last promise. I was not born, I was born and I am old, what kind of regret and helplessness is this?
After bankruptcy and the initial recovery of a serious illness, Hou Zhirong reconciled with his son. He finally woke up to the fact that family affection is the most secure.
In the face of Qian Xiaoyan's request for compounding, Hou Zhirong's first reaction was to refuse, he was a rational person. He knew that an old man without money could not give happiness to a woman.
From a practical point of view, Hou Zhirong is also worried that his future self will drag Qian Xiaoyan down. From the side, it can be seen that Hou Zhirong is actually not a scumbag, he is really thinking about Qian Xiaoyan.
Hou Zhirong was in love with Qian Xiaoyan in his heart, but the reality was too cruel. As a man who has seen the big world, he knows all too well the complexities.
At present, he only wants to live in peace and harmony with his son.
He couldn't afford to toss it anymore, and this sentence was also the big truth he had dug his heart out.
A man in his sixties who has no money, he needs more affection than ethereal love.
What is the diagram?
After Hou Zhirong's bankruptcy, the young and beautiful Qian Xiaoyan still wanted to reunite and keep hou Zhirong so humblely. Talking about feelings with a person who has no money, what is Qian Xiaoyan's picture?
Worship gold vanity, this is the impression given by Qian Xiaoyan. Now it seems that she has misunderstood.
Qian Xiaoyan may worship gold in his bones, but he also has the correct three views. Let's start with starfish. Why doesn't Qian Xiaoyan like starfish? In addition to Starfish's lack of money, he is also a man who has no responsibility, no sense of responsibility, slamming doors, and timidity.
There is affection and righteousness, which cannot be reflected in starfish at all. He can betray his friends for money, ostensibly saying that he is to avenge Qian Xiaoyan, but in fact, his selfishness is very heavy.
Such a man is unreliable, at least qian Xiaoyan, an independent and confident woman, even if there is no appearance of Hou Zhirong, she will not look at such a cowardly little man.
For example, when Qian Xiaoyan's parents first came, Starfish just made takeaways, while Hou Zhirong sent the keys to the car and the villa, and also booked a banquet to wash the dust for Qian's father and mother.
Money aside, Starfish does not have Hou Zhirong's big pattern, responsibility, care and maturity and stability.
A man like Hou Zhirong, who has a successful career, has a fatal attraction to women.
Women need a lot of things, very much. With a man, there is not necessarily love, and having love does not necessarily have a sense of security.
Having a man and having love doesn't mean having a sense of security.
The so-called sense of security, both spiritual and material. Hou Zhirong can give Qian Xiaoyan a full sense of security.
This is also why Qian Xiaoyan still insisted on compounding when she learned that Hou Zhirong was bankrupt and had no money. What is she drawing? She's looking at love and security.
As a child, she was not happy, and she longed too much for a mature and stable man to protect her.
Qian Xiaoyan is a woman who is not recognized by her parents and does not get the love of her parents, and she believes that her parents will only ask her for money.
She has an Oedipal complex in her bones.
In Qian Xiaoyan's heart, the skinny camel was bigger than Ma, and even if Hou Zhirong went bankrupt, he would be stronger than someone like Starfish.
The most important thing is that Hou Zhirong can give her a sense of spiritual security. When he was with Hou Zhirong, Qian Xiaoyan was happy from the bottom of his heart, not simply for money.
I remembered Zhang Ailing's sentence: If you like a person, you will be humbled to the dust, and then blossom.
Love and reality, on this multiple choice question, Hou Zhirong chose reality.
Qian Xiaoyan chose love. No one is wrong, and the wrong is to meet the right person at the wrong time. They are destined not to be happy.
Sometimes letting go is also a kind of love.