Author: Sister Wucai
Author | No talented sister
A reader asked me a question the other day:
Are German children sent to kindergarten after six months?
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Since entering the Internet era, everyone's information sources have become more and more bizarre.
Hurry to clarify that there is no wow, different families are sent according to their own needs, there is no unified guidance age.
Some send it in four months, and some don't send it at all, after all, this is not compulsory education.
The reader replied that the child sent to the nursery for 19 months, crying, thinking about his mother, worried about whether it was sent too early, and his choice hurt the child.
I said no, my family two sent early, crying must have been, but I have not seen anything wrong!
The next day, she turned me to an article and asked me what I thought.
The title is "A Child Goes to Kindergarten a Year Later, Could Change the Trajectory of a Lifetime?" (Parents must see)".
My first instinct was, what can I change? Still alive?
Delay in finding a partner?
I read it with an open mind and found it very interesting.
The article uses a lot of space to write that early kindergarten (defined by the author as under three years old) is highly likely to be bad for children, what pressure is high, which will lead to emotional disorders and behavioral problems, and even affect normal development.
Even the famous twin ladder climbing experiment was used, as if these children were not in nursery school, but in some kind of horrible human cub training camp.
I don't know which nursery teacher can have this spare time.
"When a child goes to kindergarten a year later, may change the trajectory of his life? (Parents must see)" article screenshot; source: New Mom Picture Book
If this were the case, all nursery schools under the age of three should have been shot.
Then the author stands at the center of the world to call for love, calling on parents not to send their children to care for themselves, resulting in a lot of problems in the lack of companionship of children.
No, the lack of companionship does lead to a lot of problems, but there are 24 hours a day, only a few hours of caregiving?
To say that separation anxiety, some children are anxious to lose to their parents, and the mother cannot leave for a minute?
Interestingly, the author then turned sharply and said that entering the kindergarten late may not be good, which will affect interpersonal communication.
The positive and negative words were said, and those who should be frightened were all frightened, and finally the mysterious advice was given.
Although there is nothing wrong with the advice, this article can scare people out of the problem.
And tomorrow morning there is a biased conclusion, but pretend to be objective and rational, persuade everyone not to be extreme, depending on the situation, the reader can be said to be very helpless.
I guess this reader of mine forwarded it to me because he felt anxious, more confused and uneasy.
Expert comrade, you would like to give a letter of approval, how old can you enter the park?
The probability is not good for the child, what is the probability? Bad and bad?
Is it possible to step on the three-year-old point to enter the park and walk to the peak of life?
Can those who have entered the park early still be rescued?
Can the life of late entry into the kindergarten be saved?
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The expert comrades laughed and said nothing, the number of clicks was enough, and they finished their work.
I'm not an expert, but I'm sorry, I have two babies who entered the park early.
Not only three years earlier than the experts say, but even earlier than this reader's.
Barley entered the park for 18 months, and he could hardly speak a word in German, and his mouth was full of Chinese.
When I first entered the kindergarten, I was very happy, touching here and there, pointing to the German picture book and telling the teacher, this is Xiao Zhu, that is Xiao Enough.
I thought that by pretending to translate the piglet and puppy into German, everyone could have a pleasant chat.
I was overjoyed, and told the teacher that I didn't need to adapt to the period, and officially started to drip quickly!
The teacher said that it is not so simple, the good times will not be too long, and we must be mentally prepared.
Sure enough, after three days, I started humming, five days later I started crying, and a week later I saw the kindergarten gate and began to howl to death.
Think about it, the environment is strange and the language is not understood, and I don't want to change it.
After more than a month of trouble, the situation slowly improved as the language barrier was eliminated.
Xiaomi entered the park even earlier, only 11 months.
This time it was the opposite, from howling to crying to humming to playing calmly, the goods were fully in shape two weeks later.
Because she's only going to click anyway, language problems? inexistent.
But!
If you think that the world will be peaceful from now on, the two of them will be happy to go to school and go home safely, it is a dream!
There are always a few days a month when you want to jump the chickens and dogs.
Sometimes they do it together, sometimes they take turns to see how they feel.
Sometimes there is no plan to cry, and when I change my shoes, I see the children next to me crying, and the two suddenly start to cry with headaches.
Leave me alone in the wind messy.
Would it be better to be bigger? Not necessarily!
I clearly remember when they were four or five years old, suddenly there was a moment of not knowing what evil was in them, and every morning a person held me on one leg and cried like a heart-rending lung.
In the live-action version of "Mom Loves Me Again", the audience please bring your own handkerchief.
But as soon as I walked out of the door, they finished the performance and left in an instant.
Don't ask me how I know.
At that time, I would often help the kindergarten to buy breakfast, and then go back after a few minutes, and the two of them would have a hot time, at most raising their eyelids and saying Hello Mom, goodbye!
To be honest, I never thought that my choices hurt my children.
I think they hurt me a lot, but my own child can only admit it.
I also never thought it would matter if I entered the park a year earlier or a year later.
I've never even considered the question of "when is best for children to enter kindergarten?"
Barley entered the park at 18 months because xiaomi was about to be born at that time, and I wanted to have a clean confinement.
Xiaomi entered the kindergarten for 11 months because she was too tired to take her at home, and every day her emotions were on the verge of a collapse.
By the way, Xiaomi was two and a half years old and I was stuffed into the kindergarten over the age of three because I wanted to save time by picking her up and dropping her off with Barley.
The most excessive thing is that I also let Xiaomi go to primary school ahead of schedule.
You know, going to primary school early in Germany is rare and troublesome.
The kindergarten talked to me several times, analyzed the pros and cons, and tried to discourage it.
Elementary schools require separate written tests and interviews, and there is no notice at all, so that they almost miss it.