Selected from Teacher Xiao Chenying's "Love Accompanies Children's Growth"
As long as we have no emotions, are the heart to help the child, truly love the child, always protect the child's shame, leave the child with dignity, even if the child is punished, the child has no complaints, he will be very grateful, and even work harder to change the shortcomings.
If a child loses the chalkboard because she is absent-minded, and we do not give the right guidance in time, she may break the cup the next day and she may lose a book on the third day. She's going to lose everything, it must be, because she's not respectful and serious. So when she makes a mistake for the first time, we must guide her in time, let her find out the real reason, and at the same time let her take responsibility. I'm not going to blame her, but to let her know that if you make this mistake, you have to bear the consequences, and you must have such a state of mind.
At that time, I told her that if I lost something, I must pay compensation. Be sure to let the child compensate, if not compensated, she will feel that the teacher can not take me anyway, I am wrong again, I will admit the mistake again, and she will continue to make mistakes in the future. So I told her you were going to pay compensation.
She said I couldn't afford to lose now. I said, yes, the teacher can buy you one to pay the school, but how do you want to compensate yourself? You can use your physical strength to pay for the class as compensation. She said to herself that I would clean the class for a week. I said yes, when you do the cleaning, your idea is to reflect on myself for not doing the right thing. In this way, the child is impressed, so that she understands that bad causes will bear bad results, and she has to bear the consequences for the causes she planted. Let's see, is the punishment good or not? In fact, the key is still in our state of mind. We punish the child not to blame him, but to help him. In this way, the child will not have resentment in his heart, and he will even accept it happily.
At that time, there was also such a situation in our class, and some children always spoke below when they were in class. I was joking with the kid, and I said if you talk about it again, I'll seal your mouth with parafigure. Unexpectedly, in the afternoon, a little boy did bring me a roll of sealing glue, and I began to reflect on myself: "Whoever speaks, the letter comes first." "Especially the teacher should be very cautious when he speaks!" I was having a hard time riding a tiger. Sure enough, the class was over, and after a while the conversation began again. I've already talked about using sealant, what should I do? The whole class watched how I handled it. If you really close your mouth with tape, it may cause harm to your child. Don't seal it, the words you have already said are like water that you spilled out, and you can't get it back. If you don't take it seriously this time, there won't be any children who will believe you next time. Reflect again: "It is not appropriate to make a mistake, do not make a promise, make a promise, and make a mistake." "I didn't do it myself, and I put myself in a dilemma.
Fortunately, there was no emotion at the time, very calm. I called this classmate up. When I called him, I didn't mean to be angry at all, I just wanted to help him. I asked him, "Is it right to speak below?" The child said, "No." "Was it you who just spoke?" He bowed his head and said, "Yes." I continued to ask with a smile: "Is it you who just spoke?" He nodded again. I repeated more gently: "Is it you who just spoke?" He felt strange and looked up stunned. I turned to the class and asked, "Is he the one who just spoke?" The whole class was also blindfolded and did not know how to answer. I told the whole class that he himself knew that it was wrong to speak at this time, but he spoke again, who was speaking? Is it him? Of course not. It's his bad habits that speak, because he's controlled by bad habits. He himself is also very miserable, he knows that he is not speaking right, but he can't control his mouth, his mouth always wants to talk, so we have to help him get rid of bad habits.
To help him, you can remind him, you can also help him take measures. I said, "Now you can ask for a seal to help you, would you like to accept its help, defeat the enemy, and become a hero?" The kid was happy and said, "I do!" Then he walked up with great enthusiasm.
I said, "You're going to ask for the help of the sealant, and you should thank it." So he bowed to the sealant and said, "Thank you for helping me correct my bad habits." Then he wiped the beads of sweat from his mouth, put a piece of sealing glue on it, and happily returned to his seat.
After seeing him post it, I didn't expect that there were actually a few classmates who said: "Teacher, I want to post it too!" I said, "No, this magic weapon cannot be used indiscriminately." First of all, let yourself overcome bad habits, and if you are not capable enough, you can ask sealing glue to help you. As a result, when I was doing my homework later, I found that several classmates took out small transparent glue and pasted it on their mouths. The kids are really very cute.
At the same time, I also understand that as long as we have no emotions, it is the heart to help the child, truly love the child, always protect the child's shame, leave the child with dignity, even if the child is punished, the child does not complain, he will be very grateful, and even work harder to correct the shortcomings.
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