Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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I don't know when it started, the once lively and interactive group was quiet! Why? If it weren't necessary, the work group would have been even more deadly and silent!
In addition to work, the lively and interactive groups are generally groups of classmates, relatives, and a small group of people who were once good!
Later, gradually, all kinds of groups, everyone didn't talk much!
In this regard, I have consulted with many people around me:
Do you have a lot of groups on your phone? Is the interactive message in the group still the same as before?
99% of the answers were: inactive, almost no one spoke!
There is even a group that was once established, because the mobile phone can not be found!
Once upon a time, in order to receive group messages in time, someone set the group to the top? Once upon a time, no matter who in the group opened a topic, that is, the bustle of everyone bubbling together?
Even if someone is busy for a while, after being busy, it must be "climbing the stairs" to track the news, and then continue the previous topic of everyone, causing a wave of interaction again!
People seem to have been saying goodbye all their lives! However, no one is ready to say goodbye! Say goodbye to what?
Say goodbye to your former self, say goodbye to the past that is not worth mentioning, say goodbye to those relationships that have long changed their taste...
Come to think of it, some sadness!
No matter who it is, whether it is a classmate or a relative, at the moment, the initial excitement of the establishment and enthusiastic interaction is meaningless!
A relationship can not be long, the faint ending brings people infinite sadness, it is better to never start!
Some people say that the relationship between adults is shallow, and you can understand it by reading group news! Because, many times in the interaction within the group, you can see who is far away and who is near!
People who really care about you will not let you "dance alone" in the group!
But in reality, such a shallow "probe" is flawed!
The group message is blocked, as long as no one deliberately aite himself, he will not open the content and are interested in "climbing the stairs". Who do you make friends with in private, send messages alone, who can still go to the group "Versailles"?
It is not the people of the moment, the feelings of the masses are cold, but the people of the moment understand better that the real feelings are hidden in private exchanges, not in the interaction of the group!
Once upon a time, the lively group has now become unusually quiet for two reasons:
1: There are few real exchanges, and it is not enough to rely on group interaction
Student Group:
The adult world, the imprint of the characters in the group, is left in the concept of past acquaintance!
Between people who have not been seen for several years, ten years, twenty years, or even longer, the initial activity in the group must be the most talking about the past.
But people change! Some memories from the past, some people are willing to remember, some people are not willing to remember!
In addition, in the years of not seeing each other for many years, people will have great changes according to their own experiences and environment! People in memory, for a long time in the group interaction, will make people feel the sense of distance!
It's not that people don't know how to cherish whom, but they are not in the same environment, and their vision and mentality of looking at things are also different! Therefore, a moment of cordial ridicule, greeting, after that fresh passion period, it is indifferent!
Because, between each other, there really is no common topic!
Relatives:
Not all people who can be called "relatives" are all very kind! Relatives and relatives from near and far each have a scale in their hearts, and they can change the previous state by not establishing a group!
Between relatives, each living independently, there must be some selfish and negligent elements in the management of the relationship! Therefore, at the beginning of the establishment of the group, they will care about their respective faces and "enjoy and blend" with each other!
Later, as the problem of real interaction remained unchanged, the interaction in the group naturally disappeared!
For some people, the group of relatives, not retreating is already the best form of getting along! Even, some relatives will quarrel in the group, implicating more people to "fight" together.
Such a group, how to carry out the interaction in the past?
Any kind of relationship that gets too close will be a disaster, especially if you don't rely on real equality, sincerity, and deep friendship in real life, and no matter how much interaction within the group, it is just a greeting on the outside.
Second: Under the human heart and human nature, there is more cautious precaution
In the early days of the establishment of the group, all the hilarity and greetings between people will not involve interests!
The content of the interaction is irrelevant communication. But after a long time, everyone does not speak, nothing more than because:
Some people privately added who to their friends list;
Some people, in private communication, expose the demands required for "value", resulting in their own isolation;
The relationship between individuals has spread the bad deeds of other people's unbearable privacy or unworthy socialization...
There is no one in the world who is really good for you! Whether it is a classmate or a relative, in the face of interests, it will be based on self-interest, which is not a rare thing!
What's more, in the real world, the more people you think are close to, the more you can't see you well, and the more people who are familiar with you, the easier it is to give you a trip.
Some words, more than saying is not helpful. Some words, too many words will be lost!
Some people need to control the distance to get along, and the defensive psychology is not malicious speculation, but to better protect themselves!
In real life, people who are hurt by people close to them abound. The interaction of a group does not mean that it is a relationship that is worth 100% of their true feelings.
The interactive news in the group has finished the only mountains and naturally "stopped"!
In this materialistic society, the human heart and human nature are ugly! When one's own interests are hindered or damaged, or one's own needs are not met by someone who affirms, then the relationship will come to an end in silence!
People, the greatest wisdom is not to expect too much depth of a relationship, but also to estimate their position in the hearts of others!
People's cautious self-protection is because they see more reality and see through the interests between people, so keeping themselves and preventing others has become a compulsory course for adults!
In this life, the greatest sorrow is to expect the truth and fear that the relationship is too close! It is said that we must grasp the healthy distance to get along, but this healthy distance is really difficult to grasp!
So, as we get older, people prefer to enjoy solitude rather than pander to certain relationships in the hustle and bustle.
Away from the hustle and bustle of interpersonal relationships, bid farewell to the perfunctory enthusiasm in the group, people in the quiet years, accompany the worthy people, improve the self that should continue to grow, this is the final real appearance of adults!
Although it is sad, it is still glorious to be lonely!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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