Xiaoling and Xiaofeng are very good friends and classmates, and their families live in the same neighborhood. The parents of both sides have also met in private, the relationship is not bad, sometimes if the adults are too busy, they will ask the other parent to help pick up. Generally speaking, Xiaoling's mother picks up Xiaoling and Xiaofeng more from school, because Xiaofeng's mother's business is too busy.
Originally, the relationship between the two families was good, and it was naturally not a big deal to have time to help pick up and drop off, but once, Xiaoling's mother had an accident when she picked up Xiaoling and Xiaofeng. When the three of them went downstairs, two children were bouncing around and accidentally stepped on the air.
Just when the two children were about to fall, Xiao Ling's mother subconsciously grabbed Xiao Ling's hand desperately, and before she could pull the other one, Xiao Feng fell down the stairs, and there was a little blood on her forehead.
This frightened Xiao Ling's mother, and without saying a word, she took her daughter and sent Xiaofeng to the hospital for treatment. Due to the rush, the registration and medical expenses were all paid by Xiaoling's mother. Xiao Ling's mother was already quite guilty, so she did not plan to return the medical expenses.
But Xiaofeng's mother did not think so, she accused Xiaoling's mother of being careless, angrily scolded the other party for "really selfish, just take care of their own children, regardless of my family Xiaofeng", and also plan to claim compensation from Xiaoling's mother. In this way, the two got into trouble in the hospital, and finally had to be coordinated.
For such a thing, many parents will wonder, is it wrong to save their children first?
First: There is nothing wrong with saving your own children first
When encountering this kind of thing, people usually don't have much time to think, and the actions they make are also knee-jerk reactions. As a mother, the first reaction is to save her children, which is the nature of parenthood, and there is no fault.
If it is Xiaofeng's mother who picks up the child, I believe that when she encounters such a situation, she will also give priority to saving her child. Mothers should not be kidnapped by morality, otherwise they will end up being ashamed of their own children and being taken for granted by the other party.
Second: responsible for the responsibilities that should be responsible
In fact, in this matter, Xiaoling's mother is a very conscientious person, sent to the hospital as soon as possible after the incident, and voluntarily paid money to help. Under normal circumstances, the child's medical expenses should be borne by Xiaoling's mother and Xiaofeng's mother, but Xiaoling's mother paid all of them and did not plan to return a part.
But what I didn't expect was that Xiaofeng's mother made unreasonable trouble, morally kidnapped Xiaoling's mother who helped her pick up and drop off her children, and also made a claim. Such behavior is to step on the moral high ground to blame others, completely failing to understand that the accident is accidental.
Third: Entrust people to do things with gratitude
In reality, some people take the help of others as a matter of course, if the other party can help themselves to do a good job, do not say a word of thanks; but if the other party can not do well, they will break their mouths and scold, trying to hold each other responsible.
In fact, this kind of behavior is really selfish, because you entrust others to do things and ask others, whether things are good or bad, you should bear the corresponding results.