In the past two days, the former high-quality idol Wang Lihong "overturned the ship", and his ex-wife Li Lianglei fought back, erupting with strong power, and the audience who fried the melon should not be able to stop and be stunned.
In fact, whether it is a star idol family or not, whether it is standing in the bright spot of life, just having 3 children in 8 years is enough to make a woman busy and haggard.
Of course, even if she has a housekeeper, a Filipino maid, a driver, and a nanny to serve, the damage to her body and the whole process of childbirth are inevitable things for women to avoid. In fact, there are too many ordinary and ordinary women, in the fireworks of the city, hard to have children, their heartache, it is really difficult for outsiders to be humane.
In particular, the heartache of the first two years after giving birth.
1. Pre-delivery heartache
Whether the husband is good or not, childbirth is a "battlefield" that women have to face alone. Waiting alone for the uterine mouth to open from one finger to ten fingers is a very, very painful process, because in addition to the pain, it is still pain, the kind of pain that is enough to deform...
If some hospitals can accompany you, then having a responsible father-to-be around may be a comfort; but more often, the fragility of men will be born in this situation, the child is not born, and the father-to-be is sent to oxygen first because of the discomfort of not being able to accompany the nursing, the blood and dullness in the delivery room, etc.;
Or the mother-to-be is alone in the delivery room, and although the father-to-be outside the delivery room is also anxiously waiting, the way to pass the time is to turn over the mobile phone, play games, and wait for the moment of the baby's birth circle of friends to announce the good news...
Work hard, expectant mother, for the sake of the child, for herself, for the sake of the family!
2. Hospitalization time after childbirth
It seems that the relatives visited in the ward come and go, but they are all in a hurry, focusing more on the newborn baby.
Although the mother will be proud of it, this time is more of a heartache to fight against the various discomforts of the body alone. Caesarean section has the pain of caesarean section, that kind of "open stomach" feeling, by no means with the best pain pump can be soothed; vaginal delivery also has the fragility of vaginal delivery, especially after experiencing lateral cutting, that sour feeling, do not mention it.
The baby is carried to the mother's side to feed. Even if the mother's body is in pain, she can't bear to give up the high-quality nutrition of colostrum to the child, and she doesn't want to give up the breast milk nutrition that is most suitable for the baby.
But no one tells you that when your baby first feeds, the small mouth will make the mother miserable. He sucked contentedly, but he would lose his temper because the breast milk was not as promised, and he kept humming and chirping, and he kept throwing a tantrum, this little man, where did he know the pain of his mother?
3. The heartache of confinement
It is not easy to go home, shouldn't confinement rest well in bed, look at the quiet of the room, and the years are quiet?
If the family is properly taken care of, the atmosphere is warm, and the parenting concept is not contradictory, then the mood of the new mother can be better. If the family does not take proper care, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, husband and wife, etc. flocks to it, and the new mother drags her "injured" body and psychology, what kind of suffering!
In addition to the care of the family, there are also problems that new mothers have to face alone.
First of all, there is the problem of physical recovery, the home is no better than the hospital, what is uncomfortable when you can directly get professional care; the wound recovery is good or bad, the recovery of the uterine internal organs, there is no way to accurately know, the heart of the uneasiness is also normal.
The second is the problem that must be faced when breastfeeding, breast milk can keep up with the needs of the baby, and it is enough to make new mothers suffer. If the breast milk is not enough, the whole family will be uncomfortable; if the breast milk is too abundant, it will face the invasion of mastitis and so on; without experiencing the same high fever, the chest is rock-solid, and the pain will not be imagined.
Then there is the quality of sleep, no matter what, the baby is on time every night to make trouble three or two times, he is comfortable to sleep, uncomfortable to make trouble, anyway, "I am the biggest, I am afraid of whom"; poor mothers have to hold on to their spirits, change their schedule, every night and every night, night can not sleep.
4. The first year of the baby's birth
The baby's eating, drinking, and sleeping, which one can be separated from the mother's careful care and care? Counting on Dad? Alas, it's really hard to put into words.
In fact, taking care of the baby is not a big problem, after all, the baby grows day by day, they are too healing, every time you look at the baby's small appearance, how many mothers can refuse to kiss and hug?
The problem is that the baby in the first year of life is really physically fragile, and from time to time there is an discomfort, either the nose is blocked, or it is thin or constipated; or after a while, there is a small fever... His crying really made his mother panic and chaos, and hate could not be replaced by his body.
The baby's father is not hopeless, but the family always has to have someone to earn money to support the family, right?
When the baby is half a year old, some working mothers are about to squeeze into the new role of life: the nursing mother. God knows what it's like to pump with an icy breast pump in the bathroom? God knows what it's like to rush into the fridge every day? God knows how much you miss your baby sitting in the booth of your office? ......
What a year of physical and mental exhaustion!
5. The second year of the baby's birth
The little guy will run, and the little mouth can also talk non-stop. But his need for his mother was even more obvious.
It is the sadness of holding her legs at the door of the house every day when the mother goes to work and crying miserably, the joy that greets the mother every day when she returns from work, the small appearance of the mother wrapped around the mother like a koala on every holiday, and the sadness of repeatedly calling "mother, mother" when she is sick...
Who can stand up to such a spoiled little one? Companionship, companionship! Spend all your spare time with your baby, no self, no rest, no past comfort, but willing.
Counting on Dad? Most of the fathers have passed the fresh period of the arrival of the baby, anyway, with the mother to accompany, they are also happy to relax, play games, party chat is not fragrant? Why go home early and wash your diapers?
If you are too serious, you really can't live a long time.
In fact, for the mother, after the first two years of giving birth to the baby, the biggest heartache is her out of shape, the temper that has become grumpy, and the neglect of all the details that have been taken into account.
Late at night, the baby sleeps soundly on the side, the mother occasionally loses sleep, and always feels wronged: is it worth it to lose yourself for the sake of the child? worth! It's not worth it!
Then, then, the second child arrived unexpectedly, and now everyone is encouraged to have a third child...
The cycle repeats, the cycle repeats, and no one replaces it!
It is no exaggeration to say:
After the first two years of giving birth, no matter how good the husband and wife relationship, they will also experience a period of busy destruction;
After the first two years of giving birth, no matter how careful and patient, it will also go through an escalating quarrel;
After the first two years of childbirth, the beautiful memories and memories have also disappeared into the invisible shadow of time;
The first two years after giving birth to a child is a real drill in life.
It is said that the most loving couples have 100 thoughts of divorce and 50 urges to strangle each other in their lives.
And half of the chances of this occur in the first two years of having a child!
Yes, yes, there is a kind of heartache called the first two years of childbirth!