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Some people say that this is an era of "looking at faces".
Although this statement is too absolute, but think about it carefully, there is some truth, a good face, often give people a good first impression, naturally conducive to the next communication.
Therefore, parents usually dress their children up a little and wear some beautiful clothes, which is normal.
But everything is too late, some parents impose their distorted aesthetics on their children, and lead them farther and farther down the path of deformity...
Model, influencer - emerging children's profession
The profession of child model, I believe many people have heard of it.
Two years ago, a mother also caused a lot of controversy because she kicked her daughter who was a child model on the street.
Coincidentally, something like this happened again the other day.
At a photography base in Panyu, Guangzhou, a little girl who was filming was hammered several times by her mother with a baseball bat because she was not in a good state:
The light hammer still seemed to be angry, and the mother said:
"If you do this again, who will dare to use you in the future?"
Between words, in addition to being full of "money and benefits", I do not feel the slightest pain and guilt for my children.
And the little girl stood in the same place in a daze, letting her mother scold.
Child models are originally prepared for those children with dreams, so that they can shine on the "stage", but because of the greed of some parents themselves, children are forced to wear the shackles of "chasing fame and profit".
In addition to child models, children's Internet celebrities are another emerging "profession" today.
On social media, a search for "children's beauty bloggers", there will be many children aged 5 or 6, wiping grease and powder on the camera, "teaching" netizens to make up.
We know that there are definitely not a few professional beauty bloggers on the Internet now, will their techniques and skills be inferior to that of a child?
Is the significance of these children's beauty bloggers appearing on social media just to teach everyone makeup?
I don't think what they're really attracted to is the fans who really want to learn makeup skills.
The reason why these children can be used as a tool to make money by their parents is precisely because of the existence of this "gray market".
Children's childhood is only a few short years, and if they are doing work linked to "interests" every day at an age when they should be laughing innocently, it is difficult to imagine what color their future will be.
Fortunately, in July this year, the Cyberspace Administration of China launched the "Clear Lang" operation:
Minors under the age of 16 are strictly prohibited from appearing on camera and live broadcasting; comprehensively clean up pornographic vulgarity, bloody violence and other undesirable content in online courses.
Letting the "children's beauty live broadcast" brake in time is undoubtedly a pure land on the internet, so that children can focus more on their studies.
At the most beautiful age, go light and get back on the right track of life.
While you love beauty, don't forget to polish your eyes
The heart of beauty is shared by everyone.
The "Children's Beauty Live" was stopped, not because children are not allowed to pursue beauty, but because they have been playing the "soft pornography" side ball.
In fact, when we were young, watching our mother dress up, we more or less fantasized about how we would look when we grew up, and cosmetics and high heels were also given different childhood memories.
The same is true for today's children, so the children's cosmetics market also exists today.
Search for keywords on a shopping platform, you can search for many products, and many are sold in the whole set.
These beautifully packaged children's cosmetics range in price from tens to hundreds.
We can't completely deny the quality of these cosmetics, but seriously, the ingredients in cosmetics are complex, the metal content is not low, and it is difficult to ensure that the quality is not harmful to children.
Lee Eun-choi, the most beautiful child model in South Korea, is an example.
How watery this little girl looks, let's put a photo for everyone to see.
Such a face is naturally favored by many merchants, and Li Encai has naturally embarked on the road of child models since then.
For a time, money and praise filled the mother and daughter at the same time.
And her mother is also a beauty expert, keen to spoil herself and her children, since Li Encai was 8 years old, she has been making up her daughter every day.
But just after the mother gave her daughter makeup for a year, she found a "strange thing", and her daughter's height seemed to have not changed.
You know, Li Encai's parents are tall, and it is reasonable to say that she is very relaxed when she grows to more than 1 meter 65.
So the mother rushed to the hospital with her daughter for a check-up, and the results showed:
Although Li Encai is only 12 years old now, his bone age is already 16 years old, which also means that the child's bone age is four years earlier than others, and he will basically not grow up in the future.
According to this situation, Li Encai can only grow to 1 meter 58 at most.
At the same time, the doctor also said that the culprit that caused all this was cosmetics.
Long-term makeup leads to the precipitation of chemicals in cosmetics, stimulates the endocrine of girls, and eventually leads to premature secretion of estrogen, resulting in precocious puberty.
Judging from the economic conditions of Li Encai's family, the price of the cosmetics she uses is definitely not low, the quality is at least medium-high, and daily skin care is inevitable, but even so, it is difficult to escape the tragedy.
It can be seen that no matter how good cosmetics are, they are not suitable for children to use frequently. (Occasionally on stage performance, you can still put on makeup Oh ~)
Moreover, just because of the external good looks, and delay the development of all aspects of the internal, it is more than worth the loss.
Parents are the best "aesthetic" guides for children
The definition of beauty certainly cannot stop at appearances.
But the truth is that as social media continues to evolve, so does the amount of information children receive.
There are many short videos and articles about teaching everyone similar topics such as "how to become beautiful", and it is easy for children to draw scoops according to gourds and follow suit.
At this time, parents do not give timely guidance, which will inevitably make the child's road narrower and narrower.
I remember that there was such a hot search in the past: plastic surgery is a gift for children to start school.
It turns out that many parents take advantage of the summer vacation, before their children go to school, they will take their children to the plastic surgery hospital to make some facial adjustments.
Through the reporter's field visit and investigation, it was also found that:
Every summer, plastic surgery in the hospital is at least 30% more than usual.
Among the plastic surgery population, most of them are high school students under the age of 17, followed by college students aged 18 to 22, and the trend of plastic surgery and young age is becoming more and more intense.
It can be seen that in the torrent of the era of pursuing beauty, plastic surgery is entering our vision at a speed that cannot be ignored.
I still remember that a mother once posted a plastic surgery photo of her 7-year-old daughter cutting her double eyelids in the circle of friends, which caused a lot of controversy at that time:
Although this is a personal choice, we have no right to criticize this behavior, but think about it, is this really appropriate?
Not to mention the various risks brought by plastic surgery, the key is to take the initiative to take the child's plastic surgery, which will definitely make the child lose basic self-confidence:
Just think, if a person is so imperfect and unlovable in the eyes of his parents, then who else can he get?
Moreover, once the child tastes the sweetness of "external beauty", he will feel:
It turns out that beauty is so simple and so useful. Then I just have to keep spending money to get everything I want.
Is this aesthetic really what parents should pass on to their children?
Zhu Guangliang wrote in "The Beauty of Speechlessness":
The world we live in is the most perfect, precisely because it is the least perfect.
The world, because imperfection seems real, life, but also because of imperfection has more possibilities, more challenges.
What we should teach our children is how to accept their imperfections calmly.
And how to optimistically meet the challenges brought about by "imperfection", rather than just relying on "beauty" to take shortcuts.
Inner cultivation and self-pleasure,
In order to resist appearance anxiety
When more and more idol stars who are sought after by children post "A4 waist" and "mask face", "appearance anxiety" is once again mentioned by everyone.
Many children are also caught in this anxiety atmosphere, thinking about how to become thin and beautiful all day long.
And parents, because of the different times, and children have a generation gap and other reasons, for a time do not know how to deal with.
In fact, no matter how the times change and how the ideas are renewed, I always feel:
How a person's conversation and cultivation are the key to whether they can exude charm.
Recently, the TV series "Little Minjia" is being broadcast, and there is a scene in it that goes like this:
When the heroine Liu Xiaomin talked about teacher Su, who she once admired, she only used two words to summarize the appearance of this teacher:
He was tall and thin.
It can be seen that the real attraction of Teacher Su to Xiaomin is not her appearance, but precisely from the same interests and hobbies of the two people.
In reality, why shouldn't we?
From childhood to adulthood, you should have seen a lot of handsome men and beautiful women, but the ones that impress you the most may not be them, it may be those who look ordinary, but have some "special" people, such as:
The boy who is usually silent, but has an amazing song at the party;
The girl who looked ordinary, but stood on the podium, but exported into chapters, and received countless applause.
People who are truly cultivated, no matter how the current aesthetic changes, can be firmly remembered for their unique personal charm.
In addition, the reason why children are wrapped up in "appearance anxiety" is precisely because they cannot accept their ordinary appearance, and at the same time, they will also have a little inferiority.
Therefore, we may as well teach our children to learn self-pleasure.
Here first show you a little fat girl, called Chang Junjun.
Although this little girl looks cute, her appearance is definitely not beautiful compared to the Li Encai mentioned above.
In her self-media account, some netizens even said that she looked like a skinned ham sausage:
But Junjun's mother didn't care, she kept saying:
Junjun is the most blessed Latin swan.
It is the couple who continues to convey this positive and optimistic idea to their children, so that Junjun is full of vitality every day and lives a confident and dashing life.
"Without pretense, I am who I am, even if the whole world laughs at my fatness, I am the most innocent and cheerful little chubby chick." 」
This is what Joon Joon said to himself.
I also hope that parents can tell their children:
Only by accepting everything about yourself, learning self-consistency, and self-pleasure, can you maintain a strong heart and not be affected by external evaluation or ridicule.
If the child fails to recognize what true beauty is, he will only be led by the ever-changing popular aesthetic, and gradually lose his self and basic judgment.
Finally, may our children, in today's aesthetics becoming more and more diversified, "appearance anxiety" more and more heavy, be able to maintain their authenticity and laugh out of their truest self!
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