Did you find out? Among the crying children at the kindergarten door, there are often more boys than girls. In general, boys should be stronger than girls.
This is not the case. Boys in the early years of school are more dependent on their parents than girls, and their hearts are more vulnerable.
Therefore, parents understand the psychological characteristics of boys at each stage and can understand the boys' behavior. Raising a good boy is the common wish of every parent. Then, it is important for parents to seize his golden critical period.
How can parents seize the golden critical period when raising boys?
0-6 years old preschool
A boy at this stage of 0-6 years old, his psychological need is a sense of security. He has a strong sense of dependence on his mother and often feels that his mother is his alone. His heart is also fragile.
The phenomenon at the entrance of the kindergarten illustrates this point. Boys cry so much that many boys shyly hide behind their mothers and don't want to enter the kindergarten.
At this time, mom should not use harsh words to scare him. For example: "If you don't obey anymore, your mother won't want you." Boys will not stop crying because of these words, but will cry badly.
This is not desirable. It will destroy the child's sense of security, affect the boy's brain development, and make the child more timid and afraid. In the long run, the sense of security that children have built up will disappear.
When he grows up, boys will become sensitive, suspicious, irritable, and vulnerable men.
6-12 years of school age
School-age boys, full of curiosity about the world, have a strong desire to explore.
At this stage, there is an important person in the family who plays a vital role in his healthy development. This man is Dad.
Fathers should set an example in front of boys and become the object of worship of boys. If not, and the boy and his father have a bad relationship, the boy will have all kinds of problems.
For example: doing things to rub, you need your parents to push it before you move it; playing games is addictive, and no one can listen to it...
Therefore, at this stage, the father will become friends with the boy. Take the boys out with you and take part in some of the more adventurous and challenging activities, such as kicking football, climbing, camping, etc.
The desire to explore is also the foundation of learning. As long as the child's desire is strong, active learning is also a natural thing. And these activities can satisfy the child's curiosity, desire to explore, can promote the boy's physical development, and make him stronger.
12-18 years of age in adolescence
After the boy is 12 years old, he gradually enters puberty, and there are obvious changes in his body, such as his voice has become thicker and his height has grown. But the psychological development can not catch up with the physical changes.
This will make the boy's heart become conflicted, and the temper will become bigger, and the person will be anxious. And during this period, boys love to make friends, and they are also prone to getting along with their parents unhappily, and they will clash in many ways. However, this stage is also a critical period for the boy's three views to cultivate.
Therefore, the most important thing for parents to do is to help their children find a guide to guide him in the right direction.
What kind of person a boy is with has a high probability of determining what kind of person he grows into. Therefore, parents should give their children more positive energy nutrients, read more celebrity biographies for their children, talk more about the exemplary deeds around them, and shape the appearance of heroes in their children's hearts.
If you want your children to be excellent, parents must first study hard
On the way to growing up, children will encounter many difficult problems. This requires parents to be predictive.
We may not be able to predict our children's future, but we can learn to foresee the problems that will occur at each stage of our children.
I recommend that you read "Raising Boys" and "Raising Girls", which are also two books that I have read repeatedly recently. The first time I was a parent, I encountered various problems with my children, and I was inevitably busy. So do I.
After reading it, I felt much calmer, at least with a sense of what I knew. Like the book "Raising Boys", the characteristics of each age group of boys are particularly clear, and they are also clear and easy to understand with examples.
What are the differences in brain structure between boys and girls? What should dads do at every age? How should a mother get along with a boy? What role to play... All of them can be found in the book.
If you have a girl at home, you can read "Raising Girls". The structure of the book is similar to that of raising boys, and it has benefited a lot after reading it.
Write at the back:
Every child is unique. Even if there are different children in the same family, there are differences in various aspects. This requires parents to "teach according to their aptitudes."
In particular, the parenting of boys and girls is also very different. As long as we study hard and water with our hearts, we can cultivate our children into excellent children.
Today's topic: Do you think boys cry more in kindergarten than girls?