Don't let your phone be a barrier between you and your child

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Playing with a baby while playing with a mobile phone, is it considered companionship?

In the second season of the recent hit parent-child program "Mama is Superman", Bao Bell's wife Bao Wenjing was spat on by many people as a "giant baby mother".

Daughter Dumplings was watching cartoons on the side, and Bao Wenjing had been looking at her mobile phone from the side, without raising her head and without any interaction. Dumpling has grown to two years old, she revealed to herself: "The child is closer to grandma and nanny." ”

The child's heart is very simple, who cares more for her, she will be closer to whom.

Many parents think they spend a lot of time with their children, but find that their children often lose their temper and disobey in front of them. But I don't know, children express their desires in this way, they long to be loved and cared for - Mom and Dad, can you put down your mobile phone and play with me?

The most distant distance in the world is that I am right next to you and you are looking at your phone.

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If you don't accompany me anymore, I'll grow up

Recently I saw a poem called "Wait."

When I was three, you said I'd wait five minutes.

When you were twenty-three, you still haven't come back.

Dad, I don't want the sugar gourd across the road now.

When I take my children to the amusement park, I often see a scene that is - the father sits next to him to look at the mobile phone, and the mother or the elderly are often accompanied by the children.

At that moment, is the information and games in the phone really that important?

We all know it's not that important, but we often console ourselves by saying, "I do have a lot to do." With a mobile phone is at work. ”

It's easy to find a reason to convince yourself, so the child becomes a victim of these reasons and excuses, and becomes something less important than a mobile phone.

A friend told me that his children would only come to him when they needed money.

I asked, "What is the state of your time together?" He said sadly: "There is nothing to say, I don't know how to express concern, and the child never says anything about himself." Once disciplined, it is a conflict and quarrel, and the child slams the door and goes out. ”

This is the only thing in the world that can never be reversed, and if it is lost, it will never come back.

When a child makes a little discovery, he is extremely excited to share it with you. When your child wants to express it to you, you look at your phone and say: I'm busy, you wait.

Wait, wait, wait until you have time, the child has grown up, they don't need you to accompany them.

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Children need such companionship

Many, many parents are worried that their children's only hobby is watching TV, and Bao Wenjing's daughter Dumplings communicates with her mother every day - her mother helps me adjust cartoons.

It's not that children rely on television, it's that they don't know what more fun things can be done.

Children during the 0-3 years old period, not very autonomous, how the parents arrange them, they see the world is how. As the old saying goes, three years old looks big, five years old looks old.

Don't think that children at this time don't understand anything, this age is an important stage for children to understand the world. At this time, children are natural observers and scientists.

As a parent, if you watch TV, play mobile phones, and play games at home every day, then children will also rely on TV and iPad, and their cognitive ability, observation ability, curiosity, imagination, and creative ability will be stifled.

In this regard, I think the best model parents are Li Yapeng and Faye Wong.

As a congenital child with a cleft lip, Li Yan's confidence, generosity and talent are no worse than any normal child. Many people may say that she has such a good background. But I don't know that as a star parent, Li Yapeng really accompanies his children more attentively than ordinary parents.

Netizens once encountered Li Yapeng Andi Wang Fei's family carrying various tools and carrying a very thick "Compendium of Materia Medica" on the road, and filmed this scene and posted it on the Internet.

Many people exclaimed that this is how the stars of the queen of heaven raised their children.

Li Yapeng said that since Li Yan was more than one year old, he began to take her to climb the mountain. It was snowing, and she was about the same height as the thatch on the mountain. By the time she was four or five years old, she was able to complete more than 10 kilometers of mountain trails on her own.

If you want to teach your child to be independent, confident, optimistic, and to preach more truth, it is better to take her to climb the mountain.

You want your child to have aesthetic power, creativity, and sensitivity, and it is better to look at more paintings than to see the real nature.

How can a child who has never seen a field know where the three meals a day come from, and how can he know how to cherish food?

A successful parent is not able to provide their children with any material conditions, but really practices, accompanies them to experience and understand the world, and let them grow up from nature.

In real life, the higher-level parents I know, they all attach great importance to companionship + experience. Because, they know, interest is not the best teacher, experience is the best teacher.

It is better to preach the truth a hundred times than to experience it once. Watching cartoons a hundred times is better than experiencing them once.

For children of a few years, parents are the whole world.

Don't let your phone be a cold barrier between you and your child.

(Editor-in-Charge: Li Donghai)