As the old saying goes, "the father of the tiger has no dog", "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse will punch holes", which is used in learning, that is, if the parents have a relatively high education, the general children's academic performance will also be OK. In addition to heredity and genetics, of course, it is related to educational methods and educational concepts. Parents have a relatively high education, and they will pay more attention to their children's education problems, and their educational concepts and methods will be more advanced, and their knowledge is relatively wide, so the children's education will generally be better.
However, there are always exceptions to everything, parents and children with high education are not necessarily academic bullies, and may even be a scum, and the case of "tiger father and dog" is not uncommon. Recently, a "Beijing mother complained that she and her husband are 985 masters, helpless son does learn scum" video spread on the Internet, causing the attention and hot discussion of netizens, some netizens left a message: The ancients sincerely do not deceive me, this is the dragon and phoenix present "Xiang"?
In the video, this sad mother said that she and her husband are both master's students of 985 colleges and universities, and they have obtained a Beijing hukou through talent introduction, but they did not expect to accidentally become the mother of scum. Under the such good educational resources in Beijing, under the condition of 70% of the one-book rate in Dongcheng District, their children can't even pass the three books, and it is good to be able to graduate from high school.
This mother said in the video that the husband attaches great importance to the child's academic performance, from a young age to tutor the child's homework, the requirements are also very strict, helpless children do not seem to be interested in learning, and even a little tired. After growing up, he will even sometimes work against his parents, raise the bar with his parents, and his academic performance is also "Wang Xiao'er's New Year, one year is not as good as a year". Because of this, the child's father was so angry that he had a heart attack, and the bedside was often prepared with quick-acting heart-saving pills. Now they have basically no hope for their child to go to college, only hope that he can be safe and healthy.
Beijing hukou is what many students dream of, because it means better educational resources and more enrollment opportunities. Taking last year as an example, jiangxi and henan provinces such as jiangxi and henan have a rate of less than 12% of the college entrance examination, while the rate of one in Beijing has reached 45%, and the Dongcheng District is as high as 70%. In the view of this master's mother, her child is not blessed in the blessing, and does not cherish and seize the opportunity to learn.
Wu Zhihong said: "The first step in a perfect life starts from accepting your own imperfections. And accepting a child's imperfection is the greatest love that parents give their children." Most children are not geniuses or idiots, but just one of thousands of ordinary people, and many parents have too high expectations of their children. Always think that their children are smarter and more potential than other children, and it is more difficult to accept the ordinary and ordinary of their children.
If parents are too good, it is also stressful for their children. Because excellent parents have higher expectations for their children and hope that their children can surpass themselves, the "learning bully" parents are more anxious about education than other parents, giving their children higher goals and greater pressure. They are strict with children, pay great attention to children's grades, and spend a lot of time tutoring in order to improve children's academic performance, which may prematurely stifle children's curiosity and enthusiasm for learning. If the child feels that the goal is too high to be achieved, and it is difficult to surpass the parents no matter how hard he tries, he may simply lie flat or even give up on himself.
It is common for people to hope that they will become dragons, but most children cannot become dragons, they are just ordinary people. Parents have a lot of expectations for their children, and they pin certain hopes on them. But many times, children can't fulfill their parents' expectations, so what's the big deal?
Parents will of course have expectations for their children, but too high expectations are easy to become a stumbling block on the road to children's growth, and parents must learn to accept their children's ordinariness or even mediocrity.