01 The "Husband and Wife Relationship" special salon of psychological coaches was successfully held
On the afternoon of December 23, the special salon "Let Happiness Become the Norm of Husband and Wife Relations" jointly carried out by the Shanghai Study Society of the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and Drem Psychological Education was successfully held as scheduled. This salon still invited the psychological coaches of the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences - Xu Yan and Guo Hongying to lead. After experiencing the beauty of the first "parent-child relationship" salon, this time many partners brought their relatives and friends to the salon site, and together with the partners of the Shanghai Study Society, they presented a field with laughter and tears, the beauty of humanity, and the wonderful flow of dialogue.
02 Wonderful review: expression of love, method of happiness
Teacher Guo Hongying first shared the relevant provisions of the Marriage Law on the relationship between husband and wife, which is the most important relationship in life and the core of family relationship. It analyzes the six types of three views in the relationship between husband and wife, married to love, seemingly detached, drifting with the flow, only talking about material things and achieving each other; secondly, through the expression of love and the ordering of values, couples can understand each other more clearly and understand each other and each other; and finally have their own happiness methods: have the ability to love themselves and others, coupled with dialogue communication methods, creative lifestyles, I believe that you can have the ability to decode happiness, find new ways, and jointly create the family vision of expectations.
03 Wonderful review: Decoding the three abilities of the relationship between husband and wife
The two teachers interpreted and shared three abilities and theoretical explorations to decode the relationship between husband and wife from different perspectives. Respect, happiness and responsiveness, the corresponding intentional methods, practices and methods; from the original fixed structure of each person, to the core transformation theory after deconstruction to construction, it points out the direction for everyone to decode the relationship between husband and wife and the happy family. Teacher Xu Yan combined the sense of the moment, through real cases and interactive responses, let the partners present straighten out and open up the trouble points from knowing to doing, and feel the understanding and group interaction and mutual assistance with their hearts.
04 Blockbuster Session: One-on-One CoachIng Dialogue and Reflection
In the salon's fixed feature "one-on-one" psychological coaching dialogue, the topic of this dialogue's valuable clients was how to increase the intimacy between husband and wife. In the course of the 50-minute dialogue, Teacher Xu Yan was completely with the customer with the state of cooperation, warm seeing, gentle and firm accompaniment and listening, and spaced inspiration and guidance, so that the customer could see their own transformation little by little to bring about the peace of the family, see the great results of their own learning, and also constantly reflect on the relationship between husband and wife, parent-child relationship, and generate a lot of new thinking. In the sharing perspective of the observer, we further looked inward and saw the importance of self-care, self-permission, and self-acceptance. The precious tears shed by customers are a kind of trust and strength, a new beginning in realizing and learning how to love themselves better.
Teacher Xu Yan's wonderful dialogue not only nourished the valuable customers, but also made the partners present benefit. Two observers said: come with their own problems, listen to their own knots have also opened, have a new thinking about the solution of their own problems; the other said that all things have two sides, most people are more concerned about the unfavorable side, the teacher's guidance and dialogue, let us see more of those favorable sides.
05 On-site feedback: I am still not finished, looking forward to the next salon
The partners present have been listening intently to the dialogue, and finally they have shared their thoughts and gains.
A father accurately grasped the characteristics of the psychological coach's dialogue: not to give advice to the answer, but through positive guidance, so that the customer's perception of the family and the husband is more and more positive.
One partner shared what she found: the client began to take a pessimistic attitude, and the tears that flowed at the end of the conversation gave her a strength to care for herself.
Some partners also said that they saw a lot from this dialogue: they saw that the husband and wife relationship is the core of the family relationship, and the harmony of the husband and wife relationship will empower the child to feel safe; they saw the power of guidance in the mental coach dialogue, which can awaken awareness and make people self-sufficient; the mental coach's skill is very strong, although only one dialogue is done, the observer's problem is also solved at the same time.
A mother who has participated in the psychological coach salon many times once again expressed her gains, through learning to let go of a lot, she is no longer willful, and wants to bring a peaceful atmosphere to the family, so she is willing to change.
The seniors of the professional class also shared from their own perspectives how to learn to improve and apply what they have learned, while at the same time bringing about changes and positive impacts on their husband-wife relationship and family relationship.
This salon has content, methods and mental methods, as well as touching practical dialogues, so that the partners are still unfinished! Each of us has our own relationship troubles, but also have their own different real issues, through a salon to let each have different discoveries and gains, this affirmation and worthy of everyone to speak and express, and look forward to the next salon to carry out.
Preview: The next salon is the "Relationship with Yourself" special session - "Self-Improvement, Starting from Improving The Relationship with Yourself" Time: January 11, 2022 13:30-15:30, please pay attention to the organizer, Drem Psychological Salon series.
Editor: Sujuan Wang
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