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What does a good marriage look like? Many people will say: It is more or less the same material and spiritual satisfaction.
Indeed, in this world, there is no shortage of platonic love, but the marriage that really enters real life is often inseparable from material, and chai rice oil and salt is the norm of life.
If the "love" between Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin is a pure spiritual pursuit and a mutual attraction between a talented woman and a talented son, then the marriage between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman is that Xu Zhimo cannot "empathize" to Lu Xiaoman because of love.
The two also came together with pure spiritualism. However, pure spiritual love alone is often not enough to support a lifetime.
For Xu Zhimo, this marriage is no more than that.
01 The combination of poets and socialites, marriage is destined to be "extraordinary"
In October 1926, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman married, and then left Beijing to go south according to his father's orders. At that time, Xu Zhimo did not formally resign from his position as editor-in-chief of the Morning News Supplement, but found a friend to replace him.
A few days later, the Morning Post Supplement published a notice:
When I went back to my hometown on leave, the editor of the morning deputy asked Qu Junong to serve from this month...
However, in this life, he never came back.
Lu Xiaoman is a famous lady in Beijing who spends money, she has always been used to pampering herself, who once knew to be frugal.
After marrying Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman's extravagant living habits are still difficult to change, and he is extremely particular about materials, which makes Xu Zhimo distressed.
Originally, the two were "second marriages", and the marriage of the two people itself encountered a lot of criticism. Economically, Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru, once said that if the two get married, all living expenses after Xu Zhimo's marriage will be borne by himself, and he will no longer receive help.
At that time, in order to hold a luxurious wedding with scenery, Xu Zhimo had already spent a lot of money. After the two got married, Lu Xiaoman's living expenses were large.
Lu Xiaoman is known for his love of socializing and entertainment, and often shuttles through various entertainment venues.
On weekdays, she often slept until sunset and did not get up until the west mountain, and when night fell and people returned home, it was the beginning of her nightlife.
She often wanders between cabaret theaters, casinos, and nightclubs. All kinds of luxurious places are places where she often patronizes for recreation. At her side, there were also drivers and servants waiting, although the number was small, but it was also far out of reach of ordinary families.
Such a luxurious life, so that this himself is also accustomed to all kinds of big scenes, in and out of the celebrity club, Xu Zhimo, feels "unbelievable" and difficult to understand.
02 The wife's material life is luxurious, and the husband pays for the love photo
After the two married, they settled in Shanghai. At that time, the house where the two lived in Shanghai also had a large amount of rent expenses every month, plus the wages of other servants, and Xu Zhimo's small salary was no longer enough to support the huge family expenses.
How luxurious is the house you live in?
Initially, when the two first arrived in Shanghai, they lived in a 3-story bungalow in a lane on Huanlong Road.
Later, he moved to an old-fashioned Shikumen bungalow in Shanghai, and the spaciousness and luxury of the house were naturally unmatched by ordinary people.
The bungalow has a total of three floors, the middle of the first floor is a guest hall room, the two sides of the box room is the bedroom; the second floor in addition to the box room bedroom, there is a smoking room for Lu Xiaoman to smoke, the middle of the reception room, also equipped with cigarettes for guests to smoke opium; the third floor is Xu Zhimo's study. The whole house can be described as palatial.
There are also drivers and old servants in the house, adding up to a dozen servants, although it is not much, but it is also a big expense.
In addition, he often brings his family and friends in and out of various cocktail parties, and eats and wears the best.
Go shopping in the mall on weekdays, buy what you like, and never consider whether the price is expensive. Because of the purchase of too much, the clerk and Lu Xiaoman are familiar with each other, and when they see a gold lord like Lu Xiaoman coming, they greet them with a smile and accompany them, and the woman who spends money never blinks.
During the New Year's Festival, Lu Xiaoman often booked seats for various theaters and other entertainment venues.
The high expenditure made Xu Zhimo miserable. In order to save money, Xu Zhimo was reluctant to buy clothes for himself on weekdays, and his clothes were worn to the point of holes, and he still wore them as always. When the students saw it, they were all moved by it.
In order to earn money, in order to provide for his wife to sing, dance, and smoke a lot, Xu Zhimo had to work hard and work continuously, lecturing in the three major colleges and universities at the same time, and writing articles to catch up with the manuscript in his spare time to earn the manuscript fee.
Even so, it was not enough to pay for Lu Xiaoman's extravagant living expenses. In the end, Xu Zhimo fell to the point of asking friends everywhere to borrow money and tear down the eastern wall to make up for the western wall, for which Xu Zhimo was heavily indebted and heavily indebted.
03 The hardships of life, the loneliness and frustration in the love field
Hu Shi, a witness to their marriage, was deeply disturbed by this and advised Xu Zhimo to change his environment and let him quit his work in Shanghai and Nanjing and go to Peking University to teach. However, Lu Xiaoman was not willing to leave the Ten Mile Ocean Field, which made her intoxicated.
She can sing and dance, beautiful as a flower, like a popular "star" in the "Ten Mile Ocean Field" on the beach, her reputation spreads throughout the Shanghai social circle, she is a "big star" in the eyes of everyone, she enjoys such a luxurious life.
After fruitless discussions with his wife, Xu Zhimo had no choice but to sigh and leave Shanghai alone, to Beiping, and to live in Hu Shi's home.
In order to earn money for his wife's consumption and squandering, Xu Zhimo decided to continue to teach part-time.
At that time, although the work was stressful and his body was exhausted, Xu Zhimo never forgot to write a letter to Lu Xiaoman, who was far away in Shanghai.
However, at that time, Lu Xiaoman was addicted to the world of paper drunk fans, and even if she had paid attention to her husband's letters, she was too lazy to reply.
At that time, he finally understood how Lu Xiaoman, a well-known social flower in the capital, was a woman who could not be controlled by ordinary men.
The hardships of life, the loneliness and frustration in the love field, made Xu Zhimo think of Lin Huiyin, the woman who fascinated him and loved him the most.
She is not only outstanding, gentle and elegant, tender as water, but also versatile, and can write poetry and painting, and she is even more proficient in foreign languages. She is a goddess in the eyes of almost all men, for her, he not only wrote many love poems, but even divorced Zhang Youyi.
If it were not for Lin Hui's opposition from her two aunts, she would have finally married Liang Sicheng, The Son of Liang Qichao, or perhaps she would have married him.
He thought to himself: How is her life now?
The next day, he went to Liang Sicheng's house and saw the woman who had once made his heart miss. Seeing her appearance, he was a little surprised: how did she get so thin?
It was learned from others that she was sick, needed to recuperate, and needed to stop all work within half a year, isolated from her children and husband.
He wept silently, but he couldn't do anything about it, because there was no name and no point.
Lu Xiaoman has always been worried about Lin Huiyin, she is not willing to return to Beiping, and she also thinks of the woman who made her feel a lot of pain when she thinks of it, Lin Huiyin.
Of course, if Lu Xiaoman is pregnant with Lin Huiyin, then Xu Zhimo also has the object of the conception, that is, Weng Ruiwu.
Lu Xiaoman's body is as weak and sickly as Lin Daiyu, and after marrying Xu Zhimo, his body has been up and down. In order to treat his wife, Xu Zhimo desperately tried to make money, not only feeling physically tired, but also mentally depressed, because of Weng Ruiwu's "intervention".
Weng Ruiwu is good at massage, often giving Lu Xiaoman a massage, this time and two, they became acquainted and became intimate. The outside world often spread various rumors about Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu.
In his later years, Weng Ruiwu and Lu Xiaoman
Xu Zhimo is very sad, he not only has to make money to squander lu Xiaoman, but also often watch Lu Xiaoman's ticket plays, accompany her to watch the play, and even listen to Lu Xiaoman's advice, make up a role for her, and accompany her to perform on stage. What's more, it is necessary to accept all kinds of criticisms of the wife being judged by others.
Xu Zhimo sometimes hugged Xiao Man at night and said, "We have all been married for so long, let's have a child!" And What Lu Xiaoman was most afraid of was hearing these words.
Xu Zhimo wanwan also did not expect that Weng Ruiwu would be introduced to his wife for treatment, originally thought that each other were friends, do not care too much, but did not expect that the two gradually changed from massage to caressing, from the initial treatment, to talk about love.
Just like this, the quarrel between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman is increasing, and the gap between the two is also getting bigger and bigger.
04 The plane crashed and the plane was destroyed
Xu Zhimo felt very painful, and he repeatedly tolerated his wife, and in the end, he still had an unpleasant ending.
The love of husband and wife, the love of parents, and the friendship of friends are all vividly remembered, but they are also grief-stricken. At first, he disregarded worldly public opinion and devoted himself to the dream of love that he thought was ideal and beautiful, but in the end he did not realize anything, and when he woke up, he was discouraged.
Before 17 March 1931, he returned to Shanghai from Beiping, and that time Lu Xiaoman was a little more tender than in the past, and his heart was much better. He wants his wife to have a child:
"Are we going to have one too?" If you are willing to sacrifice some for your children and try to quit smoking, the economy will definitely turn better. Or wait until the child grows older before you smoke, so that you have a child again, and it does not affect your smoking. ”
On the evening of 17 November 1931, Xu Zhimo packed up his luggage again and prepared to return to Beiping, and Lu Xiaoman advised him not to take a plane. He hugged and comforted her, saying, "I'll try to be careful, just this time, and I won't sit down later." ”
On the 19th, Xu Zhimo called Liang Sicheng's home and told him that the plane was flying back to Beiping from Nanjing and asked him to send a car to the airport at 3 p.m. to pick him up. And sent a telegram to Lin Huiyin, the content was: "Huiyin, at three o'clock at noon Nanyuan Airport Shima."
On that day, when the plane took off from Nanjing, the sun rose in the east, but after 10:30, the weather suddenly changed and suddenly became foggy. Suddenly, there was a loud "boom", and the plane hit the mountainside, and then a large fireball rolled down the mountain.
Since then, a talented poet has since passed away.
When Lu Xiaoman learned that her husband had died in distress, he was so stiff that he could not speak.
At Xu Zhimo's funeral, the three women closest to him all gave him a tie.
Lu Xiaoman wrote:
"How many past dust has become a nightmare, five years of mourning, hurrying and eternal tips, the heavenly path of revival, and the desire to die has not been due to mother and old age." Don't hate who to say, a sad illness, a faint soul, the human world should not be long, the posthumous editor will answer the king's heart. ”
In the following half of his life, Lu Xiaoman washed away the lead, no longer set foot in the social circle, and concentrated on sorting out and publishing the posthumous works of his deceased husband.
Xu Zhimo's ex-wife Zhang Youyi, after her death, had someone ghostwrite a pair of elegies for her, which read:
"Thousands of miles flew fast, and the clouds were lost." As soon as the crane turned, I took pity on the weak and went to summon the soul. ”
In addition, he also sent his father to his death, and even funded Lu Xiaoman for a long time.
And Lin Huiyin also wrote down the bang link for him, and the bang link only has a signature, no content, quite "a thousand words, everything is in the word" meaning.
Resources:
"Gestapo Lovers Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman"
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