The Psychology of Marriage: Strength and marriage are so opposed

Author: Liu Yingya

Strength and relationship are opposites. Strength and marriage are opposites.

But in fact, some strong people are weak, they are vulnerable. Because he is afraid that he will be wronged, he will often have a defensive spirit, confrontationality, and so on, which is often possessed by this type of classmate. Therefore, this kind of classmate will be more difficult in the relationship.

However, there are some types of strength that are proper devourers, real strengths. That's the habitual manipulator. People who manipulate patterns.

Aggressive, manipulative. It is a complete disregard, disregard, and suppression of the existence of another life.

He can manipulate forcefully and force you into the norm. Or hard no, to "soft", let you go with the flow, into the ta's manipulation circle. In fact, it is you who are very good at it in his eyes.

One of the most unfortunate relationships is with this type of person. Don't talk about love, even the minimum of true respect is actually not.

If you meet such manipulators in society, you will definitely go around gracefully or handsomely. There is no need to make a fuss.

But if you meet such a person in an intimate relationship. It can only be said that it is to seek self-blessing.

The most essential meaning of intimate relationships is to preserve each other's lives. Nourish each other's lives with high-quality love and warmth. Being strong and manipulative is about devouring another person's life; inside is a cold core. Intimacy becomes the white glove of life of the powerful, manipulator.

In such a relationship, depression is inevitable, because your vitality will become weaker and weaker; you will be prone to anxiety, irritability, self-inability, and even self-disintegration; without support, you are just a pawn. You are a consumer product. You have no love to gain. You can even be a victim. Slowly, the soul dissipates.

Strength has nothing to do with love. Being strong and manipulative is not only irrelevant to love, but also aggressive, devouring, and shabby.

May you be treated with tenderness with a good heart. May you, who have a good heart, also be able to see strongly.

I am Liu Yingya, a psychological consultant, who uses psychology to analyze love, marriage, family life, and make intimate relationships a classroom for self-growth.

Liu Yingya: Master of Psychology, National Second-level Psychological Counselor. A researcher of marital and emotional family, a researcher of body, mind and soul growth.

More than ten years of psychological work, focusing on family marriage and love feelings, personal body, mind and soul growth.