With the progress of the times, people's minds have become more and more open, and more and more people have chosen Dink. But some people's Dink road is not going well, or even choose to give up halfway.
Among the people who choose to give up, some only insist on it for a few years, and some insist on it for twenty or thirty years before choosing to give up, which is more or less a bit of a lament.
01 Dink Thirty years, 60-year-old aunt decided to test tube, the ending is not satisfactory
There was a relative who had never had children all along, and the reason why she had not had children was because she and her husband were thirty years old when they married, and at that time, both of them felt that they were older anyway, and it didn't matter if they didn't have children, the pressure of the province was too great.
The two of them had been like this for thirty years, originally entering the twilight age, and should have thought about how to spend their old age, but some time ago, when they saw a 60-year-old aunt give birth to a child smoothly, they suddenly had the idea of having a child, and this idea became more and more persistent, and her husband was also thought by her.
So the two of them decided to go to the test tube, and while there was no menopause, it was okay to try it. After the examination, the doctor said that her physical condition was in line, which strengthened her idea of having a child.
But what she didn't expect was that the test tube was not so easy to succeed, she did the test tube three times to succeed, and also experienced a long and very torturous pregnancy, and finally almost difficult to give birth to the child.
I thought that after the birth of the child, the whole family could live a good life, and the couple also had good hopes, but the real life was not as satisfactory as they imagined, it can be said that it is a chicken feather.
Especially after the child went to junior high school, the relative's body was originally born at a very high age, resulting in many sequelae, and with more than ten years of fatigue to take care of the child, the body became worse. And the child grows up to become very rebellious, the couple is difficult to communicate, the whole family is full of quarrels, the child is not growing, all day in school, from time to time to make some big movements.
Relatives sometimes complain to everyone that if they knew that this would be the case, they would not choose to risk having children, as if it did not make any sense, and they would suffer in their later years. When he and his husband were gone, the children didn't know what to do, and everything seemed to be a problem.
02 Late childhood is not as easy as imagined
Most people see the ultra-high age childbirth on the news, only see the good side, and then summarize the idea that they can do it, in fact, this is wrong, because the cost and risk behind the ultra-high age delivery are too high, and far exceed the imagination of the parties.
First of all, in terms of physical aspects, advanced childbirth has risks, not to mention ultra-high age, the risk can be described as multiplying upwards, but many ultra-old women do not think so. It wasn't until I gave birth to my child later that I found myself sick.
Let's talk about the child's parenting problem, eating, wearing, living and traveling every expense is not small, if there is no full family foundation, want to give birth at an advanced age, while ensuring their own pension problems, it is not recommended to hastily give birth. Coupled with the fact that today's children are paying attention to intensive breeding, especially in the later stage of training, it is even more expensive to spend a lot of money, whether you can afford these problems, do not underestimate these costs, the accumulation may surprise you.
Finally, there are still some people who do not consider the growth of their children, now many young parents and children can not do communication, not to mention the elderly parents, and the generation gap between the children is much worse, parents are slowly getting older, and children are slowly growing up, the things of the new era are difficult for parents to understand, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions with children. Especially after the child enters the rebellious period, if the child is not disciplined well, the child may even embark on the road of breaking the law and committing crimes, which is a great harm to parents and children.
Therefore, if you really want to give birth at a very high age, you must consider all aspects of the factors and finally make a decision, rather than because of a whim, the result of this is often the opposite of what you want. Especially in the early stage, holding all kinds of beautiful fantasies, as a result, after the birth of the child, it was found that there were so many trivial things in the original, and the gap between the early fantasy and the later reality was too large, which naturally made people more vulnerable.
In addition, the Dink couple need to pay more attention to the fact that if there is really a plan to have children, it is best to complete it before the age of 45, and it is not recommended after the age of 45, on the one hand, it has exceeded the medically recognized risk value, on the other hand, the pressure to bear after the birth of the child will also double.
Of course, if the idea of wanting to have children is very persistent, and you have the confidence to deal with all the problems after the birth of the child, and you can also ensure that you can educate the child well later, then there is no problem. Having children after being well prepared will also have a good ending.