The first thing to say is, don't make the blind date too complicated, not negotiation or buying and selling, just provide you with a platform to get to know a person who may not usually have the opportunity to recognize. Nor is it through blind dates that you will avoid the process of falling in love and go straight to marriage.
If you don't feel for each other, this is a normal thing, don't be in a hurry to be discouraged and deny your own charm, just be a new person.
In the case of mutual affection, in fact, it is no different from free love, but the way, environment, and situation of two people know each other are different.
I like Miyazaki's words:
"If you like a person, then you take two more steps toward him, and if he sees you coming and has no intention of greeting him, then you stop."
If you like it, you will be brave to pursue, and if you don't pursue it, you will be blessed, after all, feelings are barely coming. Don't say how much you love at the beginning, or exaggerate to the extent of death and life, it is easy to scare away the other party, but it is better to admit generously and frankly that it is indeed a good feeling.
There is no emotional basis, but it seems false, and when you really start a relationship, when the love reaches a certain depth, you don't say it, and the other party can also feel it.
In the case that the other party does not like you, do not have stalking behavior, such as: I really like you, you don't like me, and beg the other party to change.
Can understand these truths, see through the nature of blind dates, may be able to better grasp the rhythm of blind dates. So what do women value most during a blind date? Tell you their true psychology.
1. Feeling.
No matter what kind of mentality and purpose of blind date, even if you don't want to consume yourself, hoping to find a similar person to marry, but in the depths of a woman's heart, there is still a fantasy of romantic love, and will unconsciously bring the fantasy of the deep inside into reality.
Lustful, animal instincts are like this, if you look at it without feeling, even if the conditions are good, the result of always forcing yourself to have true emotions is that you lack the curiosity, enthusiasm and positivity to understand your inner curiosity.
After all, which girl does not want her life partner to be tall, handsome, and sunny.
Therefore, when going on a blind date, boys must take good care of themselves, even if they are not handsome, they must clean themselves up and dress appropriately, and avoid those bells and whistles and unsympathetic outfits.
As the saying goes, no one can discover your beautiful mind through your sloppy exterior. This is true of both men and women.
2. Conditions.
The purpose of everyone's blind date is often to get married, and you have just met, there is no emotional basis, in this case, a person does not consider their own interests, that is called strange, even if it is only possible to have future interests. So you have to have the right attitude.
Don't hear the other party ask for conditions, just send a "gold worship" hat immediately, to some extent, this is also a manifestation of your inferiority.
Even if your conditions are disliked by the other party, there is no need to be upset and angry, you are you, what the other party thinks, what needs, does not affect you to be yourself.
And even if the other party is a person who loves vanity, as long as you avoid it, don't let her affect you, why try to change her? You are not a savior, you can't save anyone, you can only live your own life.
On the other hand, who wants to live a turbulent and displaced life after marriage, or who does not want to help the poor, hopes that their marriage is a strong alliance and a door to door. If you want the other party to have the values that you struggle with, this can only be cultivated by feelings, not required.
3. Family.
It is also very normal to understand some basic family situations, after all, falling in love is a matter for two people, and getting married is a matter for two families. If the family situation is complicated, it may also affect her good feelings for you, or cause her to greatly reduce her good feelings for you.
Unless, of course, you can bring her a very good feeling, then even if the family situation is more complicated, it will not be put on the point, because all the thoughts are on you.
In fact, many times, women just want to use the topic of the family to open the conversation box, men must maintain a good and generous attitude, even if your family situation is special, there is nothing, if it becomes sensitive, it can only show that you have too many missing parts of your heart.
It's you, who have never really accepted and relieved your family situation.
4. Experience.
Mainly emotional experiences, most women value, but also particularly curious, want to understand things. If your emotional experience is rich, it is inevitable that you will be given a bad hat, even if you don't say it, but you must have a lot of opinions in your heart.
In addition, I also want to deepen my understanding of you through your emotional experience, to understand what kind of person you are, what your attitude is towards feelings, and to ask you the reason for breaking up, to understand the way you deal with emotional problems.
In this matter, the man shows too affectionate, not good, too indifferent, not good, to master the degree of it, so as not to think that you spend your heart, or there is still a person hidden in the heart.
In this matter, those who wantonly criticize and accuse the predecessor are often unreliable and self-righteous people, who can't see their own problems, and they can't see the parts of themselves that need to grow and change.
To tell the truth, when going on a blind date, two people can only be regarded as a simple acquaintance, and what they can see is only some superficial things, and only in the process of deep-level getting along can they slowly understand each other's innermost and deepest content.
It is not realistic to say anything from the beginning to look at the three views and take responsibility, unless a person has a good sense of observation and judges from the details, but it is also very subjective and too easy to be affected by "feeling".
For example, if you have a special affection for a person, then even if he exposes many shortcomings, he will be hidden and reduced, hiding behind the aura of good feelings. But when you don't have a good feeling for a person, some behavior that makes you resentful will immediately be magnified to the extreme, affecting your perception of him.
Therefore, the feeling is still very important, as for the later results, it depends on you getting along, and the final result is the result of getting along.
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