Parents' emotional stability is the best new education for their children!

In family education, parents' emotional stability is the best new education for their children. Sometimes, this can bring happiness and security to children more than parents loving each other.

It is not difficult to find that parents have good emotional management skills. Children can not only get enough security, but also have a more stable and peaceful mood. In children who are emotionally peaceful, we will see more smiles, politeness, upbringing, and better self-control. And if those parents yell and lose control of their emotions at every turn, children are always more likely to go to extremes, unable to control their emotions and tempers, and more difficult to have a good psychological quality. That is to say, in the process of educating children, parents should first pay attention to the management of emotions, only to achieve emotional stability, can be self-control, in order to educate children who know self-control and are good at self-management.

Jingdan in the fifth grade has a very good academic performance and actively participates in extracurricular activities in the school. However, after she became obsessed with the game, it completely changed into a different look. In class, I was always too distracted, thinking about playing games, which led to a plummeting grade. She no longer actively participates in extracurricular activities at school, spends most of her time in games, and even her favorite go learning is wasted.

Jingdan's father was very angry when he found out, and he wanted to scold the child and ask her why she couldn't control herself and let herself indulge in the game. But Dad controlled his temper, because he knew that the emotionally out-of-control self could not educate the child, but made the child more likely to be affected by the parents' emotions, making the problem that was not serious itself become a real problem. What's more, parents can't restrain their temper, and what qualifications do they have to let their children better control themselves?

Thinking about this, Jingdan's father decided to use a rational method to help the child overcome the addiction to play and cultivate the child's self-control ability. Dad found Jingdan and said softly to her, "Dear daughter, I want to talk to you about a problem. You've recently become addicted to games and wasted your studies, which is very detrimental to your learning and growth. I know you don't want to get addicted to games and you want to study hard, but you can't control yourself, can you?" Listening to his father's words, Jingdan immediately said, "Daddy, you are right! My heart is also contradictory and painful, but I just can't control myself very well. During class, I unconsciously think about games; When school is out, I will unconsciously pick up my phone to play games. Even with my phone in the cupboard, I couldn't get my homework done seriously! Dad, can you help me?" Dad smiled and said, "Actually, there is no special method, only your own endurance and control." When you want to play the game, see if you are obedient to your heart, or insist on calming down for a while, continue to complete the homework, when you are distracted in class, see if you continue to think about playing the game, or remind yourself to pull your attention back to the class? It all depends on whether you have strong self-control. Looking at Jingdan a little embarrassed, Dad continued, "You know what? Usually, mom and dad also have bad moods, especially when you make mistakes, and we are also very angry. But because Mom and Dad can control their temper, they don't lose their temper with you without moving. Then, Dad added, "Knowing that you are addicted to playing games, do you know how angry I am?" I wanted to reprimand you hard, but I kept myself under control. Dad can do it, and I'm sure you can do it too!" Jingdan thought for a moment and said, "Dad, you believe me, I will definitely be able to do it." I'm not going to play games anymore from tomorrow, and you're going to supervise me, okay?" Dad said happily, "Of course you can!"

In order to help the child improve her self-control ability and quit the game addiction, dad also helped her formulate the rules of self-control and self-management: arrange the study and life time, so that learning and life become more regular; Lock your phone and computer to avoid getting caught up in it; Control your bad emotions and avoid losing your temper at every turn; Control negative mentality and face learning and life positively and optimistically. Half a year later, Jingdan completely quit the game addiction and became a child who was good at self-control and management. As a result, her academic performance has been greatly improved, and she has become more and more excellent in all aspects.

It is conceivable that if Jingdan's father is not an emotionally stable and self-controlling parent, knowing that the child is addicted to games, he will impatiently reprimand the child, and even angrily scold, then Jingdan must be another look. More importantly, Jingdan is likely to become a person like his father, unable to control his emotions and unable to control himself. It is undeniable that for children who are still growing and developing, poor self-control and emotional instability are normal phenomena. However, the education and influence of parents is also crucial. If the parent is a person who is prone to emotional loss of control, then no matter how you teach your child to learn to control himself, how to teach his child to improve self-control, it is pale and powerless. In the child's heart, they will say something like, "Why do you always lose your temper and ask me not to lose my temper?"

We must learn emotional management and be emotionally stable and peaceful parents, so that children will naturally find it difficult to get out of control and have better self-control.