Seeing such a problem before, should the child be taught to fight back when he is beaten?
I feel like it's going to be far from my world.
So I have a son and a daughter myself, and from a young age, I taught them to be humble and courteous in speech and work, and to be kind to children when going out to play.
Therefore, the two children will not take the initiative to fight back, and even if they are beaten by others, they do not know how to fight back.
Maybe the boss is because of the boy, so he was not bullied by the boy when he was a child.
The second is the daughter, the first time he was bullied was playing in the city playground, and was slapped by a boy younger than him.
The little boy's parents immediately went up to stop it, and the way to stop it was to hit the child's hand hard.
But the little boy who was more than 2 years old was not afraid of being beaten, and he did not hum when he was beaten by his parents.
Although I was sad for my daughter, I couldn't say anything more, so my father carried her to the other side to play.
I thought that such a situation might be a minority, but I only comforted my daughter, and I didn't think much about it.
The second time is today, at the playground near the home, monday because only my daughter and another little boy are there.
At first, they played well together, and when they got to the big building block house, the little boy saw my daughter throw the blocks scattered outside the building block room.
He also came to be interested, to squeeze over to play, found that he could not squeeze in, so he dragged and pushed my daughter, and her daughter was immediately frightened by him and cried.
The little boy's mother came over and said that she couldn't bully the little friend and went to the side, and I could only tell my daughter to play separately with him.
After 10 minutes or so, while they were playing with the slide, my daughter was lying down and the little boy was going to lie down.
But he felt that the position was not enough to lie down, dragged my daughter for a while, and immediately lay on my daughter and grabbed her face.
I scolded, the little boy's mother came over and said symbolically, "You can't bully the children, otherwise we will leave, apologize."
Then I continued to play with the phone, and this time I said loudly that the bully's children would not have anyone to play with him.
And deliberately said out loud to my daughter, "You don't just stay away from that rude little friend, he comes over and you walk away and play somewhere else." "
This process makes it difficult for me to imagine what kind of education parents have at home before they come out and drag and push and scratch other children.
For more than 10 minutes, my daughter was "bullied" by the same little boy twice, which made me angry and annoyed.
Angry, my child's courtesy was exchanged for being bullied, and the annoyance was that I had never taught my children that they should be bullied back when faced with bullying.
Usually at home for her daughter, in terms of her father's words to describe, her mother is not even willing to say a word of heavy words, let alone beat her.
Because I have always believed that parents are good teachers for children, I do not have to scold education, nor have I demonstrated how to fight in front of children.
Before that, I was satisfied with my own education, because my two children never bullied others, respected the elderly, and were friendly to children.
But these times when my daughter was beaten by other little boys, in addition to crying but did not know how to fight back, I began to reflect.
It turned out that this kind of education of mine was a failure, and as a girl's mother, I should not have taught her to know politeness all the time.
Instead, she should be taught how to fight, tell her not to cause trouble, but don't be afraid of things, and the child who encounters bullying her should fight back fiercely.
I believe that there are still the majority of people in this world, although kind.
But parents with girls should teach their daughters as soon as possible how to pick up a wu device to protect themselves from being bullied in the face of those few who are not kind.
This is the profession of being a parent of girls, and it is also a basic instinct that girls should learn to be able to survive independently in society in the future.
Before I saw a mother in the mom group teach a girl how to fight back against the people who bullied her, I also felt that this mother was too sensitive, where there are so many rude children.
But now I regret it, regret not being a sensitive mother, teaching my daughter such skills early, so that when she is bullied by other children, she will only look for her mother for help.
Today's incident deeply hurt my heart, and I don't want girls to know how to fight back when they are bullied again.
If your family has a daughter like me, while teaching her to be polite, you must also teach her early how to fight and how to fight back when bullied.
The older ones must send them to learn martial arts-related skills, not let them learn to bully others.
Just to be bullied by others, when there is no one to protect her, you can also protect yourself with your own skills.
May every girl have the ability to protect herself.