Some people have compared Lin Huiyin and Zhang Ailing, and they can't help but wonder: Why is the marriage of Zhang Ailing, who is much more talented than Lin Huiyin, a failure, while Lin Huiyin's married life is so enviable?
When it comes to Lin Huiyin's marriage, it is necessary to talk about Xu Zhimo.
Lin Huiyin was born in 1904 in a family of official eunuchs, and has been reading poetry since childhood, and his education is also excellent. In 1921, the 17-year-old Lin Huiyin followed his father to England, met Xu Zhimo, the two talked about love, Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi's marriage relationship at that time was not dissolved, and it was enough slag to put it now, a slag was still married to Zhang Youyi in a family that did not love people, and the second slag cheated in marriage.
When Xu Zhimo was fascinated by Lin Huiyin, his wife Zhang Youyi traveled thousands of miles to find him.
Zhang Youyi told him that she already had his flesh and bones.
He actually said: Go and knock it off.
Zhang Youyi said: I heard that some people died because of beating the fetus.
At this time, Xu Zhimo said a sentence of "'quite philosophical'": There are still people who die by train, don't you see people not taking the train?
Perhaps it was such a thing that made Lin Huiyin see through Xu Zhimo- a man who only loved himself and was not worthy of women's dependence.
Lin Huiyin is a talented woman, of course, she will also fall in love with Xu Zhimo's "handsome talent", love his handsomeness, love his romanticism, love his poetry.
But she would never put that first. So what will she put first?
To answer this question, we must talk about another man, that is, Liang Sicheng, who has been with her all her life.
In today's parlance, Lin Huiyin is definitely a woman who combines talent and beauty, and there is no shortage of enthusiastic suitors, of which Jin Yuelin has never married for her life.
But why did Lin Hui choose Liang Sicheng, a "non-liberal arts student" selected for her by her parents? This is not unrelated to Lin Huiyin's insight into men.
Lin Huiyin has a talent in architectural design, but when she first worked with Liang Sicheng, she painted and painted and did something else, at this time, Liang Sicheng would finish painting for her without a word.
It was from this trivial matter that Lin Huiyin, a "little woman", glimpsed the temperament and nostalgia of Liang Sicheng, a "big man".
During the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, Liang Sicheng stuck to the poor Li Zhuang, and Lin Hui followed him closely because he was not afraid of hardships.
At that time, Liang Sicheng's spinal disease made him have to wear an iron vest to sit up straight, and his weight dropped from 70 kg to 47 kg.
But in this case, he actually worked hard.
At this time, Lin Huiyin, whose body was also not satisfactory, was worried about Liang Sicheng's body, and he kept coughing up blood.
In the case of unsuccessful persuasion of Liang Sicheng, she also devoted herself to writing with Liang Sicheng.
Even in Lizhuang, where food is scarce, there is no electricity, and bed bugs are rampant, the two have to work until late at night almost every day.
By the time of the victory of the War of Resistance, they had written an 110,000-word History of Chinese Architecture.
It was during this period that foreign friends invited them to the United States, but Liang Sicheng refused.
He said: "China is suffering and suffering with its own motherland. ”
If such a thing has made everyone have great respect for Liang Sicheng, then there is another thing that makes people's souls even more shaken.
In 1944, the United States asked China to provide them with a list of cultural relics and maps in The Japanese-occupied areas of China that needed to be protected so as not to be damaged by mistake during the Allied bombing.
This task naturally fell to Liang Sicheng, then deputy director of the China Theater Cultural Relics Protection Committee.
Unexpectedly, Liang Sicheng actually took care of this matter on Japanese soil - he asked the Allies not to bomb Japan's Kyoto and Nara.
Originally, Liang Sicheng and Japan not only had a national hatred, but also a family vendetta. His younger brother Liang Sizhong and Lin Huiyin's third brother Lin Heng died at the hands of the Japanese.
But he still made such a suggestion.
He said that if I started from my feelings, I would hate to sink Japan.
But architecture is by no means the work of a single people, but the crystallization of all human civilization.
Some people say, don't think that he is pedantic, you must have another feeling in your chest, that is, noble!
Nobility to the point that the beast could not take away the love and responsibility in his chest.
From this, we also know that Lin Huiyin is pursuing a kind of man who has responsibility under the premise of benevolence.
In fact, Liang Sicheng is not only responsible for his wife, children's family, but also for the world civilization and human progress - a noble responsibility like a majestic mountain and a vast sea.
To say that the love between the two, Liang Sicheng absolutely loves Lin Huiyin more, but fortunately, Lin Huiyin has not lived up to this deep affection.
Lin Huiyin is definitely a very intelligent woman, not only seeing thoroughly, but also carrying clearly. There is a saying that goes: When the interruption continues, it will be disturbed. Lin Huiyin must have understood, so her feelings for Xu Zhimo were broken. Later, Lin Huiyin also said this to his children: "Xu Zhimo did not love the real me, but lin Huiyin he imagined with the romantic emotions of a poet, and in fact I am not that kind of person." ”
Indeed, Lin Huiyin is not such a person, although she has romantic feelings, but more rational, it seems that Lin Huiyin, who has no fireworks, is actually very strong in her heart, and it can be said that there is a man living there. Therefore, he was definitely not a little girl who did not understand in Xu Zhimo's eyes. For Lin Huiyin, love is by no means the whole of life, and she still has ideals in her heart and pursues a home country.
In short, Lin Huiyin is romantic everywhere, but in his bones he is extremely realistic and sees the world very well.
But another talented woman, Zhang Ailing, is just the opposite, saying that "fame should be early, otherwise it will be happy and unhappy", which is very realistic, but in her bones, she is a romantic prisoner.
This can also be seen in the articles of two people.
Lin Huiyin's poetry works are mostly the expression of personal emotions, the perception and exploration of life and love, and her song "You are a April Day on Earth" does not know how many people are bright!
And Zhang Ailing's works are mostly about love, tragic love, about men and women who struggle in love, and she herself "withered" in that struggle. She once said to Hu Lancheng: If I have to leave you, I will not seek short-sightedness, nor can I love others anymore, I will just wither away. ”
She was only 25 years old at the time, and since then, she really hasn't loved anyone else.
Hu Lancheng is Zhang Ailing's first love. That year, Zhang Ailing was 24 years old and was already a well-known talented woman. In 1943, Hu Lancheng accidentally saw Zhang Ailing's novel "Blockade" published by Zhang Ailing in the monthly magazine "Tiandi" sent from Shanghai, was attracted by her talent, and after inquiring, learned that the author was a woman named "Zhang Ailing", and drove to Shanghai to look for someone.
It was this search that Made Zhang Ailing indulge in her gentle township.
Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng
The "romantic" Lin Huiyin quickly saw through that Xu Zhimo was not a reliable man, but the "realistic" Zhang Ailing could not see the personality of the traitor Hu Lancheng, blindly captured by his charm, agility and fun, saying: "When I met him, I became very low and low, low to the dust." But she liked it in her heart, and flowers blossomed from the dust. ”
Such a flower is blooming, but it can only be a flower that bears a bunch of bitter and astringent bad fruit.
Hu Lan is 14 years old, rich in life experience, rich in life interest, talent can also be comparable, for Zhang Ailing, who has been a loving father since childhood, the charm of this kind of man is absolutely unstoppable.
38-year-old Hu Lancheng read countless people is absolutely familiar with the psychology of the 24-year-old girl, Zhang Ailing feels that she has met a man who knows how to appreciate herself and understand herself, she once wrote in a reply letter to Hu Lancheng: Because I understand, I am compassionate.
Soon, Hu Lancheng's wife learned about it and divorced Hu Lancheng. In this way, a year later, two romantic people signed a contract" Hu Lancheng Zhang Ailing signed a lifelong, married husband and wife, willing to make the years quiet and stable in the world." ”
After marriage, the two flowers before the willow down, to the moon chanted poems. However, the good days did not last long, and Hu Lancheng soon saw a different thought and moved away from love.
Love is gone, the vows are gone, Hu Lancheng did not give Zhang Ailing "stability" in the end.
The sad Zhang Ailing was single for more than a decade in the future, drifting away. She is such an arrogant woman, doomed to the end of the two of them forgetting each other.
To say that Hu Lancheng, put to the present is definitely a big scumbag. Rhetoric and promiscuity, marriage is like a child's play for him, and it can be easily promised.
It should not be that Zhang Ailing can't see Hu Lancheng's scum, but she is not willing to "see through". Her friend had such a memory: one day, her friend went to see her and found That Zhang Ailing was wearing a robe, very happy, and couldn't help but say that Hu Lancheng earned money to buy it for her.
Her pleasure is to let her friends know that their men can also support themselves.
Yes, Zhang Ailing also hopes that Hu Lancheng can take responsibility and become her reliable shoulder.
But the reality is cruel, and it turns out that Hu Lancheng loves only him personally - you can't expect a traitor to desperately love a little girl.
From this, we seem to be able to imagine that when Lin Huiyin met Xu Zhimo, he felt about the same as Zhang Ailing when he saw Hu Lancheng.
It can be said that it is the two people's views on mate selection that are very different, which caused the later happiness and misfortune.
There is no denying that in marriage, whether a man is reliable or not is the most fundamental cornerstone of whether a woman can have happiness. And whether a man is reliable or not can be seen from the details. Undoubtedly, Liang Sicheng, who has great feelings of family and country, is incomparable to the traitor Hu Lancheng.
Men and women in marriage, whether there is love or not, men should have a solid arm, the so-called "iron shoulder to bear morality." Only this kind of man can bear the happiness of a woman's life.
In fact, scientists say that people are the only animals that accept hints, and what kind of person you are with will make you what you look like.
There are three kinds of people in your life who will constantly give you hints and influence you with behavior, they are teachers, friends, and partners, mentors and friends can have many, but partners can only be one, must be responsible for themselves, because this matter determines the height of your life.
Choosing a noble person as a partner, this question has nothing to do with men and women being the same.
So I said, I'd rather be half Lin Huiyin than a Zhang Ailing. Wronged yourself in love, wronged yourself in your career. We have to have love, and we have to have ourselves.