In the relationship, there is a strange phenomenon: obviously the other party is an irresponsible man, playing with feelings everywhere but good women continue; obviously regard feelings as the only, meet a man who wants to live a lifetime, but how can not meet.
It seems that in this society, irresponsible men never lack women, only men who take their feelings seriously.
For this reason, there are a lot of men who start playing with feelings and feel that only by doing so can they meet good women.
As everyone knows, this is wrong.
Because, not every woman, is willing to be a recycling bin for bad men.
Really good women, must be heavy feelings, must be not casual, in their world, love is very important and sacred, how can it be casual?
If a man can't meet a girl who loves himself for a while, the best way is not to indulge, but to be patient, and there will always be a girl who will come and will accompany you for a lifetime.
At any time, you must know that people who play with feelings are played with by feelings sooner or later, and when you don't take feelings seriously, you naturally can't experience true love.
01: Leave someone who doesn't love you and don't have to be sad
Love, in itself, has a lot of uncertainty, may go to the end, may only be a while, if the other party leaves, you do not have to be sad, can not because of the other party's reasons, and indulge yourself.
A person who does not love you, not your loss, but his loss, this is beyond doubt, and can not be lost because of the betrayal of the other party, become a recycling station for bad men.
In this regard, his friend Yurong has done a particularly good job.
When she learned that her boyfriend had betrayed her, she chose to be herself and waited again for someone who loved her to appear.
At that time, almost everyone thought that she could not survive, and would give up on herself in this relationship, so as to do something that she regretted.
Luckily, she didn't. She knows how to indulge her feelings, which is to punish herself for the mistakes of others.
At that time, talking about this topic, I asked her what she thought, and Yurong smiled and said:
"What else can I think, since he stepped on two boats, why should I love each other so bitterly?" While I love him, that doesn't make it a reason for him to hurt me. ”
Yu Rong thought at that time, the other party betrayed, why didn't he betray it?
Went on a date with irresponsible men and indulged herself, but after thinking about it for a long time, she still didn't take that step.
Frankly speaking, some women will do this, will indulge themselves, become a recycling station for bad men, because they are hurt, constantly change boyfriends, and slowly make themselves into bad women.
You may think that doing so is a salvation for yourself, but in fact, it is the greatest harm to yourself.
If you want to understand it one day, you will regret your original behavior.
Love is a matter of two people, and it requires the joint management of two people to maintain, only in this way can we feel the existence of happiness.
If a relationship depends on only one person, then it is doomed to be only painful.
Take the love between Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng, Zhang Ailing is giving true love, but Hu Lancheng is an irresponsible man, he not only plays with feelings, but also cheats Zhang Ailing's money.
At the beginning of the period, Zhang Ailing thought that Hu Lancheng would repent, and one day after he understood true love, he would return to his side and be single-minded about himself.
But what is the end? Hu Lancheng still lost Zhang Ailing, and he even injured Zhang Ailing to the point of no end.
In fact, in the relationship, if he does not love, you do not force it, and the person who leaves you really does not have to be sad, because it is not worth it at all.
02: In the face of each other's harm, you must be brave and do yourself
Over the years, I have seen people who have lost themselves because they have been hurt by the other party, and she is now unable to extricate herself from the cocoon she has created, and the only thing she wants to do in the face of this injury is revenge.
Since the other party will betray, then he will also betray, which on the surface seems to have not suffered a loss, but in fact he has suffered a big loss.
In fact, in the face of each other's betrayal, the only thing we have to do is to be good enough to make ourselves good enough.
Imagine that when you are excellent, why worry about not meeting a quality lover?
I've seen a plot like this:
The heroine and the male protagonist fell in love for 3 years, during this time they got along well, but no one can say anything about the feelings, and finally the male protagonist betrayed the feelings, and even the breakup was the last to let the female protagonist know.
The reason for the betrayal of the male protagonist is very simple, just a simple word of non-love.
This sentence, seemingly simple, is really too ruthless, loved for so long, without warning not to love, who believes?
Later, the female protagonist learned that the male protagonist chose to break up for the sake of career and better development.
After knowing this result, the heroine just cried a lot, and then went to work normally the next day, as if all this had never happened.
After being broken up, the heroine did not give up on herself, but made a special effort, and under this effort, she became particularly excellent and met a high-quality lover.
I have to say that the heroine is very smart, she knows what to do in the face of a person who does not love herself? Since the other party does not love her, why cling to it? In the end, it just hurts itself.
In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun was also unbelievable after he first learned of the betrayal of his ex-husband Chen Junsheng, and even felt that his sky was about to fall.
During that time, she had been living in a muddy state, and no matter who came to persuade her, she could not get out.
In fact, for a woman who becomes a full-time housewife as soon as she graduates, in the face of being betrayed and dumped by men, no one will be able to stand it.
But in the end, Luo Zijun still survived, and after surviving, although she had to start working hard from the bottom, she lived a very full life.
At this time, she really found herself and found the meaning of living.
The person who once didn't want to cherish you will eventually pay the price for the stupid decisions he made, and what you have to do is not to complain about yourself, to complain about others, but to be yourself.
Isn't that what the saying , "If you bloom, the butterflies will come from you, isn't that the case?
In the relationship, if it is hurt, smart people will never complain about themselves, they know how to deal with it, they will not let such feelings affect themselves, and they will not ruin themselves because of a wrong feeling.
In the process of falling in love, in fact, we can feel what kind of person the other person is.
If he is an irresponsible man who only knows how to play with feelings, then there is no need to be extravagant, and it is particularly important to stop the loss in time.
Don't use your own humility to keep the unworthy person, let alone be the "recycle bin" of the bad man, if you do this, your future life will be more painful.
Of course, stopping the loss in time seems simple, but it is difficult to do it, but no matter how difficult it is, you must do it, because only by doing it, you will encounter better love, and your life will also have the possibility of happiness.
Isn't it?
Finally, Xiao Bei would like to say that the love of each of us is very expensive, and it should be given to people who really understand love, not men who play with feelings.
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Su Xiaobei is a cutting-edge emotional writer and marital psychological counselor. If you have a problem and don't know how to solve it, you can ask me a question and look forward to your consultation and message.