Pierce the reality and reach the hearts of the people
There is a sister who has been worried recently, her family has cheated, and now she is willing to return to the family, but she muttered in her heart:
Is his repentant heart real?
That third person, can he really let go completely?
This question, for everyone who has experienced marital betrayal, is afraid that it is a lingering haze in their hearts.
Trust this thing, it is as fragile as porcelain, once it is broken, it is full of fragments, and you can't put it back together if you want to.
Once the seeds of doubt are planted, they grow like weeds, making people lose their way in the labyrinth of whether he still misses her.
Especially if you want to find out whether his return to the family is out of true love or weighing the gains and losses, it is comparable to ascending to the sky.
Today, let's tear open this layer of window paper and discuss whether the men who returned to the besieged city after cheating can really erase her outside of marriage from her heart?
Can their feelings for her really disappear?
Let's take a look at Lao Li's story first.
This Lao Li grew up in the shadow of his father's repeated cheating family when he was a child, and the cynicism of the people around him made him sensitive and inferior.
As an adult, he tried his best to create an image of a good man who was gentle and understanding, just to win the favor of others and regain a little dignity.
Even with his wife, he has always maintained this side.
In the eyes of outsiders, he is definitely a model husband.
However, did you know?
Under this seemingly perfect shell, he hid a stomach of bitterness and anger, but he could only swallow it silently, not daring to confide half a point.
Over time, this emotion is like a time bomb that can detonate at any time.
Coupled with his wife's outstanding ability and independence in everything, he felt more and more powerless and empty at home, and he looked for compensation outside of marriage, so Lao Li had an extramarital affair.
After the matter was revealed, Lao Li quickly made the decision to return to the family.
The reason is simple, for a middle-aged man like him with a mediocre career, family is his only safe haven.
Ask him which is more important than his feelings for his wife and a third party?
He made no secret of it:
It's too hypocritical to talk about love, I only care about my own feelings.
After returning, does he still miss her?
Lao Li's answer was quite frank:
I am also a flesh-and-blood person, and we have walked together for a while, and it would be a lie to say that there is no emotion.
But that's not love, it's taking what you need, and you know from the beginning that there will be no ending, where is the love?
He admitted frankly that at the moment of cheating, his love for his wife was gone, and at the moment when he chose to return, he had made the most practical choice with his actions.
Let's talk about Lao Zhao's experience, his derailment is a little helpless.
He and his wife went from campus to marriage, and only entered the marriage hall after seven years of love, and once became the object of envy of everyone.
However, after getting married, the wife seems to have lost her enterprising spirit, her work is perfunctory, and her spiritual world is even more lackluster, and she only has children in her eyes.
Lao Zhao struggled all the way and climbed to the top of the company in eight years.
The two drifted apart, and there was almost nothing to say except for the topic of children.
Lao Zhao has gently reminded his wife many times to improve herself and broaden her horizons, but the other party turned a deaf ear and said coquettishly:
With you supporting the family, I will take care of the children and household chores.
Lao Zhao couldn't bear it anymore and found a friend of the opposite sex who had a similar heart.
After the East Window incident, Lao Zhao felt deeply guilty and decided to return to his family.
However, during that time, he seemed to be caught in a whirlpool of broken love, immersed in melancholy love songs all day long, and it was difficult to let go of her outside of marriage.
But life has to go on after all, and in the adult world, how can there be so much time to grieve for the lost feelings?
As time goes by, the ripples in my heart will eventually subside.
In this world, who must be whom?
Everyone is just a passing guest in each other's lives.
Writer Zhang Ailing once sharply pointed out:
The love of middle-aged people is often stained with too much dust.
Indeed, the love of middle-aged people, full of measurement and calculation, is more like coexistence after negotiation, and the name of "love" sometimes seems far-fetched.
All in all, whether men and women, whether they are married or outside of marriage, whether they love or not, the most important thing is to live their true selves and cherish the people around them, which is the true meaning of life.