Introduction: "There is no mother who does not love children!" "Whenever I hear such remarks, I will nod my head and think that I am right. But this time I don't think, some mothers really don't necessarily love their children!
01, girls on the street "beat up who mother."
A mother and daughter in Changzhou, Jiangsu Province, pushed and shoved on the street, and the two people quarreled. The daughter was originally sitting in the back seat of the electric car, and suddenly frantically pushed and shoved the mother who was riding the bicycle, and roared angrily, and the whole person was covered with a cape, which looked very frightening.
Most of the onlookers around are reprimanding, thinking that the girl is so old, she does not understand filial piety, and what does it look like to push and shove with her mother? Some people also persuaded, thinking that it may be that the child's emotions have come up and unintentionally moved.
Either way, the girl didn't stop behaving and continued to push her mother, looking brutal. The mother did not say a word, looking very aggrieved.
Some onlookers said:
"Spoiled, what does it look like?"
"Iron hearted? How can you do this to your own mother? ”
"After so many years of raising, do you have no conscience?"
"Lack of education, spoiled!"
Seeing such a scene, almost no one reciprocated kindness to the girl, and everyone felt that this child should be educated! But after listening to the ins and outs of the matter, I had an urge to hug the girl, and although she did it wrong, her mother was even more wrong!
The girl is 15 years old, has always wanted a mobile phone, discussed with her mother, wanted to pay 4,000 yuan by herself, and the remaining 2,000 mothers sponsored to buy a new mobile phone that she likes.
The mother at first agreed, the girl used the holiday to work, saved enough 4,000 yuan, just when she was happy to go with her mother to buy a mobile phone, the mother repented!
Because I heard that the old mobile phone can be repaired and can still be used, why waste money to buy a new one? The girl was particularly aggrieved and angry, wasn't it something that had already been promised? Why is it said that change is change?
The next mother's behavior made the girl completely collapse, and only then did she have the performance that everyone saw above. Mom didn't want to buy her a mobile phone, and she wanted to come back to her hard-earned 4,000 yuan. The mother felt that using other people's guidance and humiliation on the streets of the downtown area should be able to achieve the goal.
The daughter is very aggrieved, and in the face of so many accusations, her emotions are out of control. She did not want to buy a mobile phone, but hoped to leave quickly, no longer hear these humiliating and accusatory remarks, and hoped that her mother would take her away quickly.
But the mother was indifferent, allowing the people around her to point at her daughter, and she kept chanting in her own mouth, and finally the girl's emotions were out of control...
Seeing this, do you still think that girl is rude? Or do you want to give the girl a warm hug and block out the gossip for her?
02, the girl is wrong, the mother is even more wrong!
Girls must be at fault, emotionally out of control, and the behavior of tearing up their mothers on the street is certainly not encouraged or advocated. But is it all wrong with her? Not necessarily!
Isn't it right that a mother promises something to her child, but goes against the grain? We say from a young age that "doing what we say" is a good quality, and we also teach our children that how to get to themselves will not work? Isn't it unbelief to promise something but not to do it? This is not only a matter for the mother personally, but also respect for the child. This mother, obviously, does not respect her child enough.
The child's affairs are actually family affairs, put in public, let everyone judge, what is going on? The child asks over and over again "can't go"? It was hoped that her mother would take her to escape from such a place, but her mother was motionless, and the girl's emotions were obviously on the verge of collapse, and she could not control herself.
So many people are scolding the girl, have you ever thought about how deeply she is hurt by her mother? Your words may be a sharp knife that has been inserted into the tip of the girl's heart! This wound, which was caused by the mother, was also promoted by everyone. Isn't it?
Maybe some people say, are you whitewashing girls? No, but as a mother, I have a deep sense of self-blame for such things. Don't talk about credit to children, the harm is really big!
Parents are the most trusted and trustworthy people for their children, but we cannot be reckless with our children without regard to their dignity and feelings. This should not be done, nor can it be!
Besides, you shouldn't hurt your child's self-esteem in public on such an occasion! Every child has self-esteem, from an early age, but what about girls who have entered puberty at the age of 15? She is in the sensitive period of adolescence, just like this, she was pointed out by everyone, how can she feel good in her heart?
Ancients Cloud: Teaching children in public, it is said to formally educate children, and also contains the meaning of apologizing for children, rather than "educating" children in public.
As an audience, I do not encourage one-sided discussion of problems, nor do I encourage taking things out of context, when facing such things, I hope that everyone can calm down, don't always think about "teaching children for others", maybe things are not what we think. As a parent, we must be cautious in words and deeds, at least, respect the child, pay attention to every commitment they make, and don't chill the child's heart!
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