When I revisited the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", I found out that among the three thousand people in the harem, zhen huan who could let the emperor spoil himself was a powerful character.
In fact, Zhen Huan in the early stage was still relatively naïve, she was full of joy that the emperor really loved herself, but until she saw the sentence "Wanwan Qing", she knew that her love and time for so many years were finally wrongly paid, and she was just a stand-in for others.
After being hurt by trusted people, Zhen Huan was no longer naïve, and she would no longer trust the emperor wholeheartedly.
On the contrary, she loves herself more, and she can disguise herself as the emperor likes for the sake of her rights, but only she knows that her feelings for the emperor have changed after the phrase "Wanwan Qing".
Therefore, when she no longer loved the emperor, the emperor had a sense of crisis, so in order to get Zhen Huan's heart, the emperor spoiled Zhen Huan in an almost "doting" way.
Many people say that the key to Zhen Huan's ability to become a champion in palace fighting is that she does not love the emperor so much, at least not to give each other 100% of her love, she still loves herself more.
So in a relationship between the sexes, an effective way to get a man to pamper you alone is to start by learning to be selfish.
The law of two eight: eight points love others, two points love yourself
01), the so-called law of two eight, refers to a thing, can play a role is the proportion of 20%, the remaining 80% of the part although the proportion is large, but the role played is minimal.
In gender relations, many women are always used to giving all their love to men when dealing with feelings, but they forget to love themselves.
They save money and use it, just to buy a pair of valuable sneakers for their boyfriends, but they have to hesitate for half a day to buy a lipstick, and finally they are reluctant to buy it.
02), pay a lot, but such a costless payment, do not consider their own pay is a stupid approach, because it will gradually make men feel that women pay is deserved, but also let women gradually in a disadvantageous position in love.
Therefore, no matter who she is with, women need to understand a truth, that is, they know how to please themselves, and even if they love someone, they must remember to keep 20% of their love to themselves.
As Bo Bonnie once said in the variety show "Strange Story" - "No doctrine is greater than your life, no value can kidnap your freedom, you are a woman, you love how to come, how you are comfortable to live." 」 ”
Women who can get happiness in love know how to "talk about money"
The old sixth in the TV series "My Children and Me" has a boyfriend who has been together for many years, but the boyfriend's economic conditions are relatively tight, and when he is about to get married, he actually put forward a request that he does not want to give a bride price, on the grounds that he and the old sixth have been together for many years, and there is no need to measure love with materials.
Later, the old sixth proposed to break up.
At that time, when I saw this scene, I still felt that the old sixth was too much, but it was not until I entered the adult world that I understood that the old sixth's approach was the embodiment of intelligence.
It is true that love does not need to be measured by materials, but life must be inseparable from materials, inseparable from money, there are too many too many loves in this world that eventually fall apart because of material, and there are too many women who are abandoned because they do not talk about money.
So, in a relationship between the sexes, we should never underestimate the importance of money, because sometimes, money is enough to test our love.
Sunk cost: The more a man gives, the more he loves
A person charged a phone bill to send a mobile phone, and then spent ten thousand yuan to buy an Apple mobile phone, so please ask, which mobile phone is this person more protective of?
The answer must be the second, because the former is free, does not cost anything, even if it is bumped, even if it is lost, it is not painful, but the latter costs itself ten thousand costs, bumping and bumping means a lot of losses.
There is a sunk cost effect in psychology, which refers to the cost that people pay when doing something, which does not change over time or cancels the decision, and cannot be recovered.
So in order to avoid losses, people usually decide to continue to invest in maintaining, and over time, it becomes a habit.
Carnegie said in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "If you want to make the friendship long-lasting, then you have to let others do a little thing for you, which will make others have a sense of presence and importance." 」 ”
Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, a woman who can make a man love only her alone must be materialistic and selfish.
They know that men's efforts are directly proportional to love, and they also know that men will only understand how to love someone if they give.
In this way, men slowly get used to giving, and slowly increase their love in the same person.