Lin Huiyin said: Love a person is not too humble, love is not wishful thinking, but two feelings of mutual pleasure. No response is the same as rejection, no hope why cling.
The middle-aged love between Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin in the TV series "Xiao Min Family" starring Huang Lei, Zhou Xun, Qin Hailu, Tu Songyan and others contains too much helplessness and complexity.
Liu Xiaomin (played by Zhou Xun) and Chen (played by Huang Lei) first met at the wedding of Chen Zhuo and his ex-wife Li Ping (played by Qin Hailu).
At that time, Liu Xiaomin was beautiful and quiet, which made Chen Zhuo remember her especially deeply.
Later, Chen Zhuo and Li Ping left their hometowns and went to Beijing to work hard. Years later, the two people met again at the hometown meeting, when Chen Zhuo took the initiative to launch a pursuit offensive against Liu Xiaomin, who was already divorced.
Why did Liu Xiaomin agree to Chen Zhuo's pursuit? It is because Chen Zhuo is a mature and stable man, they are considerate of each other, and have their own measure, they all carefully respect the boundaries of each other's lives, and dare not go beyond a step.
When you need me, you are willing to talk to me, and I am willing to listen. Although the problem cannot be resolved, it is indeed the best channel for relieving stress and releasing emotions.
If you don't ask me for help, I won't rush in. They are mature, independent, and sane middle-aged people.
It's like after Xiao Min learned of Jin Bo's debt, he didn't talk to Chen Zhuo in detail, just a sentence passed.
She thinks that Chen Zhuo should not be bothered by this, and Chen Zhuo has always cared for and loved Xiaomin, renting the house to Jin Bo for free, but she does not want Xiaomin to know that he is interfering in her affairs.
Middle-aged people in love will have a lot of concerns.
Chen Zhuo's liveliness and Xiaomin's introversion have become a good complement.
In this way, they spent the first anniversary of their love affair without incident. And the arrival of Kim Jia-joon destroyed this beautiful period. Their love begins to be doped with 3 different families.
The miscarriage of Li Ping's second child became the fuse for Liu Xiaomin to break up. If Chen Jiajia is wrong, then Li Ping also has to bear part of the responsibility, knowing that she is an elderly mother, does not care for her body, and loves to intervene in disciplining her daughter.
Chen Jiajia was ashamed of her mother Li Ping, and she chose to obediently study abroad.
At this point, Liu Xiaomin already knew what he was going to do. After Chen Jiajia went abroad, when she was still a month away from her son's college entrance examination, she took the initiative to go to Chen Zhuo's house to propose to break up.
The love of middle-aged people has lost the recklessness of their youth, and there are too many things to take care of.
At that time, Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin had a little more vigor and politeness, they had all changed, and they could not go back to the past.
Why didn't I meet you when I was younger? This is Chen Zhuo's inner true voice.
Although I am reluctant to let go, I also have to tearfully smile and break up.
The love of middle-aged people is so fragile, because there are too many things that are more important than love.
Liu Xiaomin took the initiative to break up, in fact, it is not related to children and love. Many people think that Liu Xiaomin proposed to break up in order to fulfill his sons Jin Jiajun and Jiajia.
The answer is no. Chen Zhuo also gave the best answer to this. First of all, Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo have been together for more than a year, and at that time, my son and Chen Jiajia did not know each other.
Moreover, Chen Jiajia has already gone abroad, and Liu Xiaomin does not have to break up with Chen Zhuo.
So is Liu Xiaomin because he doesn't love Chen Zhuo? Is there no love between them? No, they are still deeply in love with each other, as can be seen from the hand they are reluctant to let go of at the moment of the breakup.
Liu Xiaomin is deeply in love with Chen Zhuo, and in the year she has been with him, she is also the happiest.
So why propose a breakup?
Chen Zhuo did 2 things wrong, chilling Xiao Min's heart, which is the reason for the breakup.
First, when Li Ping learned that her daughter Chen Jiajia and Jin Jiajun were in love, she was very angry. At the behest of Hong Wei, Li Ping decided to let Jin Jiajun drop out of school.
Hong Wei was indeed the face of a capitalist. At least Liu Xiaomin is also Li Ping's hometown and Fa Xiao, is it too reckless to do so.
When Li Ping called to inform Chen Zhuo, Chen Zhuo did not stop him, but also made his position clear, and his daughter's affairs were more important than anything.
Regarding Jin Jiajun's withdrawal from school, the most pitiful one is Liu Xiaomin, who has been paying. Chen Jiajia can argue for Jin Jiajun and his mother to argue, but Chen Zhuo acquiesced. Stand on the side of his ex-wife Li Ping.
Chen Zhuo only regarded himself as his ex-husband and father, but did not regard himself as Liu Xiaomin's boyfriend.
Played the father and ex-husband, but did not play Xiao Min's boyfriend. When Li Ping asked Jin Jiajun to drop out of school, he agreed without saying a word. Knowing this, he did not greet Xiao Min, and even did not contact her for several days, so as not to disturb her.
The scene of Liu Xiaomin alone in the bathroom is painful.
It was once said that his daughter Chen Jiajia and Liu Xiaomin were equally important, and when things really happened, Chen Zhuo still chose blood.
He said that Jin Jiajun was a good boy, but in fact, he did not want to see this boy in his heart. In particular, the boy also has a father who is not responsible, Jin Bo. As a dad, he didn't want his daughter to marry into a family like this.
Second, when Li Ping was sent to the hospital, Chen Zhuo was concerned about the child in Li Ping's belly for the first time. This level of tension is comparable to that of her current husband, Hong Wei.
Chen Zhuo also scolded his daughter Chen Jiajia in front of the nurse and cried.
Here it can only be understood that Chen Zhuo is a heavy-hearted ex-husband.
At this time, shouldn't Chen Zhuo be rational and have high emotional intelligence to control the field? How did it get out of control?
Chen Zhuo was obviously a little emotional, as could be seen from his angry glance at Jin Jiajun. His heart was full of anger towards Kim Jia-joon.
When Liu Xiaomin asked Chen Zhuo where Jin Jiajun was going, please see Chen Zhuo's reaction. His answer was very bland and casual, and he himself did not have the heart to take care of Jin Jiajun, more precisely, anger.
Chen Zhuo also directly avoided Liu Xiaomin, directly turning his head to look in the direction where his daughter was walking, with his back to Liu Xiaomin.
On the balance of his daughter and his girlfriend's son, Chen Zhuo chose blood, and he was not wrong, but he hurt Xiaomin's heart.
At that moment, Liu Xiaomin understood, and looked at Chen Zhuo meaningfully. Liu Xiaomin went to find her son alone. This is where their estrangement begins. As Lin Huiyin said: If there is no response, it means rejection. Why let people say it?
After all, they are not a blood family. It turns out that family affection can defeat love.
Over the past year, they've been in love behind closed doors, with so much sweetness that nothing matters. When the world is announced, their love is subject to various resistances.
The two things that Chen Zhuo did wrong were enough to make Liu Xiaomin feel cold and sober.
Liu Xiaomin saw the contradiction hidden behind it, and Chen Zhuo's team was the beginning of the end of their love.
Both of them carried a heavy burden. It's not that I don't love anymore, but I can't love it, and I can't afford to love it.
Instead of the two people barely together, Liu Xiaomin can't get over the hurdle in his heart, but it is better to break up decisively and complete the two small children.
The love of middle-aged people mostly does not fall in love, but on love, the friendship of life, and the affection of family affection.
The love of middle-aged people is half to understand, half to let go.