Middle age is an age when talking about love too old and talking about death too early.
Therefore, there will be the helplessness of middle-aged people, the anxiety of middle-aged people, and the greasiness of middle-aged people, and it seems that people seem a little embarrassed to be middle-aged.
Once curiously asked a middle-aged woman to ask if the love she once had still existed? The other party glanced at me and replied a little surprised: Love? It's good to be alive and well.
For many people, middle age has become a responsibility and burden, life will be ok, as for love, don't think too much, have the kung fu to go home early to wash and sleep.
Because, waking up is another tomorrow, thinking that there are still many things that have not been done, love has long been left behind.
Therefore, when a drama shows the love of middle-aged people, especially the love of divorced middle-aged people, it seems precious.
There is no fierce dog blood bridge, nor the romance and passion of the bed in European and American dramas, some are the blandness of life, the small surprises of love, and of course, the various tests after facing the problems of life.
Between warmth, helplessness and entanglement, it also makes people think about life and love, especially the love of middle-aged people.
The 40-episode "Xiao Min Family" has been more than half of the episodes, and the middle-aged love story around Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin continues, from bland and romantic to slowly encountering the test of life, the love of two middle-aged people is not easy to talk about.
01
One of Yu Xiuhua's poems is very flavorful:
I've also had the heyday of desire,
There have been many nights when the body and mind are broken
But I never exiled myself
I want my body to be as clean as my heart
Despite this,
Not to meet you
When people reach middle age, as long as they do not do it in particular, after going through the test of marriage and helplessness, they can understand what love is and what they need.
In the emotion, you have understood who you are, and you will not become a moth to fight for love, only because you have your own responsibilities and concerns.
Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin in "Xiao Min Family" are such two people.
One is that after the divorce, watching the ex-wife sing all the way, the ex-wife of Wangfu is not himself, of course, Chen Zhuo is not jealous, after all, life is his own, live his own small life.
One is the little third who has experienced a tragic marriage and is misread as someone else, who fled a small city and came to Beijing to work alone, and finally has his own nest in the city.
Both have faced failed marriages, so it's not curious to come together.
However, these two families have children, so they have been in love for more than a year, but they are a bit of a rhythm of living together, and they dare not mention the marriage.
Because, this kind of getting along is the most comfortable, as for marriage, it is the impulsive action of young people.
There is an interesting scene in the play, Xiao min asked Chen Zhuo: If my mother supports me, will you marry me?
Chen Zhuo hesitated for half a day, and he couldn't answer.
Because the child is older and wants to remarry, it is also necessary to consider the acceptance of the children of both sides, so Chen Zhuo will hesitate, and when Chen Zhuo began to send gifts, Xiao Min was shocked, thinking that when he was unmarried, he also subconsciously avoided that.
These two people still have a long way to go to cultivate the so-called positive results of marriage.
Life's problems are one after another, depending on how these two people face and solve.
02
It is too difficult for middle-aged people to talk about love that can go away.
Just because there are too many responsibilities and concerns in the body, there is no way to ignore it.
When you are young, as long as you look at the eyes, no matter whether there is a gap between the two sides, or whether the future is clear, etc., it is okay to talk about love regardless of whether you are in love.
For example, in the play, Chen Jiajia and Jin Jiajun have not yet graduated from high school, and they want to fall in love on the eve of the college entrance examination, and the result is to cause a bunch of storms, which is the best portrayal of young love.
Although full of the romantic atmosphere of youth, such love is doomed to be hopeless.
From a secular point of view, the two people's family is too much related, for the outlook on life, values are actually different, but the two have not really entered the society, did not go through the hardships of society, so they can maintain a love fairy tale in the ivory tower.
Once it encounters reality, such love can only turn into a sigh.
It is a misfortune to meet the wrong person at the right time;
Meeting the right person at the wrong time is a kind of helplessness;
It is reasonable that the love of youth is full of helplessness, but although the love of middle-aged people will also have romance, they have to face all kinds of helpless situations in life.
The relationship between the characters in "Little MinJia" does not seem complicated, but there is a saying that the family has a difficult scripture, and when these sutras are entangled, it is even more difficult to read.
Liu Xiaomin has a strange ex-husband, divorced for more than ten years, because he owes a bunch of foreign debt, but he wants to remarry Liu Xiaomin.
He did not come because of the love he had missed, but for his own transfer of debt, but it was doomed to be hopeless, because Liu Xiaomin had learned who he really was after years.
Although Liu Xiaomin still has a kind heart and has always tolerated it in the face of his son, on the whole, he has not been overwhelmed by his son and has not thought of remarrying to take care of the child's emotions.
Jin Bo himself did not argue, but let Xiao Min have the courage to find a reason to kick the rubbing Jin Bo out of the house, and let his son play games in the middle of the night at his own home, such a father is useless, then directly out.
Chen Zhuo has a strong ex-wife, in the face of his daughter's education problems, the attitude of his ex-wife Li Ping represents everything, chen Zhuo can't take his ex-wife.
Even after the divorce, Chen Zhuo was helpless about his ex-wife's strength.
For example, Li Ping caught her daughter and Jin Jiajun talking about love, and called Chen Zhuo's tone that was called a strong, Chen Zhuo who received the call could only obediently obey, and did not dare to say one in big words.
Although Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin can boldly fall in love in the adult world, they have been hiding from a pair of children who want to fall in love, although the two are not wrong, but they toss out a chicken feather.
It turned out that if the children tossed and turned, the two estimated that there was not much estrangement when they talked about love, but under the toss of young love, Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo were a bit forward-looking.
This is also the helplessness of middle-aged people to fall in love.
They can't give up their expectations for their children, and they will also worry about their children's emotional needs, so they are so entangled that they can only temporarily retreat and think about it.
It's good to meet you, this is what Liu Xiaomin said to Chen Zhuo, and it also said the bitterness of middle-aged love, not necessarily very loving, but it is really good to meet, but this good temporarily can't resist the ups and downs of the outside world.
The love of middle-aged people may come to an end, but life continues, and whether love will come again depends on how the story continues.
However, such a "Xiao MinJia" is indeed very lifelike, and there are not a few people around the drama, although the Douban score is not high, it is still OK for life dramas.
Some people say that a marriage that begins with love cannot escape a chicken feather, let alone the beginning of love.
However, I would like to say that the middle-aged view of love is not only about the impulse to love, but more about being comfortable together, knowing who you are and what kind of companionship you need to find.
And the most important point is that even if they are together, they will still retain an eternal self, which is the precious point of middle-aged love.
This love is the love after there is choice and responsibility, and how to love in the end depends on whether each person in it can find themselves and truly understand who they really are.
The love of middle-aged people is the need to recognize themselves and others, and finally decide how to love.
So, will Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin finally come together? In fact, seeing their performance in the play, the answer does not need to be said again.