In the friendship of children, there will inevitably be some small episodes, especially when they see others take what they want, they can't help but want to grab it, and we can indeed see such cases in our lives, so what should we do when the child's things are snatched away by other children?
There is a mother on the Internet posted that she just bought him a toy car, he took it out to play, was snatched away by other children, cried to find her, and then went to find the child theory to get the toy car back, but she felt that the child's things should be optimistic about themselves, because she could not always be around the child.
Her article has resonated with many mothers, and many parents have said that their children have encountered similar situations, but in the face of this situation, parents' approach is different.
Parent A: In this situation, of course, we must educate the children to grab back, if you are bullied when you are a child, you don't know how to fight back, do you have to get it when you grow up? Definitely going to be bullied.
Parent B: I think it can't be too direct, in case the relationship between the two children is still good, so grab and grab, the relationship is definitely not good, and it has an impact on the child's social interaction.
Parent C: It is recommended to use oral education to solve the problem, you should let the child directly tell the child who grabbed the toy, it is his own toy, let the other party return, if not go to the parents to help.
Parents have their own views on this matter, but I think whether it is a child who grabs a toy or a child who is robbed of a toy, parents of both sides should look at this matter with a correct attitude.
For children who like to grab other people's toys, parents should find out the reasons behind these behaviors of children, and why do children like to grab other people's toys?
Loved this toy
Maybe the other child took a toy that he liked more, but he did not have this thing, and his heart was very eager to get this thing, so the brain began to think, and the hand began to act, and there was this behavior of robbing other people's things.
Blurring of property rights awareness
Property rights consciousness in 2-3 years old children show a very strong, they will guard their own things from others to touch, but if the child's property rights awareness is more vague, parents do not have the correct guidance, then the child's property rights awareness will be more blurred, he does not know that this thing is someone else's, can not take, so will go in the opposite direction to do this thing.
Parents see their children's toys being robbed, the following practices are not recommended
Avoid being a good old man
Toys are robbed, parents do not go to teach children to be good old people, think that robbed to grab, let him play for a while, this practice for children in the sensitive period of property rights awareness, is not a good thing, when they were young, they have been constantly tolerant, and when they grow up, children will not know how to cherish when they face some of their more important things.
Parents go grab it back
For parents who are more doting on children, as soon as they see their children's things being robbed, they feel unbearable, and their children cannot be wronged, so when the children have not said anything, they will go up and snatch things back, which is also inappropriate, and it is even likely to make things worse and cause unnecessary trouble.
Don't ask
Some parents belong to the more Buddhist system, when the child's toys are robbed, they do not ask, for this matter does not pay too much attention to, in fact, it is not recommended that parents do this, because when the child has no way to solve this matter, their hearts still hope that parents will help themselves, at this time, parents should stand up to him for a correct education.
When they see their children's toys being robbed, what is the right thing for parents to do?
Stabilize your child's mood first
Most of the toy grabbing behavior appears when the child is 2-3 years old, this age of the child to grab the toy is actually not much malice, parents do not need to immediately make a protective response, you can first look at the development of things, if the toy is robbed, the child's heart will be angry, afraid or sad, at this time, parents want to comfort the child, such as "is not the brother to take the baby toy away, so you are very sad?" Say something comforting to the child or hug the child, let their emotions stabilize, and then decide what to do later."
Let the child solve it on their own first
After the child's mood is stable, parents can first let the child solve this matter by himself, see the child's next approach, some children will go directly to grab it back, when they do this, parents can let them clearly tell other children that this is their own toy, and they are now playing. Some children will go to the other party to reason first, if the child is willing to let others play, parents can let them ask the other party whether they want to play with this toy, play for a while to return to themselves. For children who are unwilling to share, they can be encouraged to tell each other that they are not willing to share with him and ask him to return the toy.
The child's parents are going to "help"
If the child encounters a child older than himself who can't grab the toy or the other party is not willing to return the child's toy, the child's emotional collapse to the parents for help, parents do not as if they did not see must help the child to "grab back" the toy, the robbery here does not refer to violence, but the parents should replace the child's tone, seriously with the child who grabbed the toy, tell him that the toy is not his own, others do not want to share for the time being, or ask them if they are willing to take one of their own toys as an exchange to play. In the case that these practices do not work, you can politely discuss with the parents of the other party and let the child take the toy back. This is also done to maintain the ownership of children's items, so that they know that their things cannot be easily given to others unless they are willing to share them with others to play with.
The author summarizes
Each child has their own temper and characteristics, so when they see their children's toys being robbed, parents may wish to wait and see what the child will do, and if it cannot be solved, parents will help. At the same time, parents should also educate their children, at any time, if you want to play with other people's things, you must obtain the consent of the other party in advance, and if the other party does not agree, do not grab it, and develop a civilized good habit, so that the interpersonal relationship around the child will be better and better.