Yesterday I took my child to a 1.5-year-old physical examination, the results of the examination showed that my son's fine movements were slightly lacking, and the doctor suggested that I buy some paintbrushes for my child to teach him to draw, and consciously instructed him to help his mother do housework.
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For example, when I cook, I can give him a pot and let him "cook" as well. For this, I think the training of my son is still good.
Since he learned to walk at the age of 1, he has often been behind me, busy with the pots and pans in the kitchen.
So, he is now very skilled at finding the biggest pot from the cupboard, and then finding the spoon and bowl from the drawer...
Of course, some things that have safety risks (such as chopsticks, forks), I am determined not to let him touch, unless I am not busy at that time, I can accompany him wholeheartedly, I will give him chopsticks for a while.
The kung fu of making a meal, my son pulled his pot of tools, almost all over the corner of the house, taking advantage of the gap waiting for the meal to cool, I will be full of "treasure hunting".
For example, find a soup spoon in the study, find a plate on the bed in the bedroom, find two bowls under the sofa in the living room...
Every "treasure hunt" makes me feel as exciting as riding a pirate ship, and I like this feeling of helplessness and fun.
Seeing my son, I seem to see myself when I was a child, naughty and cute, really no tricks...
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This physical examination, my husband and I specially brought my mother-in-law together, the purpose is to hope that through the doctor's mouth, let the mother-in-law realize the seriousness of the problem, but also hope that the mother-in-law can understand and support our way of raising children.
As early as the child's eight months, I bought him a full set of 208 brushes online, including watercolor pens, crayons, brushes, pencils, paint pens and more than ten kinds, hoping to help children exercise fine movements in time.
But just a few days ago, I took out two small colored pens to teach my son to draw, and it turned out to be a family war.
At first, my son was obediently scribbling on the drawing board I had prepared for him. But the child's mind is very active, and he thinks of something and acts immediately.
I did not pay attention, my son began to draw a mess against the wall, although the painting is very messy, but it looks good, the original white wall without looking, with the son's creation, but it looks good.
However, the mother-in-law saw it this way, and the next day the mother-in-law saw the painting on the wall and immediately started a fire, not only quarreling with the child, but also yelling at her husband.
The mother-in-law always wants to be once and for all, and she does not like to engage in hygiene, so children are not allowed to draw on the wall. She felt that it was not only not pretty, but the child took the paintbrush and stuck it to his hands with paint, and it was not safe to wash it off.
This is also the reason why my husband and I never work for my mother-in-law to help feed my children, because in my mother-in-law's view, children are not honest in eating, and it is very troublesome to spread rice on the table, not only to wash clothes but also to clean the table and the floor hygiene.
And this time the son painted on the white wall, which really made the mother-in-law angry, the mother-in-law was embarrassed to be angry with me, so she quarreled with her husband, and at night the mother-in-law had a fight with her father-in-law.
Later, my husband and I deeply discussed the issue of my son's painting, and finally we unanimously decided that the child's next physical examination would take the mother-in-law with us and listen to the doctor's words, after all, what the professionals said was more effective than our tough confrontation.
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Good adults should follow their children, not let them stay in the safe zone framed by their parents.
Although the large tree can shield the wind and rain, it will also block the sunlight, affecting the growth of small saplings.
As a parent, don't be lazy at all. The child's original courage should be protected in every way, rather than removing the child's freedom to explore in the name of protection.
Nietzsche once said: "Finding a skill is an important job in life." "For children, finding their own interest and constantly watering it is the most important job in childhood and the top priority of parents."
Before a child can read and be able to express themselves well in both spoken and written language, graffiti is the best way to express themselves.
It is also important for children to have a real interest in talking to their own hearts and learning to express and comfort themselves.
Of course, there are also bao moms who will ask, why don't my children love to draw?
I guess there's only one answer: "Strangled." And the reasons that stifle a child's interest may be:
1． Not giving the child enough pen and paper during the critical period.
2． There is no time to draw, the child is always in a state of stimulation, such as watching TV, playing with toys, playing outdoors all the time, not giving him time to calm down.
3． Improper involvement of adults. Painting for children is too utilitarian, only to ask children to draw like and draw well instead of boldly expressing them.
The picture book is the child's first humanistic language, just like "speaking", which is a way of expression.
"Speaking" takes precedence over "well said", so "painting" should not be measured by "well drawn". As long as you like it, you can paint it.
Every "work" drawn by the child will be a surprise to the child, and it will be a surprise to the parents. It's like a gift from heaven that comes through a child.
As long as the child who moves is not dangerous and does not hinder others, I do not think it is necessary to interfere with or disturb him.
True love is not warning and stopping, but following and encouraging.
Above all, encourage!