2021 is about to end, every year at the end of the circle of friends can not avoid being brushed by the annual bill, "raising children is too expensive" I believe that many parents look at the bill involuntarily voice, these two days the parent group has a parent who asked me such a question.
He said, "You see, the conditions in our house are good." Also willing to spend money on the child's education, the kindergarten let him go to the best private, tens of thousands of dollars a year, the bags and shoes bought for him are brands, what he likes what sneakers, Lego are bought for him, just buy these things a year also cost a lot of money, not to mention the teachers and nannies he invited. Calculate that the money spent on him alone in a year is more than 100,000 and 200,000. It's overwhelming! And the money was spent, and as a result, this child, there was no point of contention, that grade was almost on the class pad. Moreover, every day I just think about playing games, and I am not self-motivated at all. What the hell are you talking about? ”
Parents, how much does your child cost in a year? Feel free to interact with me in the comments section.
Then this parent we carefully chatted about it, it turned out that their children's curiosity is still quite strong, when they were young, they chased and asked him this and asked him that, asking him a lot of questions, he was bored every time, always felt oh, this child is so much nonsense. Just like that, the child "hot face pasted cold ass" again and again, and even felt that it was wrong to ask so many questions. Slowly, the child's curiosity is dispelled.
Moreover, when their children were young, they wanted to do everything themselves, had to dress themselves, had to eat by themselves, and would scramble to do some housework. He felt that the child was doing so slowly, and he couldn't move to get me everywhere, and he had to let me clean up, not enough trouble, so don't add to the mess. The child has never experienced that I can do it, I can do it, but will feel that I can't get this, that I can't, and as a result, the child's independence is gone.
There is also when their children are young, the children are particularly fond of their parents, always want to stick to their parents, and want their parents to play with themselves for a while. As a result, mom and dad have to be busy with work, busy with things outside the home, and think why can't this child play by himself for a while? What a lot of things. The child is used to being rejected, accustomed to playing by himself, and the slow child will naturally not stick to him anymore.
Later, the child went to school, was wronged in school, and wanted to talk to his parents and wanted to get some comfort from his parents, but as a result, his parents felt that what was this? Are you so squeamish about such a little thing? Boys don't cry. The child is uncomfortable when he is wronged outside, and if he tells his parents that he will be rejected and complained again, the child's inner words will no longer be said to his parents.
Whenever the child is poor in the test, he will feel that other people's children can get full marks, why can't you, what is worse than others? You can't even do such a thing, what else can you do! In all aspects of the child, only know to complain about the child. As a result, not only can not change the status quo, the child every time the exam, there is no substantial gain, and even worse and worse.
You see, all the problems stem from the impatience in his heart. He has no patience to talk to the child, and he has no patience to listen to the child's grievances, nor does he have the patience to face and solve the child's problems together with the child, and he has no patience to be happy with the child.
When he encounters a problem, he just thinks about spending some money to solve it, find someone to put the child into this key class, stuff it into the key school, give the teacher some money to get rid of the teacher's more care, want to solve the problem through money, push the child's educational responsibility to the outside, and finally, the money is really spent. But what, the child is still a scum, and finally, even the child doesn't even bother to talk to him. What do you learn from this parent?
In fact, patience is the most basic condition for educating children, do you have it?
Some parents, not only have no patience, but also very easy to get angry, then the child is really suffering. Grumpy people have the following negative effects, which we must remember.
First, parents are too angry to make children feel that he must obey others, and more words may be scolded. This will make it very easy for children to aggrieved themselves and suppress themselves from an early age, and they will not reject others when they grow up.
Second, parents are too easy to get angry, big and small things are decided by parents, and children can easily lose the sense of existence of the family. When he grows up, he is in the crowd, and it is easy to become obscure, marginalized, and become a transparent person.
Third, if parents are often prone to emotional irritability, the child will become an emotional garbage can for parents and mothers. This will make children become sensitive personalities, prone to inferior feelings, and often worry that they are not good enough, easy to offend people, and so on.
Finally, if parents often lose their children's easy temper, they will make their children vulnerable to frustration and especially want to please others. Slowly, he will become a flattering personality, and he will be more indifferent to his own needs and become a promise-
These negative effects, do you feel pain after listening to them? Therefore, we educate children not in how much money you spend on your children, it is important to be more patient with your children, and don't be angry with your children casually, you are willing to challenge. Seven days without losing your temper with your child? Let's have something to say. Those who are willing to challenge themselves can reply to my willingness in the comment area. Then let's clock in every day. Welcome to forward it, so that more parents can participate in the non-angry challenge.