Eating --
I said to my son, "Let's eat," and I ate it by myself, and the meal was so delicious.
My mom stared at her son the whole time during a meal:
"Do you eat pork?"
"Did you eat the greens?"
"Eat fried peanuts again."
"Don't you like to eat eggs?"
"Eat so little, eat some more."
"Drink this soup and put it on fire, and swallow it like water..."
Son: "Oh, don't always give me the dish, I don't have freedom anymore." ”
Seezon's view:
Children know their own food and clothing, they will not be able to eat when they are full, and they will eat if they are not full. Every meal interfered with him, interrupting the concentration of the meal and not having the initiative of his own.
Now there are many kinds of snack supplements for children, basically not undernourished, but overnutrient. I am really afraid that he is not nutritionally enough, so I can prepare him with the milk, fruit, and nut supplements he likes, and do not have to make the child feel stressed at every meal.
Washing dishes --
The son ate very slowly.
I said, "Eat well, turn your attention to your rice bowl, and don't stare around." ”
My mom said, "Eat fast, the slowest eater washes the dishes." ”
Regardless of whether you eat the slowest or not, every time there is no following, the dishwashing thing is not over.
Rules can be set for children, but they must be strictly enforced. If there is no implementation of the rules, it is better not to make them, and the child will only feel that I do not have to wash the dishes anyway, eat fast and eat slowly, and get the effect of education.
By extension, the same as the child's commitment, when it comes to it, it must be done, otherwise it is not said. If you don't fulfill your promise, one is that the child is disappointed in you, and the other is that the child thinks that he can talk in the future.
Watching TV --
When my son comes back from school, I'll let him watch TV for an hour or so.
I won't bother him.
My Mom:
"Come and help mop the floor."
"Eat this or not?" Eat this or not? Hey, just sort me out. ”
"Aren't you happy at school today?"
"Help me get my phone, usually you ask Grandma to do so much, Grandma asks you to do a little thing."
After a whole day of studying at school, let the child focus on their favorite entertainment and relax their nervous mood. Whether it's learning or playing, concentration is very important.
Doing housework, chatting with him, asking him to help, these things can be done, but it's best to let him watch an episode of TV and not see half of the most nervous time interrupt him. After reading it, he will be happy to do it with you.
Chat——
When chatting with my son.
I always wait for him to finish what he wants to say, and I will continue to say what I want to say.
My mother didn't wait for her son to finish speaking, and my son would be very angry and say, Oh, I haven't finished speaking yet.
Listening is more important than expressing. Although the child is young, the mind will be more delicate than you think, and the small body hides a big world. Let him finish the imagination in his heart, he can feel respected at the same time, you can also understand his inner world better, and sometimes you can find small problems, solve them with him, and grow together.
Pack up --
Every time my son plays with toys or finishes his homework, he makes a mess.
I would not care how messy he was in the process, just remind him to clean up on his own after the end.
When his mother was playing, she would say that he was too messy, don't make such a mess, and she would go to clean up for her son after he was done.
As long as there is no destruction and no danger, let the child play casually and cultivate his imagination and creativity.
Good habits start by doing it yourself. At home, we must begin to cultivate the habit of children to pack their own things. After going to elementary school, some parents of classmates often ask in the group that their children's school uniforms are lost, books are missing, and colored pens are gone. Learn to keep your things, use up the original place, keep it clean and tidy, do things will not be lost, and your thinking will be clear.
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