Every parent hopes that their children can win at the starting line, and will choose a good school for their children and let their children receive a quality education. The parents' mood of "hoping for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix" can be understood, but it cannot be promoted by picking seedlings.
Children's growth is regular, each stage of the content needs to learn is different, we do not advocate "advanced education", this will only make children have a lot of pressure, thereby affecting physical and mental health.
Dr. "Tiger Dad" forced his 5-year-old daughter to learn high mathematics, and if she did not learn well, she would be beaten and insulted
In Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, there is a father surnamed Mao, who advocates "advanced education", and he has two children, namely his 7-year-old son Xiaoming and 5-year-old daughter Xiaojia, who have become his "experimental products".
He is a doctoral graduate with a high degree, and it is precisely because of his high education and radical education style that he is known as the "Tiger Father" of the doctor, and he was also sued by his wife for the wrong way of education.
The 5-year-old daughter is in kindergarten, the 7-year-old son is in elementary school, he often lets the two children learn high numbers, and also lets the children memorize the text, if they can't learn, they stay up late to learn, and often let the two children learn in the middle of the night.
Such a young child cannot learn high numbers and words at all, but this father does not care about those, if the child cannot learn, he will use insulting words and even beat up two children.
His wife often tried to persuade him, but it didn't work, and he firmly believed that he was doing it for the good of his children. After that, the public security, women's federation, school teachers and other people all persuaded him, but it did not work at all, and in desperation, his wife sued him in court and asked for help from the court.
The wife believes that the husband often insults and beats the two children, forcing them to learn high numbers and language, which is domestic violence and restricts the personal freedom of the children, which also seriously affects the feelings of the husband and wife.
The court has stepped in to ask him to regulate his conduct
This father has always thought that this is a "family affair", how to educate his children is his own business, and others have no right to interfere. He has a Ph.D. degree and may also want to train his two children to become Ph.D., but that's the wrong thing to do.
He did not follow the growth law of the child, let such a small child learn high numbers, is a typical "seedling to promote growth", insulting and beating the child, also belongs to the "spiritual domestic violence", must immediately stop such behavior.
After his wife took him to court, the court ruled that the father was not allowed to beat and abuse both children, to restrict the personal freedom of his children and spouse, and not to continue to commit domestic violence against both children.
After the court intervened, the father realized the seriousness of the problem, and if the wife did not do so, he may continue to think that he is not wrong, and it is only the two children who will end up suffering, which may affect the child's life.
"Advanced teaching" is not advisable, parents should not try
For "advanced teaching", the Ministry of Education is explicitly prohibited, and the Ministry of Education has previously issued a notice requiring that no school can teach ahead, including kindergartens, and if it violates the regulations, it will be punished.
This father let his daughter in kindergarten learn high numbers, which is "advanced teaching", and it is very "advanced". As we all know, the difficulty of high numbers is very large, and it is difficult for college students to learn well, let alone kindergarten children.
The harm of "advanced teaching" is very great, first of all, this can not achieve the purpose of education, the child is too young, the learning ability is not strong, let the child contact with the knowledge that is not consistent with their age, the child can not learn at all, forcing the child to learn, will only waste a lot of time, can not play any effect.
Secondly, it will cause a lot of psychological pressure on the child, because the child can not learn at all, even if it is very hard, it is difficult to make the parents satisfied, and if it cannot learn, it will be beaten and insulted, and the child will become very timid and sensitive, and it is easy to produce psychological shadows after a long time, and even suffer from psychological diseases.
Educate children to pay attention to ways and methods, parents do not be anxious, children go to kindergarten, do not let children learn the knowledge of primary school, let children step by step, learn steadily, lay a good foundation, this is the right approach.
If parents always force their children to learn, without considering the child's feelings, it will destroy the parent-child relationship, and will also cause the child to have psychological pressure, and even begin to be bored with school and become dislike of learning, then it will not be worth the loss.
All in all, parents hope that their children can have a job, attach great importance to their children's education problems, and will pay a lot of energy in this regard, but they must use the correct method and do not be too anxious, otherwise they will not be able to achieve the expected effect, and may also cause their children to be hurt.
Everyone's way of educating children is different, but no matter which education method is used, it is necessary to follow the child's growth law, do not "advance teaching", let the child complete the current stage of learning tasks, and do not promote seedlings.
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