preface:
A woman will play many roles in the family in this life, as a daughter, as a wife and as a mother.
Mothers are an extremely important role for both children and for a family.
For a child, a mother is not only a continuation of life, but also the inheritance of the soul.
Everything in this world is our mirror, and when we look at him, you also leave a mirror image on their mirror.
So from the moment the child is born, the mother spends the longest time,
The first mothers of life look at the baby, and the baby sees his presence in the front mirror.
One reality we have to admit is that
At present, most families are still mainly up to the mother to bear the responsibility of the child's education and responsibility.
So the child's education has a very big relationship and influence with the mother,
A young quality can be fully integrated into the child's life and future,
Therefore, in educating children, mothers have an important responsibility.
Lu Xun once said: "To see all mankind happy, we must have a sound and happy mother."
From this point of view, the image of youth is enough to affect the child's life.
The Japanese novelist Osamu Dazai wrote in his novel "Human Disqualification":
"The responsibility of others to say a few words is like a thunderbolt on a sunny day."
Therefore, if the mother's mirror is opened less often, and when it is opened, it will lead to a result if the child is trying to please it.
A person is extremely concerned about the reactions of others.
For the first time in China, mothers lack the awareness of respecting their children.
Even with this awareness, it will be difficult to give your child a feeling cognition because of the lack of links in your own feelings. Therefore, if a mother wants to make her child physically and mentally healthy, she must communicate and interact with him more when she is a child.
Let the child feel that the mother loves him at this moment.
1. Maintain a positive and optimistic mindset
Every mother is a safe haven for the child, if a woman has a very impatient and pessimistic temperament,
Those children are very easy to immerse themselves in this negativity and pain from an early age
Growing up will also lose its sense of security, so a mother's extremely optimistic attitude is very important for children.
It is also the best gift in the growth of children.
Therefore, the first thing to do as a mother is to control her emotions and not lose her temper in front of her children.
When appropriate, we should think from the perspective of children, rather than thinking about these things in terms of adult thoughts.
A child taught by a rational and generous mother must be kind and secure.
Children will be very grateful to you when they grow up.
2. Encourage your child to give affirmation
Many mothers in Chinese families will use a repressive method to talk about their children when they see that their children are not doing well.
In this way, the child will avoid communicating with his parents later in life.
Because they know they're doing something wrong, saying it is just a scolding.
Mothers should guide their children correctly, even if they do wrong, encourage and praise.
Because after the child receives praise, he will be more positive.
A good mother always has an appreciative eye to subtly influence her children,
In this way, the child will form a good value when he grows up.
3. Give your child independent space
Nowadays, many parents give their children a very small space for independence.
As the child continues to grow up, the mother must properly withdraw from the child's side,
Only by learning to let go slowly can children really grow up.
If we get lost, for the sake of the child's own efforts, the child will lose the ability to stand on his own when he grows up.
Even they will become what other people call mommy boys.
I believe that every mother does not want her child to become like this,
Therefore, it is important to give them the space appropriately and let them quietly play their preferences.
"It's an easy thing for a woman to become a mother, and this kind of errand is done by any woman."
But it's not easy to be a good mother. ”
Conclusion:
As a mother, it is not as simple as simply managing your child's three meals a day.
We must pay attention to our own three views and words and deeds, otherwise it will affect the child's life.
Even if a family is poor, as long as there is love and mother and children, there will be a source of happiness.
In my opinion, the family is not as good as a good mother, and I know that the really good family has always been your mother.
"A good mother is worth a hundred teachers."
This shows that the role of a truly good house mother is very important.
These 3 points determine the height of a mother, and the height of the mother determines the future of the child.
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References | Journal of consulting and clinical psychology