True masters, when faced with the humiliation of others, often have the following two manifestations, one of which is also very good, and ordinary people cannot do it.
First, do not be moved by humiliation, and calmly find out what can be used
At the beginning of the Warring States period, The founding monarch of the State of Wei, Wei Wenhou, once came to be interested and danced in the palace, and the famous blind violinist Jing played the piano for him to accompany him.
When he jumped to the place of pride, Wei Wenhou sang happily: You must all be obedient, listen to my words, and do not disobey me... When Shi Jing heard this, he immediately picked up his own piano to play Wei Wenhou, but fortunately, he did not hit it, but only scattered the string of beads hanging from his hat, and the beads crackled and fell on the ground.
Subjected to such attacks and humiliations, Wei Wenhou became angry and ashamed, not knowing what illness Shi Jing had committed, and did such a crime, and immediately ordered his attendants to pull Shi Jing out and execute him. The Master said, "Great King, can I say a word before I die?"
Although Wei Wenhou was annoyed, he still maintained a basic calm, so he said: "If you have anything to say, just hurry up and say it."
Shi Jing said: Once upon a time, when Yao Shun was a monarch, the thing he was most worried about was that no one would oppose him; when Yao Shun was a monarch, he did not allow others to disobey, but only wanted people to obediently listen to him. Therefore, what I have just humiliated is only The King, not you.
Wei Wenhou listened, and only then did he realize that there was something wrong with the song he was singing, so he asked the attendant to release the shi jing and said: This is all my fault, you hung this piano at the palace gate, I want to warn myself. As a result, after the news spread, the whole country praised Wei Wen Hou Xiande, and many talents also came to the rescue, and the State of Wei became more and more powerful.
Shi Jing did not explain the reason, directly raised the piano and beat people, as the king of a country, Wei Wenhou inexplicably suffered such humiliation, and under the anger, he wanted to kill people and vent his anger, which was very normal. Even if shi jing was killed for no reason, it is estimated that no one would say no, after all, this is a great sin of deceiving the king. However, Wei Wenhou was able to maintain a basic calm, and after Shi Jing pointed out his mistakes, he could be as willing as he was, and found that he could take advantage of the opportunity to make a wave of good reputation for himself, and he was definitely a real master.
In the face of other people's humiliation, whether malicious or unintentional, there must be something valuable and can be used, as long as your heart is strong enough to calmly face humiliation, you can seize the opportunity that can be used to turn humiliation into a good thing, which is much stronger than directly turning the face.
Second, weigh the pros and cons and carefully avoid possible crises
In the early days of the Western Han Dynasty, Liu Bang, the ancestor of Han Gaozu, led an army to fight against the Xiongnu Shan Yu, trapped in a place called Baima, and almost lost his life. Soon after returning from difficulties, he fell ill and died, and the power temporarily fell into the hands of Lü Hou. The Xiongnu were arrogant and arrogant, and even wrote a love letter to Lü Hou, and the words were full of provocation and humiliation.
The military generals of the Western Han Dynasty were furious, and the general Fan Duo even shouted that he was willing to lead 100,000 soldiers and sweep through the Xiongnu. But Lü Hou was not an ordinary woman, although her heart was also angry, but weighing the pros and cons, and under the advice of people of insight, she carefully chose to endure such humiliation. After all, not long after the founding of the Western Han Dynasty, Liu Bang had just died, and indeed could not withstand a big war.
Therefore, Lü Hou immediately ordered someone to write a reply letter to the Xiongnu Shan Yu, with humble words, saying that he was seventy years old and eighty years old, old and faded, his hair was lost, his teeth were out, and he couldn't even walk steadily, who deserved the might of the great king? Therefore, I give the royal carriage and horse that I usually ride to you as an atonement for my sins.
After reading the letter, the Xiongnu could not find anything wrong with it, and there was no excuse to raise troops, so they had no choice but to stop the flag. However, taking the initiative to show weakness and endure humiliation is not the same as being indifferent and losing ambition, after avoiding this crisis, the Western Han Dynasty was ashamed and then courageous, and worked hard to develop national strength, and the rule of Jingwen Jing greatly increased the national strength, and when Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty arrived, the national strength reached its peak, which took the initiative to attack and truly swept through the Xiongnu.
In the face of the humiliation of the Xiongnu Shan Yu, if Lü Hou could not weigh the pros and cons, but let the anger spread, make an impulsive decision, and choose to go to war with the Xiongnu when the foothold was unstable, then the humiliation would probably not be her alone, the people would all suffer, and the newly unified world would probably fall into chaos again. People who are strong enough in their hearts, when facing humiliation, should consider the pros and cons the most, see what kind of crisis is behind the humiliation, and avoiding and resolving the crisis is the first thing to do.