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Young people in love, they all like to say "I love you" these three words, over and over again, no tired of saying, when you get up in the morning, say it, say it before going out, chat on WeChat to say it, and say "I love you" before going to bed at night, and then you can fall asleep happily.
They generously and sincerely say "I love you" to the object, enthusiastically express their feelings, afraid that if they don't say it, the other party will not feel their love. In addition to saying "I love you", they also like to hear each other say "I love you".
In the ambiguous period, when you have not officially started a relationship, you often say "I like you" to express your liking for each other, often because you hear a sentence of "I like you", so excited that you can't sleep all night.
After entering the love period, "I love you" will replace "I like you", if one day can not hear the other party say "I love you", it will begin to think wildly, whether he does not love me, is not empathetic and not in love.
They are in love, like to listen with their ears, and feel that only by hearing the three words "I love you" in each other's mouths can they express that the other party really loves themselves, otherwise they do not love.
But if you reach a certain age, when you have talked about some love, or have some deeper life experience, you will find that it is not so important whether the other party will say "I love you" to you, it is better to see what he has done to love you.
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Saying "I love you" is a very easy thing to do, basically without paying any price, it is OKAY, as long as the other party is willing, he can always say "I love you", but saying that he loves you is really loving you?
No, in fact, true love is never out of the mouth, but in what specific things the other party has done for you. It's everything that comes into practice.
So don't just grab the other person all day and ask, "Do you love me or not", but look at what he has done to love you, and do this, even if he never said I love you, he may still love you deeply.
First, he will work towards your common goals
When two people are together, there will definitely be a time to look forward to the future, unless you are together, you don't feel happy at all, or neither of you has planned the future, just thinking that a happy day is a day.
As long as the two people are sincerely together, they will definitely consider the future and plan what kind of future the two people have, such as where to live in the future, where to fix it, and what kind of goals to have.
Discussing the future is also some very specific things, specific to career planning, where to buy a house, what kind of car to buy, when to have children, and so on.
These are some of your common goals, which require effort to achieve, and it is not enough to have goals, but to see if he works towards your common goals.
If you have a clear goal, but he has never made half an effort for this goal, he still gets by as before, and does not care at all whether the goal is achieved or not, and does not care how far away from the goal.
If you are the only one working towards the goal, then it means that there is no you in his plan, and he does not intend to give you the future you want.
And if he works very hard to achieve your goals, it means that he cares a lot about your future, he wants to give you a good future, then he really loves you.
Second, he will change things you don't like for you
Each of us is not born perfect, and there will be all kinds of advantages, and there will be all kinds of shortcomings.
For example, some people may like to smoke, like to drink, like to play mahjong, or often go out to clubbing, some people may like to spend money haphazardly, do not love hygiene, do not clean up the house, more sloppy and so on.
Each of us is not born perfect, there will be all kinds of advantages, there will be all kinds of shortcomings.
For example, some people are very addicted to smoking, alcoholism, addiction to mahjong, games, or often go out to clubbing, some people spend money indiscriminately, do not love hygiene, do not clean up the house, very sloppy and so on.
The shortcomings of each person are relatively difficult to change, and they require a lot of energy and restraint.
As the saying goes, we fall in love with people, is with his advantages, and marrying people is with each other's shortcomings, because when in love, the time spent with each other is relatively short, and when we are together, we are dating, enjoying sweetness, basically only see each other's advantages, can not see the shortcomings.
But cohabitation, or marriage, is to be with each other's shortcomings, his shortcomings will be exposed little by little, and some shortcomings will be unbearable.
At this time, the time to reflect whether the other party loves you or not is coming, and you can generously tell the other party that you don't like the shortcomings in him and hope that he can correct them.
If he already knows that you don't like these shortcomings of him, he promises to change them, and changes them for a while, and then returns to the original appearance, and when you are angry, he changes for a while, and so on, then he must not love you.
But if he resolutely changed it at the beginning and never made it again, no matter how hard and uncomfortable the process of correction is, he insists on it, it shows that he really loves you and is willing to make changes for you.
Third, no matter how big or small it is, we must discuss with you
This is very important, because after two people are together, many things are not their own business, and they need to be discussed by two people together.
However, there are many men, very macho, think that he is in charge of big things, there is no need to consult with women, think that women do not understand anything, and talk to her and do not understand.
Therefore, whatever they encounter, they are all on their own, including but not limited to buying a car, buying a house, lending money to friends, taking a lot of money to invest, etc., all of which are told to each other when they are done.
This is really what many men will have, they do anything, or what decisions, will not think to discuss with their partners, their partners are only known in hindsight, and then gradually feel cold, because he does not take her in the eyes at all.
Like this, it doesn't care about the wife at all, she doesn't love the wife, it doesn't matter what the wife thinks, whether she likes this house is not important, whether she likes this car is not important, and she doesn't have to know if she lends money to a friend.
Of course, these are important to her, the house she will live in the future, she has the right to make decisions, she has the right to choose where to buy a house, what type of house to buy, money is the common property of two people, private lending is equivalent to embezzling the public funds of two people, if it is in the company, this is to be arrested and imprisoned.
A man who really loves women, he will definitely respect each other's ideas, rather than doing these things alone, he will discuss with each other, make decisions together, like this, is real love.
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Women in love should always keep a clear head, do not always ask the other party whether they love you, if you care about this, the last attraction is likely to be that they will only say that they love you, but there will be no actual action.
Don't put his mouth to say he loves you, is equivalent to him really loving you, a man who says "I love you" a hundred times, if the above three things can not be done, then it must not really love you.
Even if a person is not good at expressing, he cannot say the three words "I love you", but if he has done all three of the above, he really loves you, and he has you in his future plans, and he is a person who can live a life.
Whether he said he loves you, it is not so important at all, although people who are willing to express it in this way will make you feel sweet in their hearts, but that may just be a mirage, what really matters is whether you are willing to pay practical actions for your future, whether you respect you, these things, hidden are the sincere "I love you".
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Article illustration| Stills from "True Love Supreme"