Meet a comic couple.
The husband, who looked thick and honest, sincerely gossiped to his wife: "Who looks quite honest in our unit, in fact, he is not honest at all, and he often gets into trouble outside." ”
The blunt wife immediately fought back: "Don't talk about people, you have no strength, no chance!" You have to have his conditions, and you are not honest..."
Looking at his husband's appearance of wanting to talk and finally being dumb and speechless, the way they have long been accustomed to getting along, I suppressed my laughter and couldn't help but sigh: Is this the extinction of trust or the truth of the world?
Perhaps, as Tu Lei said: There are no really honest men in the world, and if there is, it is only because you are too naïve.
01
Two years ago, something happened that made me feel ruined.
Eating with a table of elders, one of the male elders actually talked about meat strips during the meal. You know, this elder from childhood to adulthood in my mind, is an honest man, love wife number, husband and wife love, family harmony.
His wife was not there that day, and the people at the same table were his former female classmates. The female students are chatting warmly, only he keeps leading the topic to various sensitive parts, and the female classmates are not picked up, not picked up, and they all feel quite embarrassed.
He not only did not care about the feelings of the female classmates, but also did not care about the several juniors during the banquet, as if he wanted to give full play to the talents he had accumulated all his life in talking about meat, and he also squeezed his eyebrows and made eyes to check the reactions of the female classmates.
I've never seen him like this. I used to think that he was a down-to-earth elder, although his career was mediocre, but he loved his wife and family, and since then, my understanding of "honest people" has been subverted. As the wife earlier said, he is not honest, he just does not have that strength, can only be honest.
02
Many women say, it's really not okay, I'll find an honest person to marry.
This sentence has both a strong sense of superiority and a huge sense of stupidity.
I have an acquaintance who took this road, wanted to marry a rich and handsome man, fell in love, and finally found a so-called "honest person" who relied on her for everything.
After marriage, the first few days are still relatively comfortable, because I feel that I am married, various queen postures, five drinks and six, and within a few years, the "honest man" husband will not go home. She thought that she didn't like it very much anyway, so she might as well leave, and as a result, this man found various reasons not to cooperate with the divorce, all kinds of delays, dragged her exhausted, miserable, and it took three years to get out of this marriage.
So, what are the real honest people? Some honesty may be the appearance of repression; some honesty, just other people's tolerance for you; and some honesty, is the kindness of a man.
Don't think that a man who is not good at words, a conscientious man, can be casually pinched by you, in fact, behind his "honesty", there may be amazing destructive power, or it may be that others have a deep love and tolerance for you.
No man wants to be called the "honest man" by the woman who takes over; they are all living, self-worthed people, and every woman should not overestimate their "honesty" or underestimate the love and sincerity in their "honesty".
Because, some honesty needs vigilance, and some honesty is worth cherishing.
03
In recent years, there have been too many views of male and female antagonism, and I was once deeply affected. But I came to understand that opposing men and women is not conducive to the harmony and development of the family.
Don't feel like any man and woman are stupid, everyone is not stupid, everyone has their own needs and dignity, as well as a sense of worth. It's not so much that we're talking about whether men are honest or not, but rather that we say we have a clear understanding of human nature.
If you blindly believe that the man who looks thick and stable in front of you is an honest person who cannot escape your five-fingered mountain for a lifetime, and casually calls others to call and degrade his self-esteem, that is your unkindness and naivety;
If you blindly think that he is not good at words, does not understand romance, and seems to only know how to do things silently, it may be outside your sight that people can change women to be able to talk and talk.
There are never really honest men, only men who have suppressed their own needs. Some needs are deformities of other personality; some needs are pain that is not seen and valued.
Don't forgive those "honest people" who look honest but actually have bad character in their bones, and please treat those who have good character and just silently love your "honest people".
Innocence is suitable for little girls, we senior married women, what we need most is a pair of eyes, see through human nature, to fake the truth.