"Full-time mothers are no less hardworking than working mothers, and they have greater responsibilities, inheriting the inheritance of the upper and lower generations and the family." On July 22, at the recording site of Sichuan Satellite TV's female emotional program "Mother Has Something to Say", Li Wei, the wife of Liu Yonghao, a famous female entrepreneur in Sichuan, chairman of Fenglan Industry and chairman of New Hope Group, accepted an exclusive face-to-face interview with Red Star News.
Li Wei (Yellow)
She almost never attends TV shows and rarely even gives media interviews. In an exclusive interview with Red Star News, Li Wei said that she is a strict mother who will teach her children to live simply from an early age and cultivate them to love others. In the interview, Li Wei also talked about giving up the doctor profession he loved for the sake of her husband's career.
For Li Wei, although he has reached retirement age, he still maintains a passion for his work and is willing to contact new industries and things.
Talk about stay-at-home moms: harder, more responsible
RED STAR NEWS: You are very low-key now, what is the reason why the show "Mom Has Something to Say" attracted you?
Li Wei: I used to be a stay-at-home mom and understand the experience of stay-at-home moms very well. I know they have a lot of difficulties because a lot of people think that stay-at-home moms are staying at home. In fact, it is also a profession, no less hard than working mothers, and full-time mothers have greater responsibilities, inheriting the inheritance of two generations and families. If you haven't done it before in this profession, you need to start learning again.
Every stay-at-home mom may not start out competent, unskilled, or recognized by her family. And after leaving the workplace for a long time, the husband may not be able to understand what he says when he goes home, and the things he says are not very fond of listening to by his husband. Over time, there will be some contradictions, some distances. The biggest pain of stay-at-home mothers is their inner loneliness, and how to get the recognition of their families and society to make themselves a pleasant person. This process requires a lot of tribulations and tribulations.
Another reason is that I have a life education volunteer organization. There are hundreds of stay-at-home moms in this organization. In the beginning we did this organization to help stay-at-home moms move from family to society. They never went to the podium, but after constant training, they became professional women. In this process, she was recognized by her family and recognized by society. This is a group of people to watch. I feel like I have a mission to appeal to them to get society's attention and make them more valuable.
Li Wei (right)
Red Star News: You have been a full-time mother for 8 years, and then return to the workplace, will you feel that you can't keep up with social changes?
Li Wei: I didn't, and I still feel that the time I returned to my family as a stay-at-home mother was a very good memory in my life, and it has always been something I feel proud of. Because you have time for your husband to climb, to climb, to run forward, you are giving him a safe home. In the flower season when the child grows up, you have not missed the sound of flowers blooming, you have been with her, because this time has passed and you will not come back. During this time, as a wife, as a mom, at least I feel it's worth it.
Talking about career: The most bumpy thing is to support her husband to give up his dream of being a doctor
Red Star News: Your husband Liu Yonghao is a successful entrepreneur, what kind of husband and father image is he in life?
Li Wei: Our family is a typical loving father and strict mother. When the child was young, the father was busy with work so he had less time at home, and he treated the child more gently, while I was relatively strict.
Red Star News: You are also a successful entrepreneur yourself, many people envy successful people, can you share with us, if a person wants to succeed, what aspects need to work hard?
Li Wei: I think first of all, he must be a person who dares to take responsibility, and entrepreneurship requires the courage to take responsibility and courage. Secondly, it also needs to be a person with the ability to learn, to continue to learn and make progress. You must also have a curious heart, be interested in new things, and must have a sensitivity to fresh business, without which you cannot seize opportunities.
Today, in the age of the Internet, (if) you are still looking at something from the past, but this thing has already passed. You can only grasp the most cutting-edge business opportunities if you are full of curiosity and business sensitivity. Another point is that it is also necessary to bear hardships and stand hard work, have the courage to move forward, and be able to lead and manage the team.
Li Wei (Yellow)
Red Star News: Your and your husband's business was bumpy, what happened to you the most memorable in the process?
Li Wei: The most difficult thing in my heart is to give up the profession of doctor. I used to be a senior student at The University of Western China Medicine, and before I entered the University of Western China Medicine, I was a doctor who worked for more than 4 years. I wrote a diary during that time, and I was always inspired to be a Bethune-like doctor, and at that time few people could insist on writing a diary, and I insisted on writing a thick diary, just to be a good doctor. Before I gave up being a doctor, I was already famous in the neighborhood, and I loved the profession, but I had to give up for the sake of my husband's career.
Our school is too far away from home, and we leave early and return late every day. Once my husband didn't come home late, when the children were still very young, I would keep thinking about it in my head. After putting the child to sleep, I couldn't hold back when I saw that the time was already 12 o'clock in the middle of the night. I always wonder if he will have a car accident on a motorcycle or something, and I will always have this terrible thought. I thought I was going crazy, I couldn't stand it, so I blindly ran out of the house, hoping to see him sooner.
When I got to the small bridge, I saw a few men smoking there, which frightened me and I quickly ran back, and when I came home, I cried a lot, and he didn't come back until 3 o'clock in the middle of the night (in the morning). This one thing makes me think that I miss my profession too much, whether I don't love him enough, whether I am not content enough. That time led to my determination to change careers, and it was also the most painful decision of my life.
Red Star News: You and your husband are already successful entrepreneurs, have you ever considered retirement? Or is it a gradual reduction in workload?
Li Wei: Both of us are people who love our careers and have not yet considered retirement. My husband is no easier now than when he started his business, he will also go to more than 10 hours of classes every day, and every morning he will get up to watch the news, watch the simulcast, and watch all the knowledge. He is also constantly learning, constantly investing, and constantly creating. He will also think about how to transform, how to innovate, how to superimpose with the Internet, etc., and I think it is busier than before.
The same goes for me myself. We are all people who love work and love labor. We feel that now that we have the motivation to start a business for the third time after the end of the stay-at-home mother, I also want to contact new industries and learn new knowledge.
Red Star News: Have you had some new work goals to accomplish recently?
Li Wei: I have never been exposed to vibrato before, and now that I listen to them talk about vibrato, I am thinking about what else will appear after vibrato? I also want to learn a little more from this industry, and I can do more in the future when I have the opportunity.
Talk about education: Let children learn to manage money from an early age
Red Star News: You are guided by a "simple" approach to educating your children. For example, if you buy a second-hand Apple computer for your child, how was it considered at that time?
Li Wei: Growing up in a simple family, I was influenced by traditional culture, so I advocated Chinese Confucian culture, adhering to the principle of spending only the part of the money I could earn, not spending money beyond my own ability. So the basic idea of my education is to be self-reliant from an early age, hard and simple. I started teaching my child how to manage money when he was 3 years old. I bought a book called "Puppy Money Money" and taught him to read it, but he didn't listen to it very well. I bought a copy for every child in their class, including one for the teacher, and asked the teacher to use this book as a teaching material and read it with the whole class.
The first time I bought a gift, I told him, "Mom only gives you 100 yuan, and you can only save and not spend more than 100 yuan." "He was very serious about picking out his own toys there. Because you have given him this responsibility, this money belongs to him, and he will calculate. I just want to motivate him to manage his own property, and the child must learn to manage money from elementary school.
We have an old saying in China, "If you don't eat poorly, you can't wear poor, and you won't be poor if you don't manage." Because of this foundation, I did not propose to buy this second-hand computer later, but the child himself proposed it. I asked him what computer he wanted to change, and mom came to consider supporting you. He looked at how much a new computer cost on the Internet, how much a second-hand computer cost, and later through comparison, he decided to buy a second-hand computer, but he chose this choice because he gave him this financial concept from childhood.
Red Star News: What do you think is the most important quality of your child?
Li Wei: I think the most important quality is to learn to love, love your family, love the people around you, and love society. From an early age, he was told to be an example for others. Consciously take him to someone else's house. You first tell him whose house you are going to go to, what you want to do for your aunt, and let him learn the basic elements of service. For example, tell him, "Let's go to dinner together today, you have to learn to pay the bill, oh, if you pay the bill, your mother will reward you when she comes home." "You must educate him to be an example for others, and at that time, without you taking care of it, he himself will use the conditions of being a role model for others to self-discipline and self-control."
Red Star News: You have long been promoted to grandma, what kind of educational philosophy did you uphold when you brought your grandchildren? Will you spoil your grandchildren a little?
Li Wei: Because we are Chinese, we teach our children to accept traditional Chinese culture from an early age. We made him a classroom at home, equivalent to a supermarket, we hung the Four Books and Five Classics, ancient Chinese poems, Chinese paintings on the wall, spread on the ground, the children will climb on the paintings, two children will stay in different places, will kiss these things, you can feel that their hobbies are different.
But I don't ask them to learn to write and draw. I don't impose it on them, I just let them see, know, feel for themselves. I am different from other grandparents, and what I oppose most is coddling, so I will strictly restrain myself and not spoil them. Because in a big family, when everyone is paying attention to this child, even if you are not doting in your heart, it will create a doting environment for him, and I will consciously grasp my own scale on some occasions and will not spoil them.
Red Star News reporter Qiu Junfeng Intern Yuan Yumei photo report
Edited by Zhang Chao