How to let children quickly close their minds and adjust their status when school starts? Prepare some special rituals for your child

A sense of ceremony is the best gift for children to start school.

Author | Coke Mama

School is about to start.

How to let children quickly close their hearts and adjust their state has become the biggest headache for many parents at present.

I remember reading such a sentence:

"The sense of ritual is a bridge between the heart and the real world. Through self-suggestion, people are more focused and serious, and they can better appreciate the beauty of daily life. ”

So, parents may wish to prepare some special ceremonies for their children before the bell rings, so that they can look forward to the new semester.

Talk to your child about school-related topics

Educator Michel Boba once noted:

There are three most efficient times of the day for parent-child companionship, one of which is before going to bed at night.

A week before the start of school, you can use this time period to talk to your children more about school-related topics and make a foreshadowing.

Like what:

"When you go back to school, what is the one thing you want to share with your classmates?"

"Who are you most looking forward to seeing after school starts, and why?"

"When the holidays first started, were all the plans you made complete? What are your plans for the new semester? ”

……

Human speech has energy.

Talking to children about this kind of topic can not only subtly help children gradually adjust from "vacation mode" to "school mode".

You can also listen to your child's inner voice and understand their joys, sorrows and sorrows.

Sometimes, a "warm-up" chat before school starts is worth thousands of big words.

Encourage your child to ask classmates out to play

Stuart Brown, MD, spent 42 years interviewing 6,000 people and found:

Children who play freely in childhood grow up with social skills, stress resistance, and the ability to solve complex problems are much stronger than children who stay home all day long.

Because in childhood, the more external stimuli a child receives, the more fully the senses are developed, and the more it can promote brain development.

Taking advantage of the tail of summer vacation, parents may wish to encourage their children to meet friends out and play.

Go to nature to smell the flowers, play in the stream, or sweat up a sweat with friends on the sports field.

As parenting blogger @bigJ XiaoD said:

"The first step in loving learning is to love school, and the first step to loving school is to be willing to play with the friends you see every day.

It's the same that a large part of our adult happiness at work comes from our colleagues. ”

After playing to their heart's content, children can cope with the challenges encountered in learning with a fuller mental state.

Let your child go to bed early and get up early a week early

A holiday passed, and many children became "night owls":

If you don't sleep at night and don't get up in the morning, even if you wake up during the day, you are confused and have no interest in doing anything.

In such a lazy state, it is natural that there is no way to adapt to the upcoming campus life.

And going to bed early and getting up early is the best medicine to cure laziness.

Here is the schedule of Hengshui Middle School:

This Tsinghua student Ma Donghan's work and rest schedule:

This is the schedule of Zhejiang University student Hu Yijie:

Those self-disciplined and excellent students all got up before six o'clock.

Getting up early may seem like an inconspicuous little thing, but it can refresh the child and have more time to enrich himself and improve himself.

At the same time, it can also allow children to adapt to the school routine in advance.

If the child is really having trouble getting out of bed, parents can also prepare a favorite breakfast for him to make him more motivated.

Also, be careful to get your child up 10 minutes earlier every day, and then 10 minutes earlier after a few days until the target time is reached.

After a week, parents will find that the child has gradually overcome the lazy self.

Take the children back to your hometown

Did you take your children back to your hometown this summer?

Living in a city made of reinforced concrete for a long time, surrounded by mobile phones and the Internet, many children lack the love and understanding of real life.

Therefore, every winter and summer vacation, I will take my son back to the countryside to see:

On the one hand, it can allow children to fish, play in the water and play with their friends, on the other hand, it can also allow the elders in the family to meet the long-missed juniors.

School is about to start, so you might as well take your children back again.

On country roads without wifi, accompany your children to ride and run, and let your children be coquettish in the arms of their grandparents.

I believe that the beauty of the countryside and the smile of the elderly will definitely inject infinite vitality into the new semester of children.

Write a letter to your child

Educator Liu Zhenlian once shared a unique way of communication between family members:

That is, set up a "post office" at home, and prepare a mailbox for each of the three people, and communicate one-on-one by writing letters.

Maybe some people don't understand, why do you want to do this, what can't be said directly?

Actually, writing a letter is a ritual.

With this sense of ritual, children will feel that everything they say has been valued by their parents, and they are more willing to tell their parents about their growing troubles and difficulties.

School will start soon, I believe that parents must have a lot of things to say to their children.

In that case, it is better to write a letter to your child.

In this way, give children a unique "first lesson of school", encourage children to study hard, and tell them:

"Dear child, I know that the world you face is not easy.

Homework, exams, relationships... Too many things that often make you feel overwhelmed.

But don't forget, your parents will always stand behind you, even if you encounter a big problem, remember to go home first, and your parents will face it with you. ”

Bring your child to a mobilizing meal

American educator Sally Louis wrote in her book "Awakening Children's Talents":

Factors that contribute to high scores on learning ability tests have been studied and found that:

IQ, social conditioning, economic status, etc. are less important than a more subtle factor, which is that all children who score high often eat with their parents.

The so-called sense of ritual is actually not so complicated.

Many times, it's just a special moment when the family sits down for a meal together.

Before school starts, take your children to a "mobilization meal".

Hot meals, laughter, relaxed and pleasant chat... This is the best way to cheer your child up for the new semester.

During meals, parents remember to turn off their mobile phones and talk more about the future with their children.

A simple meal can make children feel that their parents attach importance to the start of school and their expectations for themselves.

Set goals with your child

Dale Carnegie, the father of modern adult education in the United States, did a survey and found that only 3% of people in life have clear goals.

The other 97 percent either had unclear goals or no goals at all.

Ten years later, the 3% of those who have goals have already achieved their goal blueprint and made a breakthrough.

97% of people who have no goals have spent years in vain and achieved nothing.

Remember the twins who both applied for Tsinghua this year?

In 2013, Dad Du took his family on a trip to Beijing.

After visiting Tsinghua University, the two brothers, Du Yilang and Du Youlang, who were only in their third year at the time, decided to study here in the future.

At the time, the whole family thought it was a joke.

Unexpectedly, years later, the brothers actually turned their original goal into reality.

With goals, children have a direction and motivation to move forward.

Therefore, before the start of school, parents must set goals for the new semester with their children.

In this process, parents remember to help their children check whether the goal is appropriate, clear and specific.

At the same time, you can also discuss with your child how to break down the big goal into specific implementation steps for better implementation.

Prepare a school start gift for your child

I once saw a movie called "Citizen Kane".

The protagonist Kane is a big figure in the media world, but what he always misses is a sled he received in his childhood.

It turned out that Kane's family was poor when he was a child, and the only gift his father bought him was a sleigh, and together they gave the sled a name "rosebud".

It was this sled that allowed Kane to experience rare happiness in his tight life and have a lot of happy times.

Therefore, even if he later became famous, what he remembered deeply in his mind was the sled sent by his father.

As the new semester approaches, please carefully choose a gift for your child:

It doesn't need to be expensive, it can be a white shirt, a book that a child has mentioned, or a pen that a child has in mind.

If the child lacks anything, give him some "heart cards".

For example, "hug once coupon", "weekend playground ticket", "mom is not angry coupon" and so on.

Holding the gifts prepared by our parents, we believe that our children will be full of expectations for the new semester.

Clean your room and organize your bag the day before

There is a question on Zhihu: "My life is a mess, how can I change it?" ”

One of the high praises replied as follows:

"When you're in distress and can't figure out what life in front of you, cleaning the house and starting with the smallest things is the first step to change."

The same applies to children who are about to start school.

Before the start of school, many children will feel confused, and even shout "so annoying" and "painful".

At this time, you may wish to take the child to clean up the room together, sort out the sundries on the book, and temporarily lock the toys, figures, and comic books on it into the cabinet;

After cleaning up the house, you can also let the child organize his school bag and prepare the books and stationery to use.

When the room becomes clean and tidy little by little, the child's mood will also change from restless to calm and calm.

Counselor Meg said:

"The process of cleaning stimulates the production of endorphins, a natural pain reliever known as the pleasure hormone."

Let your child stop being anxious, starting from the moment the room is cleaned.

Wear formal clothes to send your child to school

In the movie "Boy Wonder", there is a scene that left a deep impression on me:

Auggie, a boy born with facial defects, wears a helmet wherever he goes, preventing others from seeing his face.

However, as Auggie grew older, her mother realized that her son could not always be like this, so she decided to send him to school.

Auggie, who has low self-esteem, does not have the courage to step into the door of the school.

To empower their son, Auggie's parents decided to send him to school together.

On Auggie's first day of school, Dad specially put on a brand new suit to remind his son of this important day.

It was also this special sense of ritual that allowed Auggie to overcome his fears, enter the school, and walk into this strange and new world for him.

There is a "55387" law in management, which means:

55% of a person's first impression is what he wears and dresses, 38% is his body language and tone, and only 7% of what he says.

When parents dress casually and sloppily send their children to school, no matter how to emphasize the importance of learning to their children on the way, children will most likely not listen carefully.

And when parents dress appropriately and formally, children will naturally take every day at school seriously.

Before school starts, why create a sense of ritual for children?

Professor Yang Peng, an education expert, said that education in the form of rituals can provide children with a suitable scene, let them change roles in time, see their strengths, and continuously enhance their self-confidence.

Yes, a sense of ritual is an essential nutrient in a child's childhood.

A small ceremony can leave a mark on the child's heart, give the child the strength to grow upward, and make them excellent and self-disciplined.

Give it a thumbs up and hope that every child can continue to work hard and reach the next level in the new semester.