As the old saying goes: "The debate between right and wrong, suffering and suffering, there is a clear distinction between the sun and the moon." "In life, it is inevitable that people will misunderstand, and under special circumstances, people who are misunderstood will be miserable and difficult to say, and they will become the object of misunderstanding in the world." However, justice is in the hearts of the people, and one day, the wrongs of the world will be cleared.
Since ancient times, there has been a saying in our society that filial piety comes first, and those who filial piety and respect elders can become a model for the world to learn, but if they cannot be filial to their parents, they will become the object of condemnation. Influenced by this concept, many Chinese children will give back to their parents when they grow up to repay their parents' nurturing grace.
However, in the former Chinese society, there was such a "filial piety" postdoctoral fellow. He came into the public eye because of his disappearance for 20 years, and the reason why he was condemned by the world was also because he refused to meet his mother with cancer. However, after the incident came to light, the postdoc's uncle testified and said he was not an ungrateful person. Who is this "unfilial" postdoc? Why did he have such a huge conflict with his parents?
The "filial piety" postdoc is Wang Yongqiang, who was born in the late 1960s, and as a child who grew up in a peasant family, Wang Yongqiang's childhood life was not happy.
In such an environment, Wang Yongqiang made up his mind to study hard, strive to get rid of such a tragic fate as soon as possible, and strive for a better future for himself. In the process of reading, Wang Yongqiang worked harder than many students, which also made him always rank among the best and became the object of pride of the teachers.
Because Wang Yongqiang's parents were unable to provide Wang Yongqiang with education, in order to continue his studies, he often lived in his uncle's house, which also made the relationship between Wang Yongqiang and his uncle better.
In the late 1980s, Wang Yongqiang was admitted to Soochow University, and in the following ten years, Wang Yongqiang completed his undergraduate, master's and doctoral studies, and was admitted to Peking University as a postdoctoral fellow in 1997.
For such a high-achieving student, his future is extremely bright, however, Wang Yongqiang's life is not as happy as people think. In the process of going out to study, Wang Yongqiang often sends home university subsidies, and the reason why Wang Yongqiang will behave in this way is also because of the coercion of his parents. If Wang Yongqiang did not send the subsidy fee home on time, his parents would go to the school and disrupt Wang Yongqiang's normal life.
At that time, Wang Yongqiang's parents asked him to find a job for his brother in suzhou, in addition, Wang Yongqiang's parents took a lot of "jobs" for Wang Yongqiang to do things for relatives and friends for the sake of face. For Wang Yongqiang, the study tasks at the graduate level have made him weak, and in this case, Wang Yongqiang also has the idea of escaping from his parents.
After graduating from graduate school, Wang Yongqiang chose to go to Beijing to study for a doctorate in order to better get rid of his original family, when Wang Yongqiang's parents forced Wang Yongqiang to send the subsidized money home several times, and this pressure made Wang Yongqiang more and more painful. In the late 1990s, Wang Yongqiang decided to enter the marriage hall with his girlfriend, and in order to avoid his parents interfering with his marriage, he did not invite his parents to the wedding scene in Beijing.
After getting married, Wang Yongqiang took his wife to study in Japan, and since then, Wang Yongqiang has also successfully escaped the threat of his parents. However, in the days that followed, Wang Yongqiang's parents heard Wang Yongqiang's Japanese phone call and often called and asked Wang Yongqiang to send money to his home.
Unable to bear such a life and unwilling to drag his wife down, Wang Yongqiang chose to go through divorce procedures with his wife and then went to live in the United States. In the following twenty years, Wang Yongqiang completely lost contact with his parents, and for Wang Yongqiang's parents, they obviously would not give up, but no matter how hard they tried, they could not find the whereabouts of their son.
In 2019, Wang Yongqiang's mother fell ill with cancer, and at that time, she hoped that the media would report the matter and help her find the whereabouts of her son. With the efforts of the reporters, Wang Yongqiang was finally contacted, but Wang Yongqiang always refused to reunite with his mother.
During this time, Wang Yongqiang became the object of criticism and criticism by netizens, but at this time, Wang Yongqiang's uncle took the initiative to stand up and explain to everyone the grievances that Wang Yongqiang had endured over the years, and at this point, people also understood why Wang Yongqiang broke off contact with his parents.
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Although filial piety has been a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation from ancient times to the present, for Wang Yongqiang, in the face of such parents, he cannot do it to provide them with old age and death. It can be seen that not all children can grow up in happy families, and for this part of the population, we should not morally kidnap them.
In real life, only relatives understand and understand each other, in order to harvest a truly happy and happy family, if parents overly squeeze their children, it will also lead to children can not withstand such pressure, choose to cut off the proper contact with their parents.
Reference: Peking University Dr. Wang Yongqiang