For some time, there was a word "native family" that was hotly discussed on the Internet. Then a piece of news appeared that once again made this topic appear in the eyes of the public.
The news is probably that a high-achieving student who went to the United States to study in the United States has not returned home for twenty years, and his mother, who has been bedridden for many years, wants to see her son for the last time before she dies, but this son did not come home in the end.
Many media have disclosed this matter, and under the hype, people think that this high-achieving student went to the United States to study and live a good life, and cruelly abandoned his seriously ill mother.
Later, people found out that this was a rebellious filial piety, but a difficult student who carried a heavy load, and this was Wang Yongqiang.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="5" > "unfilial son" refused to see the cancerous mother</h1>
The relevant media have reported such a search news, the main content is probably a mother who is terminally ill, hopes to see her son before dying, and asks her son to bear the cost of treatment.
The son of a high-talented student who went to the United States to study has been gone for more than twenty years without any news. As soon as the news came out, everyone discussed and began to look for his traces, but there was no news, and everyone condemned the son's bad behavior.
Parents bring us life, but also nurture us to grow up, which is a basic requirement of modern society, but also a basic ethic that reflects the brilliance of human nature.
The son is a postdoctoral fellow at Peking University, highly educated and well-paid, so most people feel resentful under the guidance of the media.
But there are also some people who remain sane, so some people speculate that there is another hidden plot behind this tragedy, and after investigation, it is found that this is indeed the case.
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In 1969, Wang Yongqiang was born in a poor family. Wang Yongqiang is the youngest, and it is said that the youngest is the most loved by his parents, but he not only did not get the love.
His mother had always planned not to let him study, reading cost money, and he went to work to reduce the burden on his father.
However, Wang Yongqiang, who had been the first to get from childhood, was reluctant to leave school, so he was finally admitted to Soochow University with his own efforts in an environment of constant quarrels with his mother.
He originally thought that this would be approved by his mother, but Wang Yongqiang's mother thought that it would cost her son money to study, and still did not plan to let him go to college.
Because wang Yongqiang's academic performance is excellent, Soochow University directly waived the tuition fee of his university, not only that, the school also subsidized four yuan of living expenses every month.
After his mother knew about it, he finally agreed to allow Wang Yongqiang to continue to go to school, but the living expenses given by the school must be handed over to her, and in the later college life, his mother not only asked for four yuan, but slowly more and more.
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Although life was very difficult, Wang Yongqiang's heart was constantly tormented, but he still did not defeat him. Wang Yongqiang continued to forge ahead, continued to achieve good results, and finally was admitted to the postdoctoral examination.
This is not only the peak of his studies, but also a turning point in his life, because he is so excellent, he has won the favor of the professor, and the professor's daughter is also married to Wang Yongqiang, who finally feels that he can see a bright future.
But the reality is harsh, especially for Wang Yongqiang. His parents were adamantly opposed to the marriage, because marriage required money, and his parents thought that Wang Yongqiang would give them less money.
However, Wang Yongqiang has given a large part of his salary of one hundred and twenty yuan a month to his parents, and the only thing left is a few dozen yuan to maintain basic food and housing.
Later, Wang Yongqiang learned to be smart and did not fully disclose his income. Because he has to think about the future, for his existing family.
But the paper wrapped can not hold the fire, his mother knows about saving money privately, and actually came directly to the school to make a big fuss, his classmates, his teachers all saw his embarrassment, which made Wang Yongqiang's already damaged self-esteem even more precarious.
The classmates and teachers did not despise him, but pity and sympathize with him. His mother was very disappointed in him and broke off contact with him.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="26" > to the United States for twenty years</h1>
After his mother's trouble, Wang Yongqiang continued to study at Su University without face, so he chose to study for a doctorate at Peking University further away. When he was studying at Peking University, he met and fell in love with the daughter of his mentor, and finally reached the step of talking about marriage.
He had no choice but to introduce his girlfriend to his mother and invite her to a wedding. His mother asked him directly for a thousand dollars and then took the train to his wedding, but because of the cost of marriage, he did not have so much money.
In this way, because he did not give money, his parents and relatives opposed the affair and refused to attend the wedding.
Wang Yongqiang's life has been imprisoned by his parents almost all his life, and staying away may be the last resort he can be more free in the future. So he made up his mind to tell his mother about his plans to go to Japan after marriage, and his mother asked to take all the family with them.
Already accustomed to his mother's difficulties, Wang Yongqiang chose to coax his mother, and finally went to Japan with his wife.
Unfortunately, his mother did not give up and has been clamoring for money, which also made his wife more and more dissatisfied, and finally Wang Yongqiang's second marriage failed again.
After the divorce, Wang Yongqiang completely broke with his mother, and finally went to the United States alone with his bags on his back for twenty years.
After the Wang Yongqiang incident was exposed by the media, at the beginning there was only insults and condemnation on the Internet, and after knowing the causes and consequences of the matter, we cannot simply say whether Wang Yongqiang is right or wrong, only sympathy and emotion.
Modern society is already a civilized world, as children should be filial piety, as parents should naturally respect the lives of children, although there will be contradictions between the two, but need to be maintained in a certain rationality.
We must realize that real life is not as beautiful as we think, not every family is harmonious, and there are those who have bad moral qualities and are difficult to assume parenthood.
So much so that our postdoc Wang Yongqiang unfortunately had such a tragedy and finally ran away for twenty years.
References: "Analects", "Changzhou Daily", "Wujin Daily"