In the Internet age, parents are the most solid wall between daughters and demons

In the Internet age, parents are the most solid wall between daughters and demons.

The bottom line of these online social networks must be taught to children as soon as possible.

Author | Oops mom

Recently, the experience of a Henan father made the parents of countless girls' families feel afraid.

The father first began to pay attention to his daughter's "abnormality" in the second semester of the fifth grade.

During that time, he found that his daughter often got up at night, which was not normal.

After consulting with his wife, he carried out a surprise attack in the night. The wife suddenly opened the door and rushed in to take a look, only to find that her daughter was still chatting with netizens in the middle of the night.

Later, he found that his daughter had 4 mobile phones, one bought by her parents, one of her mother's old mobile phones, and two of which her daughter secretly bought with her own money and pocket money.

What is even more unexpected is that the chat content in her daughter's mobile phone is more "spicy eyes" than a "hot eye".

Some netizens marked "sister" left a message asking:

"You don't lack money, do you have anything to buy?" If it is lacking, my sister will buy it for you.

My sister told you a few male friends, you go and accompany them. ”

Some are in the name of "anime", in various groups of CPs in the group, chatting about adult topics of having children and falling in love, and even posting some anime pornographic pictures.

Those netizens who have formed CP with their daughters have sent content that is even more unbearable.

At every turn, he "kissed his wife", said some ambiguous and pornographic words, and used red envelopes to induce his daughter to take exposed body photos.

Seeing the nude photos uploaded by his daughter, the father was shocked.

I can't imagine that my daughter, who has always been well-behaved and has excellent grades, has four or five online "boyfriends" in private.

I don't understand why, obviously I pay attention to sex education, my daughter will fall into such a "trap".

In case he doesn't notice that his daughter is "wrong" and doesn't know how to turn over those hidden chat records, his daughter is likely to fall deeper and deeper into the virtual online world.

Perhaps in the eyes of many parents, things like this are just isolated and accidental.

But dig deeper, and you'll find:

The online social problems faced by girls are far more complex and dangerous than we think.

Especially ignorant adolescent girls can easily fall into the "trap" of bad guys.

The online world of adolescent girls is full of crises!

Not long ago, a father in Taishan exposed his junior high school daughter posting exposure photos on social apps.

The daughter of K Ge, who was originally in the App room, suddenly received an invitation from others to add friends, and followed each other and chatted without much thought.

Chatting and chatting, the other party kept putting forward new requirements:

Clap on the legs, arms, collarbones... Even nude photos.

If you don't cooperate, the other party will show off half and threaten and say: Hehe, I saved your collarbone photo.

Coincidentally.

A few years ago, 15-year-old Yuanyuan met a QQ netizen.

Soon after becoming a friend, the other party made a request for naked chat, promising to pay a naked chat fee of 3,000 yuan to induce Yuanyuan to agree.

However, the money was not received, and the other party's demands became more and more excessive.

In less than a month, the other party proposed a video naked chat, claiming that if he did not agree, he would publish the photos taken on the Internet.

In this way, the timid and fearful Yuanyuan agreed to the other party's perverted requests again and again: do indecent actions and molest themselves.

was "violated" by the air for a month, Yuanyuan was tormented, and wanted to get rid of all this, but was controlled by the other party's mind, and almost agreed to meet offline to open a house.

Fortunately, my father discovered the clue in time to stop the next tragedy.

Adolescent girls who are not deeply involved in the world, their ability to filter information is not enough, their ability to distinguish right from wrong is insufficient, and they will probably be unable to resist in the face of the bombing offensive of strangers.

Once the parents and elders around them do not know who they are talking to and what kind of things they are experiencing.

A momentary negligence will bring lifelong pain and regret.

In 2020, a 14-year-old girl in Chengdu met businessman Qiu online.

After several intimidations and inducements, Xiaoxiao sent a private photo of himself and agreed to the invitation to meet in private.

As a result, he was violated 8 times, pregnancy, induced labor, and suffered severe physical injuries, and Xiaoxiao suffered severe depression because of this, and finally jumped to his death.

Shocking news together is alerting us:

Behind those seemingly beautiful youths, there are dark traps that adults cannot imagine.

You think that children are just looking at the screen and reading pictures and texts, brushing information, but those online "big bad wolves" are always looking for prey and showing their fangs at any time.

The online world in which girls live is not simple at all, full of lure of interest and dangerous atmosphere.

If you are not careful, you can make a big mistake in every minute.

The plight of adolescent girls should not be underestimated!

Perhaps some ignorant adults will throw the problem on the child.

I think it must be that the girl is shameless and greedy for small and cheap, so that the bad guys can take advantage of it and put themselves in a desperate situation.

In fact, these are precisely the growth difficulties of adolescent girls, which deserve the attention and deep thinking of every parent.

The girl who owns 4 mobile phones at the beginning knows that her behavior is wrong.

But many classmates around me are playing, and if you don't do this, you will look very out of place.

Every time I listen to someone, I want to join.

Such psychological motivations and reactions are especially normal for adolescent girls.

Studies have shown that adolescence is an important stage in girls' identity exploration, when they pay more attention to their status and recognition in social circles.

Brain science experts also point out that girls' brains are more focused on interpersonal and communication.

Unlike boys, who are easily addicted to games, girls like to use mobile phones for socializing, sharing, online chat, online dating and so on.

Especially in adolescence, girls who are already sensitive and eager to interact with the outside world are more likely to fall into online traps and be harassed and attacked online.

Girls' rights advocate and well-known American author Malinda once described the online social situation of teenage girls as follows:

"Their lives depend on social media and they never go offline for fear of missing something.

They're always texting, updating their Facebook and cyberspace, tweeting Instagram photos on their iPhones, and getting excited and excited to get a response within seconds.

Some girls also put their phones next to their beds when they slept, and throughout the night, the sound of Didi prompted them to have a new Weibo or a new post. ”

Countless adolescent girls, close to the online world every day, expose themselves to strangers, and lack sufficient rationality and calmness.

When encountering those "big bad wolves" with evil intentions, a few sweet words of demagoguery, and threatening intimidation, they will suddenly have no masters, mess with themselves, and fall into the trap of bad guys step by step.

Xiaoye, a 13-year-old girl from Qixia, met a netizen of the opposite sex online by chance.

The other party's various rhetoric coaxed her, making her mistakenly think that she had met "true love", and after being sexually assaulted, she did not know that she was hurt.

The Internet, for most adolescent girls, is like a "Pandora's box", and there is always a strong attraction.

They thought they could meet social, recognition, psycho-emotional needs here, but they were pulled into the abyss without paying attention.

Visionary parents will give their children the first pass

"Girl Crisis?! In the book, author Sun Yunxiao emphasized:

Parents play a unique and irreplaceable role in dealing with girls' love and sexual troubles.

In today's online age, traps are everywhere, and bad guys are hiding in the dark at any time to lure girls.

As parents, we must help our children to take the important first pass and prevent problems before they happen.

The bottom line of these 7 online social networking must be advised to girls as soon as possible:

First: do not believe the rhetoric of netizens.

In the face of online chat, sweet words from strange netizens in dating apps, and all kinds of love hints and rhetoric, keep a normal mind.

In the case of being unable to confirm and identify the other party, do not trust anyone, but always remind yourself: strangers you have never met are the most unreliable.

Second: Do not disclose your personal information and privacy.

When browsing the web, or browsing forums and comment areas, do not leave personal information such as your name, age, phone number, and home address.

Don't post your private information and body parts online, so as not to leave a handle.

Third: Don't accommodate anyone, especially in physical matters.

Teach girls to learn self-respect, self-love, and correctly grasp the scale of socializing with netizens and friends of the opposite sex.

Don't feel "embarrassed" for behaviors that infringe on your body and feelings, no matter how much others lobby and induce, you must decisively refuse and stay away in time.

Even if the other party is a friend, or recommended by a friend, it will not work.

Fourth: Do not accept unreasonable hospitality and gifts.

When others express appreciation, good feelings, or give money and gifts for no reason, don't be deceived by these superficial "friendships" and mistakenly think that the other party cares and values themselves.

Even if it is a simple and heart-warming word, a cup of sweet milk tea, or a small snack, be vigilant.

There is no free lunch in the world, and there must be a trick hidden in the unprovoked offering.

Fifth: Do not meet any strange netizens alone.

Teach girls to have basic safety awareness, no matter how much you want to meet netizens, don't go alone.

Because at the other end of the network, what is hidden is that people are ghosts, and no one knows.

Sixth: You can't go home later than 9 p.m.

We cannot restrict adolescent girls from going out and have their own entertainment and socializing, but we must be home by 9 p.m., except for late self-study at school.

Night is a time of high incidence of accidents and dangers, do not expose yourself to dangerous or potentially harmful places, and protect yourself to the maximum.

Seventh: There can be no hiding from parents.

Parents should use enough warmth, acceptance and tolerance to let their daughters know that parents can be trusted, and they can communicate and ask their parents for help at any time if they have problems.

No matter what happens, even if the child is hurt or hit, parents must protect the child with love and care.

As a mother, the girl's same-sex elder, you must learn empathy and empathy, so that children understand that their own thoughts and confusion are normal, and there is no need to feel ashamed.

And dads, more actively participate in girls' rules and bottom line education, help girls learn to deal with the opposite sex, and reduce social anxiety.

Adopted daughters know the dangers of the world, especially in adolescence, and the difficulties faced by girls in growing up are far more severe and complex than boys.

This requires parents to accompany and plan ahead, telling girls to guard the bottom line and learn to protect themselves.

I also hope that each of us can join hands and contribute our strength, speak out bravely, and fight the devil.

Let children make good friends and meet good people in a clear, friendly and friendly living environment, and truly enjoy the beauty of life.