He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
What are the happy moments in life?
The moment the work is done, stand up and stretch;
After wandering outside for a long time, the moment he returned to his hometown and lay in his own bed;
No matter how late it is home, there are meals prepared by parents on the table;
Life may be uneventful, but there are lovers and children in the company.
Family is never a matter of one person;
A family gradually goes uphill, relying on the efforts of the family, not the ability of one person.
If your family shows the following signs, your family is going uphill and will become richer.
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Family relations are harmonious and each performs its own duties
The sense of atmosphere and happiness of the family always comes first.
Back home, there are hot meals, children's laughter, parents' expectations, and lovers' waiting.
Will these moments make you feel that all your efforts, efforts and hard work are worth it?
Contrarily:
If you return home, the meal is served coldly overnight;
Your lover is lying on the sofa playing with her mobile phone, ignoring your love;
The child cries and makes trouble;
Your parents still accuse you from time to time.
Will you be happy with such a family atmosphere?
I'm afraid that when you think of going home, you will have all kinds of reluctance in your heart; I'd rather sit quietly in the car for a while than go upstairs right away.
Family harmony is related to the luck of the family.
Because there are "energy fields" in human bodies.
With family members with a lot of positive energy, your aura will be amplified and your energy field will increase.
What happens next?
You work with passion, you have the courage to socialize, you have the ability to do things, and you often encounter good luck.
Essentially, it's because: family brings you joy, happiness and peace of mind, allowing you to be more focused and feel more at ease doing something.
"Home and all things prosper" is an eternal truth.
Saw a set of cartoons on the Internet:
A man intends to end his life, he jumps from more than a dozen floors.
Seeing the "variety of beings" in each layer of windows, it seems to have gone through a cycle of reincarnation.
The lover is arguing, the child is crying;
The mother-in-law fought with her daughter-in-law;
The husband drops things at home;
In a cold home, there is only one person;
In the end, the picture stays with a happy family of three, the husband and wife snuggle and sit in the sun, and the children watch the drama in the living room.
This set of comics reflects the variety of life.
Every family has its own happiness and problems;
The key is how to choose, how to operate, how to change.
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The relationship between husband and wife is reliable and rock-solid
What is the best state for husband and wife?
You have to, you can't.
There is a deep tacit understanding between the two people, a very strong feeling, and an unconditional trust and support for each other.
When a husband encounters a low point in life:
The wife will not blame, will not complain, will not abuse, and will not say something regretful.
It's about standing behind him, helping him, comforting him, encouraging him, supporting him out of the trough.
When the wife is in a bad mood:
The husband will silently accompany him, bring tea and water, help the wife relieve anxiety, and enlighten her emotions.
The most important factor in a family that goes uphill is: husband and wife.
A strong relationship between husband and wife can resolve all difficulties and obstacles;
The relationship between husband and wife "looks like a god", and it becomes a catastrophe and flies separately.
Even if the road ahead is long and unpredictable, you can say to the other party: I am with you.
Even if the road ahead is muddy and full of obstacles, you can tell the other person: I am here.
A good family relationship tests the determination and unity of the couple.
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Overall mood is stable and positive
The family goes uphill, and it is inseparable from the overall "emotional stability" of the family.
This point is simple and simple;
It's hard to say, but it's actually hard.
In fact, most families are unable to achieve emotional stability.
Because people's emotions are contagious.
For example:
When my husband came home from work, he happily told you: I have raised my salary.
Even if the wife has troubles, seeing her husband happy, the inner worries will be solved a lot.
After the child goes home, he directly throws the schoolbag on the sofa, sullen;
Parents were already chatting happily, but they would instantly become nervous.
Emotions affect, and the emotions of family members are passed on to each other.
How to achieve emotional stability?
First of all, have a strong "empathy ability".
When encountering contradictions, do not rush to accuse, do not rush to abuse, but stabilize your emotions and consider problems from the perspective of the other party.
Ease your emotions first, and then actively communicate.
Second, leave the good emotions to the family.
Are there such people around you?
"Accuse internally, curry favor externally".
They are used to leaving their bad temper to their families, but their good temper to outsiders.
This kind of behavior will only hurt family relationships.
To treat our families, we should have stable emotions, tolerance and understanding.
Finally, learn to understand each other's difficulties.
Men understand their wives' pressures, and wives understand their husbands' hardships.
Mutual gratitude, mutual encouragement, mutual support and praise.
With such a mode of getting along, how can the family not live well?
Today's Topic:
How many points does your family occupy?
What do you think are the characteristics of a family that is better over?
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