In recent years, there has been a very common phenomenon in society, that is, the parents of children are working outside, and the elderly in the family get up early and greedily take children in the dark.
Many young people think this is very normal, after all, they need to work to earn money to support their families, and there is nothing wrong with being brought by the elderly.
But in fact, they were only for their own convenience, but they never thought about their parents. It can be said that this social "trend" can be called a "new type of filial piety".
Ms. Chen is 53 years old this year, her daughter is married, and her life in her hometown is also very peaceful.
She had thought she could raise herself and live a comfortable little life, but the world was unpredictable, and she still needed to live for her children.
Ms. Chen's daughter recently gave birth to a child, but she wanted to go out to work and did not want to get up early every day to take care of the children in the dark, so she hit the idea on the two elderly families.
At first, she was looking for her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law found an excuse to reject her directly, and in desperation, she could only find Ms. Chen. Ms. Chen could not get away with it, and finally could only agree.
Ms. Chen is weak, but she has to get up early every day to help take care of the child; the child is sick and uncomfortable, and Ms. Chen is blamed by her daughter and son-in-law. Ms. Chen works hard every day, but her daughter does not know how to understand Ms. Chen at all.
As the saying goes: raise children to prevent old age, but this is not the case in today's society. From teeth and teeth to growing up to starting a family, parents have paid money, time, energy and strong love for their children.
But when the child grows up, some parents will still face the child's "filial piety", which is really unbearable.
In addition, what are the types of filial piety?
First, nibble on the old
During the study period, when there is no ability to make a living, there is no problem in being raised by parents. But after completing school, after having the ability to take responsibility, and still being raised by parents, it is a bit unspeakable.
This phenomenon is widespread in today's society, which is what we call "nibbling on the old". There is no doubt that "nibbling on the old" is not filial piety, but there are always some "children" who do their best to suck the blood of their parents and break the hearts of their parents.
Second, speak harshly to parents
Nowadays, many young people are not satisfied outside, they will vent their emotions at home and speak ill of their parents. This kind of behavior is filial piety, do not use "in a hurry" and "unconscious" to argue.
When talking to parents, we must understand each other and do not treat parents as "trash cans", otherwise, it will make parents chill.
Third, empty nesters
"Working away from home" is the idea of many young people, who hope that they can break out of their own piece of the sky.
But they ignore the feelings of their parents at home, and the few companions and few phone calls make parents worry about themselves all day long.
After the parents are old, what they lack is companionship, turning their parents into "empty nesters", how to say that they are filial piety?
How should parents teach their children to be filial piety?
First, put an end to coddling
The reason for the "bear child" is inseparable from the doting of parents. The doting of parents will form a child's dependence on their parents to a certain extent, and it is likely that they will become old people or selfish people in the future.
Therefore, parents must pay attention to their children's behavior in life, correct their children's wrong habits, and do not blindly indulge their children, so as to let their children embark on a "filial piety" road.
Second, lead by example
When the child is young, the most contact is the parents, the parents are filial piety, good to the elders, the child will naturally be filial piety;
If parents don't understand filial piety, how can children understand? Therefore, parents must lead by example in life and play a good leading role for their children.
Filial piety is not a slogan, but requires children to implement every little thing in life.
My parents raised me young, and my adoptive parents grew old, and this is the essence of filial piety. No matter how bitter life is, you must also leave some sweetness to your dearest parents.