How to beat a child scientifically and effectively?
This is probably a national issue that we urgently need to solve!
Although various parenting books and expert theories tell us:
Hitting a child is not right, and it will leave a shadow of childhood later!
I understand the truth,
But after seeing the bear child demon scene!
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The old mother endured again and again,
Silently recite "biological, biological" over and over again.
Experienced "endure ovarian cysts for a while, take a step back from ovarian hyperplasia" and so on
After various twists and turns in the psychological journey,
Burst out in "Punch a Refreshing, Punch a Heart"!
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But to beat a child, we really have to pay attention to [science],
Today is the International Day of No Children,
HKUST will talk about how to beat children scientifically!
Dispute over tutoring assignments,
An 8-year-old boy in Wuhan was accidentally poked 7 centimeters in the back of the head with a pencil by his father!
Because the child did not obey, the mother kicked the child to death with both feet!
There are many more such shocking events.......
It is too easy for parents to hit their children in a state of rage and can't stop the brakes!
The child is not a tool for parents to vent their anger,
No matter how angry the parents are, these 5 parts must not be beaten!
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The first is influenced by the original family!
In my generation, there are a few children who can grow up without being beaten.
Compared with how much parenting knowledge we learn and how many books we read,
The original family is a little stronger.
When the truth meets reality, helpless,
We instinctively think of the most familiar way of dealing with it – the approach of our parents!
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A child who is beaten up becomes a parent,
Probably also emotional and irritable like his parents!
Even if you take "don't beat up children" as the bottom line,
But "behavioral violence" translates into "verbal violence."
The second is parental emotional management!
Parents' emotions should be "loose and not blocked".
Can't help but beat up children in real life,
Then regret swearing not to fight again,
Next time, the parents who don't control it are the majority!
In the face of the bear child demon,
Learning to control emotions has become a compulsory course for parents!
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Wait for the mood to stabilize,
We analyze the reasons why children make mistakes -
Why did he do that?
If it is an unintentional mistake,
Using language to communicate can teach children,
We don't have to fight!
And sometimes the child is intentional,
The internal reason may be that our parents are at fault first,
Children's mistakes are often a reminder of what we've overlooked.
When children feel that they are not accepted, they will desperately demonize; they will even brush up on the sense of existence in a way that adults hate;
When the child feels that he is not cared for, he will have behavioral degradation, using the most primitive crying to seek attention and prove that he is loved;
When children are not respected, they may do it in a rebellious way, just to let the parents see themselves;
Although these behaviors of children make us angry and half dead,
But for their sake of all kinds of blind tossing,
Probably just to get our attention!
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Thinking about this,
Maybe the parents' anger has been mostly gone!
Professor Li Meijin once said: Punishment is actually a kind of protection.
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If necessary, we can hit the child.
Because let them understand:
Take responsibility for what you have done wrong,
Let him have a sense of awe, play a deterrent role,
That's what it really means for us to hit a child when we need to!
But remember:
This way the warning method can be twice,
If you rely on "fighting" education for the next time, you will definitely not be able to do it!
Hitting a child also requires skillful playing:
For example, we can find a fixed punishment tool,
Use this tool to punish your child if necessary.
★ Fight a child-specific artifact ★
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Once the child sees it,
Just realize that "I made a mistake",
Know the seriousness of the matter,
Thus creating fear and knowing how to reflect on oneself.
Remember to tell your child when it's over
"Even though you did something wrong and Mom/Dad beat you up, we still love you!"
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Let the child feel that he is loved and accepted,
It's the best way to counteract the impact of a beating on the heart!
After the child's mood stabilizes,
Be sure to sit down and do a good job of going through the whole thing.
Tell your child completely:
Why you are beaten, why it is not right, what is right, what is dangerous, who will be hurt, what the consequences may be.........
Believe that through warm and rational communication,
Let the child remember the lesson at the same time,
It can also soothe the grievances and hurts in the heart!
Finally, keep in mind:
Our original intention in punishing children is love,
And not hurt!
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