Colleague Zhang Jie was recently choked by her son's anger and was really upset.
Over the years, Sister Zhang and her lover have worked hard, only gave birth to a son, and have been looking forward to raising him and getting ahead, and the couple enjoys the joy of heaven.
To this end, he also did not hesitate to spend a lot of money to send his son to study abroad, preferring to shrink his clothes and food at home, rather than let his children suffer a grievance outside.
It is reasonable to say that parents have paid so much, children should understand their hard work, and work hard to learn in return.
As a result, when Sister Zhang and her son called some time ago, after asking their son for warmth, they slightly spit out bitter water, who thought that their son was half joking and half serious: "Isn't this a matter of course?" I don't owe you anything! ”
After listening to her son's words, Sister Zhang only felt a basin of ice water poured on her head, as if she had raised a "white-eyed wolf" over the years.
When the child was young, he often put "Isn't it all for me to spend money for mom and dad" hanging on the lips, Zhang Jie still feels very cute, think about it is also such a truth, think that as long as the child grows up to be filial piety, how to be good.
However, it is only now that she understands that the mantra of the child's childhood has already laid the groundwork: my parents are willing and reasonable for me, and naturally do not need to return.
Growing up is not filial piety, when I was a child, I would often say: Aren't my parents all for me?
Modern parents attach unprecedented importance to their children's education, but many times everyone is bent on making their children excellent, but they neglect to teach them to learn filial piety.
And once the child often hangs on the words such as "aren't all parents for me", "aren't parents making money for me", "it is natural to be good to me", then it is very dangerous, and such children will take the love of their parents for granted and will not have any gratitude.
In 2018, a 12-year-old boy in Hunan wielded a knife and brutally killed his mother, after the incident, he neither feared nor felt guilty, threw the crime tools into the fish pond, and said to people as "mother in town" if nothing happened.
The most chilling thing was that after he was caught, he shouted loudly: "I didn't kill anyone else, I killed my mother." ”
In the book "Special Heart and Special Love", it is mentioned: "The love that Chinese parents give to their children is not too little, but too much." ”
Indeed, many parents love and sacrifice everything when their children are young, and they are eager to hold him in the palm of their hands and cannot bear to let them experience the hardships of life.
So the child naturally thinks that "what my parents do for me is what should be done", and only knows how to blindly ask for it, and does not know how to reciprocate.
Even when they grow up, this selfish psychology will still be buried in the bottom of their hearts, indifferent and selfish to their parents, and even when their parents cannot meet their wishes, they will be dissatisfied and complain, and they will regard their parents as "enemies" and become "unfilial children" in everyone's eyes.
How to cultivate filial piety in children?
Some time ago, there was a video of Shaanxi Baoji on the Internet that was very popular.
A little boy wearing a red scarf pushed his mother to the ground on the road, crying and kicking him hard with his foot.
The security guard on the side of the road could not look down and was ready to stop him, but the little boy yelled at him, arrogant and terrified.
In this regard, some netizens commented: "This child will be abolished regardless of teaching, and it is impossible to expect him to support his parents in the future." ”
Indeed, imagine how can a child who beats his mother on the street observe filial piety and honor the elderly when he grows up?
If we want to let the child grow up to be filial piety, we should pay attention to the child's filial piety education from an early age and cultivate his sense of gratitude, otherwise it will be too late to educate the child when the three views are formed.
Some educators believe: "Filial piety is a habit that must be cultivated from an early age." ”
When the child is still young, we may wish to consciously cultivate the child's filial piety habit and root filial piety in the child's heart.
For example, guide children to share what they like, help their children develop the habit of sharing, and over time, children will naturally know how to express concern for their parents.
For example, to avoid spoiling children and discipline them too relaxed, parents should appropriately establish rules for their children and correct their children's filial piety and deeds in a timely manner.
Another point that needs to be noted is that teaching children to learn filial piety focuses on "inheritance", and how to treat our parents when our children are old.
Only when children witness their parents' words and deeds can they unconsciously realize the importance of filial piety, know how to honor their parents, and pass on filial piety, and parents are the best teachers for children.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
The word filial piety in the Book of the Later Han Dynasty is indicated as follows: "Filial piety, the crown of a hundred deeds, and the beginning of all goodness." ”
Since ancient times, filial piety to parents is the most beautiful character of our Chinese nation, I hope that every parent can attach importance to filial piety education, pass on the concept of "filial piety" to their children from an early age, and create a pure and decent family style.
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