Regarding children's homework, there is a long-standing passage on the Internet: when not writing homework, the mother is kind and filial; when writing homework, the chicken immediately jumps.
In just one sentence, it truly reflects the current situation of children and parents in most families when writing homework: children resist, parents are angry, and finally parents use force to suppress children.
Many parents practice that their children start to write homework as soon as they come home from school. It is a pity that the child urges to move, and does not move if he does not urge.
Often those children whose parents are pressed are often dragged out until 9 or 10 pm and still writing homework.
What is the truth about children's reluctance to write homework? Is it that children won't? Or is there a problem with the communication between the parent and the child?
In fact, the truth that most of the time children do not write homework is that what children resist is not homework, but the attitude of parents.
If the child can help the child develop a good homework habit in the primary school stage, it is no longer difficult to write homework.
If you want your child not to resist writing homework, you first need to make your child interested in writing homework, so that writing homework becomes a happy and pleasant thing.
For details, please refer to the following methods:
First, when you come home from school, give your child 10 to 20 minutes to relax.
If you ask a child, what do you hate most mom and dad asking you?
At least 80% to 90% of children will say that the first thing they hate when their parents come home from school is to ask, "Is the homework done?"
Think about it, if we come home after a day of work, we are actually very tired, if the family still comes to you and asks, "Is today's work done?" The leader is not satisfied? "Do you feel upset?"
The same is true for children, who have very limited space for activities to go to school during the day, which is continuous mental work, which is not a simple and easy thing.
When children return home after school, they also want to have a relaxed, relaxing time before starting to write their homework for the day.
Therefore, after school, please give your child 10 to 20 minutes to relax.
You can chat with your child, eat fruit, or do some games that children like, or watch an episode of cartoons that children love to watch, tell some stories, do some parent-child interactions and so on.
When the child's mood is relaxed, the brain is also rested, and the natural mood is also happy. If the child does his homework with this kind of satisfaction, he will be more conscious and no longer procrastinate.
Second, don't force your child to write homework, so that your child feels that writing homework is a chore.
Many parents will reflect that the child's homework is to push and move, and if he does not push, he will not move, which really makes parents anxious to catch fire.
We try to think about it from the child's point of view, and it must be that the child deeply feels that writing homework is a very distressing, even a little painful, and will have such a reaction.
If such a situation occurs, it is often the parents' attitude towards their children's homework that is too intense.
Only when people face happy and happy things, they will be more active and not procrastinate.
Every child is willing to listen to the teacher at the beginning, hoping that he can complete his homework on time and get encouragement and praise from the teacher.
After investigation, it was found that those children who were unwilling to write homework and became very resistant often because their parents used some less correct methods and attitudes to make children resist writing homework.
Therefore, it is not the homework that children resist, but the attitude of parents.
Using our work as an analogy, I believe that every workplace person wants to do a good job and get the appreciation and praise of the leadership.
If the leader finishes the work and still pats you on the shoulder and says, "I believe that you can do a good job, and it is reassuring to hand things over to you." "Hearing such encouragement from leaders, I believe that everyone is willing to do everything possible to get things done and make perfect differences."
But if the leader puts a job that originally takes 8 hours to be done, limits you to 5 hours to finish, and from time to time comes to urge, supervise and inspect, how will you feel?
Even threaten you, if you can't finish it, you will be deducted from your salary, or if you can't finish it, you will be fired, think about it, if so, are you still in the mood to work well?
In fact, the same is true for children, every child wants to have good grades, be valued in school and class, and be encouraged and praised at home.
If parents can understand their children and help them overcome the difficulties of homework and develop good habits together in the initial stage, then doing homework will become a relaxed and pleasant thing.
Third, let the child feel that the parent cares about the child, not the homework.
There were once two children chatting and A asked, "Do you think your mom and dad care about you?" ”
B shook his head and sighed and said, "Don't care about me, my mom and dad only care about my homework." ”
A wondered, "Why do you say that?"
B said, "Because every time I come home from school, Mom and Dad ask first, are you done with your homework?" The rest never ask. ”
If the child feels that the parents care about the homework, but do not care about themselves, the child will have the emotion of resisting the homework, it is not difficult to understand.
Originally, parents love their children unconditionally, but they will make children feel that their parents love homework more than they love themselves, which should be a problem with their parents' attitude.
When there is a mistake or error in the child's homework, when the parents want to reprimand and scold the child, they should first think about it, compared to the healthy growth of the child, is the scolding now the most appropriate time?
At the same time, when communicating with children in normal times, you need to constantly send a signal to your children: learning is very important, but parents are more concerned about you than children.
In the child's early childhood, especially in the primary school stage, parents need to pay more time and energy to accompany their children, care for their children, and help children form the habit of consciously doing homework.
In fact, the IQ of each child is not much different, in order to make the child's academic performance good, parents need to pay more patience and care, pay attention to some details.
Sometimes, parents need to reflect on whether their attitude towards their children is appropriate in their children's homework.
A little change in the attitude and concept of parents may affect the child's life.
Source: Homeschooling
Producer: Mao Yaming
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