Wen \ Jiang Zuo Mei Niang, Xuan Jie
The national K song has counted the song with the highest point of view among men in the whole country, and guess which one?
It is actually the interlude "Daughter Love" in the old version of "Journey to the West"!
Yes, you read that right, this tender song is a song that boldly confesses to the sweetheart, not that women like to sing more, but men like to sing more.
Are you also a little curious about why? To be honest, I used to wonder after I knew this answer, and then I used a man's thinking to think about it, and I knew why.
To answer this question, we must first start with the needs of men, especially men who have passed the period of adolescent impulses, and have begun to mature.
A young lad may still be just a face control, but for a mature middle-aged man, his desire is not limited to this. Like the king of the daughter country that Tang Monk met, young and beautiful, and obsessive and gentle, if the king is a career, then the family is a successful career, such a woman is almost 360 degrees without grooves, men do not like this, what kind of will they like?
Yes, in fact, for men, the best mate candidate in their minds is such a woman who is beautiful, rich and talented, and is very dedicated to him.
Yesterday's divorced two years of neighbor Li Sister is going to get married again, the object is actually a returnee doctor, the doctor's income is not cheap, looks Sven, many people said that they did not expect that people to middle age, Li sister can also hand over peach blossom luck!
The implication is that how could a woman like Sister Li, who had been divorced once and had a daughter who was still carrying an oil bottle, bump into such great luck?
But in my opinion, Sister Li is not as simple as they think.
As it is said in "Beauty is a Cruel Character":
"Those guys who look pretty, who do well, who live beautifully, who think beautifully, are cruel characters."
Where is the fierceness?
01. Fierce in the pretty
Knock on the blackboard: Although women can attract many places to men, from ancient times to the present, looking beautiful has always been the first condition.
Maybe you can laugh at men for being superficial, but the truth is: they are such people, what can be done? Moreover, liking beautiful people and things is human instinct.
So, don't women who are not beautiful deserve to be liked by men? The answer is yes, but it is not worthy of a better man!
Li Xiaoyi once mentioned an example that surprised the author in "Beautiful Women Are Cruel Characters".
At that time, there was a woman who made the author shine in front of the author, the temperament came out of the dust, the consultant in the beauty salon told the author that this was a woman who did maintenance in their hospital 20 years ago, so the persistent maintenance surprised the author, so she asked, is it that this woman does not need to work, and the person in the beauty salon told her:
"No, she runs a company herself, and her career is pretty good."
Subsequently, the beauty consultant added that even if many people know a lot of beautiful secret recipes, few people can adhere to it, and in addition to persistence, diet, exercise and personal maintenance must also be cooperated, it is impossible to rely entirely on the beauty salon to become beautiful, and the price of beauty is hard work.
That's a brilliant statement.
As summarized in the book:
"Beauty won't tell you how many kilometers she's run, how much sweat she's shed, how many pairs of broken shoes she's thrown, how many years she's not slept on her stomach in exchange for a tight muscle and flawless face."
And our protagonist Li Jie, since work, has always had the habit of fitness, going to the gym twice a week, once going for a run, for more than ten years, and has never changed.
And that's not all, when I learned about her other beauty habits, I found that she did the same thing as some of the beauties mentioned by the author in "Beautiful Women Are Cruel Characters".
"In order not to grow neck wrinkles, 20 years only pillow neck pillow, never use a high and soft pillow; the key to keeping no fine lines around the eyes, delaying the wrinkles is more than 15 years of sleeping on your back, sleeping on your side is easy to wrinkles; 5 minutes a day upside down; the habit of running has been insisted on for nearly 20 years; one mask in the morning and one in the evening, three layers of different effects at night."
Sure enough, "There are no ugly women in this world, only lazy women" This is really not an empty phrase. We think that beautiful women are born beautiful, in fact, beautiful women after the age of thirty rely on good habits and how many years of persistence, which is the result of a high degree of self-discipline, they are really cruel to themselves.
02. Be fierce in the ability
There's a quote in "Beauty Is a Cruel Character" that is pithy, it says:
"The truth is very poignant: you can't be cruel to yourself, it's life's turn to be cruel to you, the lazy people you steal in your life, the people you can't leave, the wasted time, just like the suffering you eat, one day will return you in a special way - maybe become a bloated but unhealthy middle-aged woman, or become a Xiao Hong-style complaining woman who is scarred by feelings, or become a haggard woman who is not happy or insecure at all." 」
Yes, many women before getting married, most of them are holding a kind, find a good man, and then stick to the ideal of life, but the reality is, you are so dependent on men, if you do not have enough skills and confidence, will men make you dependent?
Just like Sister Li, Sister Li herself has her own career, she has a new media company, and she has opened a gym, from the perspective of material strength, she is more than enough with that returnee.
Sister Li was not so capable at the beginning, and her achievements were also related to the blow of divorce to her.
When her husband betrayed, she gave her husband a chance, but her husband did not cherish it, she could not bear it, and finally cut off the love thread and divorced decisively.
At that time, in order to be able to divorce quickly, Sister Li did not worry about her ex-husband in terms of property, which led to her dilemma when she was just divorced, she took the child alone, and she had to work, which really tasted the hardships of life. It wasn't until she was later moved by a sentence in a book called "Beautiful Women Are Fierce Characters" that she began to fight back.
In this book, Li Xiaoyi says:
"Everyone has their own areas of expertise, and in those areas the sense of security is overwhelming. Expand such an area in your life, bring a full sense of security, and walk freely. ”
This sentence is like a bright light, illuminating the road ahead of Sister Li, she temporarily let the child take care of her mother, she really found her own suitable field to work hard, and soon the income is getting higher and higher, and finally realizes the freedom of wealth.
She had considered remarrying, and her goal was to marry better than her ex-husband, and she really met.
Some people say, does it have to be able to do it? Of course not, but you have to admit that career ability, that will definitely give you a very good foundation and foundation, of course, if you are not very good at career, but you do a good job, tidy up the house, is a small master at home, or you are generous, thoughtful, can let men have a warm home, have a relaxed mother-in-law, neighborhood relationship, then, this is also the ability of many men to dream of.
But there is still a difference between these two abilities, if you only have the latter kind of ability, then you can only beg god to give you a good man, because once he is like Sister Li's husband, you have no hope of overturning; but if you still have the former ability, then no matter what kind of life storm you encounter, you can fight back like Sister Li.
03. Mei Niang said
Women need to be loved, no matter what age, and want to have peach blossom luck. Because the happiness of being loved will make women feel that they are lovely, life is lovely, and the days can be lived smoothly and comfortably.
Therefore, many women will rack their brains to attract men in various ways, but a woman, if she has no appearance, it will not attract high-quality men, and a woman, if she does not care about appearance at all, it is difficult to be remembered by high-quality men.
In "Beauty is a Fierce Character", it is said:
"Men and women are actually a 'I'll meet you when I'm good enough' rivalry, rather than a climbing outdoor sport of silk flowers and vines." Mutual nourishment can be maintained for a long time, and donation-style offerings really depend on luck and each other's faces. ”
Yes, who you are, you will meet.
Li Xiaoyi said in "Beautiful Women Are Fierce Characters":
"All we get now is the result of the ultimate negotiation and compromise of desire and ability."
That's apt.
Just like Sister Li, she can be appreciated by high-quality men, really not because of luck, but because of strength, her beauty, her ability, to ferry her to the shore that suits her most, and in fact, Sister Li's peach blossom luck is the man's greatest luck!
Want to cultivate "beauty" fierce, this good book of Li Xiaoyi is really not to be missed, it can let you see your own shadow from the experience of ordinary women around you, it is not a bowl of healing chicken soup, but a bowl of pure chicken blood, which can bring every girl full of positive energy!
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