True love is mutual rushing.
The opening of a fate is inseparable from the efforts of two people.
If you look at each other and hate each other, you certainly have no intention of continuing to communicate. In the following time, the two sides will not strive for the opportunity to get along, but will only completely become each other's passers-by under the witness of time.
Of course, even if one person is emotional, the other person is indifferent. Such a fate is also difficult to develop into love. After all, love is not a one-man show, but the result of the interaction between two people.
What kind of fate can be lucky for a long time?
Only two people, after meeting, have a feeling of seeing each other very happily.
Over time, both parties realize that the other is worthy of their own trust. Under the influence of this emotion, two people will overcome all obstacles and run hand in hand in the direction of love.
And such a fate will have enough stability.
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How to understand empathy?
What is the best love?
In our cognition, we always think that it is the best state of fate.
So, how should you understand this word?
Many people will think that the reason why the two lovers are in love is because two people have the same three views, and they can easily achieve "a little understanding of the heart" in getting along.
In fact, to be able to achieve "empathy", it is not necessary to need the same concept.
From the perspective of love psychology, love can change a person.
If you meet the object of your choice, everyone will often have good expectations, to imagine the scene of two people interacting, and through action, to complete each other's love.
Among them, changing ourselves to adapt to each other is also something we often do.
After all, in this world, there is no absolute agreement between the three views, and everyone has different life backgrounds and will form different behavioral characteristics. Even people with similar personalities will encounter differences and contradictions in the process of falling in love.
If a person can have an inclusive mindset and strive to be well considerate of the person he loves, even if there is a difference in personality between them, he can be sympathetic. Because of deep love, we will strive to achieve "the same frequency" with the people we love.
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Different frequencies, is not love.
In the age of love, friends look forward to the arrival of fate.
However, when love is truly encountered, everyone will fall into the predicament of gain and loss. Especially when the passion disappears and love enters a period of flatness, we tend to re-evaluate the fate in front of us.
Where fate begins, two people cherish each other.
Even in each other's body, there are some visible flaws.
Because both sides can be tolerant and understanding, everyone will become love House and Wu, and become two people on the same frequency. Even if there is a big difference between couples, two people will strive to achieve true "same frequency" because of deep love.
And when the love disappears, the "same frequency" behavior between couples will gradually decrease.
From the perspective of girls, how to judge the heart of a man, is there still your place? We may wish to find the answer you want to know through psychological observation, because a man is not in love, in fact, there are signals.
First: the topic is different.
After men and women meet, how to usher in the heating of fate?
Really smart men will try to find topics that girls are interested in.
In this way, men will strive for the opportunity to communicate, and gradually enter the hearts of girls in their favor.
From this, we can realize that if a man cares, he will often pay attention to and understand girls. Even when encountering things that they are not interested in, men will try to participate in them.
But in love, there are often variables.
Even if a man has said a lot of mountain alliances and vows, it is easy to do things that betray fate.
If one day, two people chat about the topic, there is a completely different situation. Especially when girls propose one thing, while men will only deny and ignore.
Obviously, men's attitude is to show that they are not willing to share the same frequency with girls. In this case, the fate of each other is really in crisis.
Second: the eyes are different.
There is an old saying that goes:
The eyes are the windows of the soul.
In the interaction between men and women, many times, there is no need to speak to each other, and from the look in their eyes, they can see the sign of admiration. The feelings of two people will be transmitted through the eyes, so that the two sides are silently close.
Every love will enter a period of blandness.
With the change in the way they get along, many girls are reluctant to accept this reality.
Of course, there are also men who will really deny the fate in front of them in the new stage and think that two people are not suitable. But even with such an idea, these men would not bring it up.
In this case, how can girls judge whether men still love or not?
Everyone can find traces of love through the eyes that look at each other. If two people look at each other, they can send a warm signal, indicating that both sides are still at the same frequency.
If you see only indifference in the eyes of men, girls should realize that the looks of each other are not frequent. A man's love for you may have long since disappeared.
Third: the direction is different.
Love will bring two people closer together.
This convergence is not only verbal, but also physical.
More often, it is the subconscious of both sides that are close to each other, and each other's lives are close to each other. The future direction of life, the two people will agree.
From this, we can see that if a man loves you, he will work in the same direction as you.
But after holding hands, couples face invisible tests.
The feelings of two people may usher in more opportunities for heating up, and it may also usher in an abrupt end to one day. If fate ushers in exhaustion results, how do girls judge?
In fact, relying on the intuition of girls, it is possible to realize.
If the direction of the man's efforts is still in the same frequency as the girl, it is obvious that the man's heart, as well as the position of the girl, he is still in love. If a man changes his direction but does not seek the opinion of the girl, then the relationship between the two people may end here.
We all know:
If two people love each other, they will not only rush to each other, but also strive to achieve "the same frequency".
Only by doing these two things can both parties adhere to the original intention of love and move towards happiness. If a party is unwilling to share the same frequency, it can only show a fact that the love of two people has encountered a bottleneck.
Girls should understand the signal that men do not love: different frequencies.
The boy who cares about you will try to get close to you. The man who doesn't love you will only choose to alienate you.
If two people, after all, want to become passers-by, from now on to part ways, please girls should learn to cherish themselves. Give up a man who doesn't care about you, and everyone can grasp the person who really fell in love for the rest of their lives.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.