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"Whether the first child is a boy or a girl, there must be one more, and the two children will grow up with a companion!"
"A child is too lonely, there is another one, and when the parents are old, there is a person to discuss things."
Listening to these words is not very familiar, most of them are the common words of the parents around them. Speaking of which, I think that a child is too lonely, have one more child, have a companion, and have a discussion when he grows up. But I think it's the self-deception of parents.
Having several children is the parents' own will, but they all use the child as an excuse
Many parents who have two or three children say that a child is too lonely and has a companion for the child. However, the child is so young, when did he express to his parents that he was too lonely alone, and how did his parents expect him to grow up to be a non-negotiable person. Ask the only children around you, are they really lonely growing up?
This is just wishful thinking by parents. Obviously, many parents want to have a second or third child to satisfy their own selfishness, such as hoping that their children will be complete, one more child will be old, and they will be guaranteed when they are old, or they like children, that is, they want their children to be more lively and lively, etc., mostly the parents' own reasons, but why always take the child as an excuse? Is it generous to admit that your ideas are not good?
Two or three children grow up to be companions, there are things to discuss, help each other, I think this idea is more problematic
Both boys and girls grow up to form a family, and at this time he and his partner are the core of a family and the closest people. If you really encounter something, do not consult with your intimate partner, but go to find brothers and sisters who have already started their own families and have their own families, is this not purely creating family conflicts?
They also help each other, and naturally do not need help to live well, and if they do not live well, it may be a drag on other brothers and sisters. After they have their own families, many times they can't take care of themselves, and they can't take care of other people at all.
If parents have this kind of thinking, most of them will be biased towards their children from an early age. When you grow up, you will have the idea of equality between rich and poor, so that the children who live well will infinitely support those children who have a bad life, resulting in a certain child being treated unfairly from an early age, and when they grow up, they will continue to be sucked by their families, and they will let a certain child enjoy his success without gratitude.
Thus making the brothers and sisters discordant, and even turning against each other, old and dead do not interact with each other. Parents will also have a miserable life in their old age. Look at the families with many children around you, and when their parents are alive, they still have contact with each other. When his parents were no longer alive, they immediately severed their relationship.
Of course, it is not to deny blood kinship, and there is no objection to parents wanting to have two children and three children. It's just that parents should correct their mentality, parents face up to their own ideas, and having children is born for themselves, not for children.
No matter how many children you have, you must ensure that you can be fair and just, and treat everyone equally. At the same time, educate the children well, so that the children grow up to become the most solid backing.
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