Do these 9 points, the child will be used infinitely!

Learn how to be a good mom? We always expect our children to have better teachers to teach, but we don't know that our words and deeds are the best for children to emulate. It's never too late to start changing.

To raise outstanding children, it is enough for the mother to do these 9 things:

01. Before entering the door, forget your unpleasantness

I don't know if you have paid attention to how many celebrity biographies describe mothers? "Mother is gentle, virtuous, understanding... The mother is strong, kind, and assertive, as if nothing can upset the mother..."

Every little being has an instinctive dependence on its mother. "Mom" is probably the most important person to give in everyone's life. A mother's personality, language, and behavior can affect a child's entire life.

The best mother, in front of her children, will restrain her sharp edge and become a mother in the true sense. A mother in front of her child needs to remember that she is not at work, not at the negotiating table, and does not need to look at her child with criticism, criticism and demand for perfection.

If you use an aggressive attitude, harsh language, behavior that controls everything, and self-righteous judgment, the damage to children's self-esteem and self-confidence is difficult to make up.

More important key points in the handling of future emotions and the development and formation of personality, the lack of security is the most important key to passing the pass that has been lost.

For the child, from the moment he is born, the child's need for the role of mother is almost the same and eternal.

Before entering the house, mothers must remind themselves: forget all unpleasant things at work, temporarily let go of pressure, and now begin to assume the role of mother.

The child needs a mother, a happy mother, a mother with a gentle smile. Never transfer bad emotions that have nothing to do with the child to the child, because the child is innocent.

02. A child's little honor is important

When the child excitedly tells his mother that he got a five-pointed star or a small red flower at school today, do not show boredom or disdain, and be as happy as the child to express affirmation and appreciation. The appropriate way to do this is to say:

"Can you show your mother?"

"Mom is happy with your progress."

Remember to share this joy with him, because it may seem like a small honor to adults, but it is very important for children.

03. Can be an "ignorant" mom

When the child comes to the mother and asks, "How do you pronounce this word?" "How do you do this question?" When waiting for questions like this, it is best for mom not to answer him right away. The worst response was "How come you don't even know that word!" ”

Mom had better take a look at it and say, "Oh, I don't know either, let's look up the dictionary together, okay?" After a few times, the mother taught the child to use the dictionary.

At the same time, after the child looks up the dictionary to recognize this word, he will have a sense of accomplishment, and after many times, he will develop the habit of actively learning by consulting materials and not relying on his mother.

04. Calm, calm, must be calm

When the child tells the mother that the exam is not good today, the mother must restrain her emotions, absolutely can not be angry or gloomy, every child will be nervous at this time, will observe the mother's face.

Therefore, it is best for the mother to show that there is no emotional change, let the child take out the paper, and analyze what is wrong with the child.

If the child already understands what is wrong, the mother does not have to dwell on it anymore. But finally encourage him: you see, you figured out that you can't go wrong with the next exam.

If mom feels like she can't control her emotions, she goes to the bathroom to wash her face, look in the mirror, and take a few deep breaths.

05. "Mom used to be a coward too"

When a child shows timidity before the test, or before doing something more important, the mother must not be dismissive. Or reprimand him for being timid, or act more nervous than he is, which will increase the psychological pressure of the child and cause the child to be unable to play normally.

At this time, the mother had better easily say to the child: "Mother used to be afraid of the stage, and she was afraid that she would not do well."

But in fact, no matter how you do, Mom and Dad will applaud you for the courage to get this thing done, don't worry. In this way, the child will have more confidence and confidence in his heart, but will play better than usual."

06. In the face of failure, we are a little stronger

When the child suffers failure or setback, the mother should show strength and not give up, calmly telling the child that a failure only represents a moment. It does not mean lifelong failure. Don't let the mother act hopelessly in the first place when the child doesn't think she has to give up.

The worst thing is to use harsh language to ridicule him, to count the children to nothing, and even to calculate the old accounts together. Children under such education will be extremely inferior, and even give up on themselves, not believing that they can get a good future through hard work.

07. Refrain from using "you must...", "you should..."

Mothers should not preemptively express their views before their children have expressed what they want to say clearly. Whether the child wants to or not, he commands the child in the tone of "you must..." and "you should..." to suppress the child's point of view with his own point of view, and ask the child to carry it out.

Mom must not be synonymous with "authoritarianism". Children who grow up in this situation lack self-determination and lack the ability to judge right and wrong.

There should be an equal relationship between mom and child (of course, equality is not unprincipled!). Know how to respect each other.

08. Don't let the hurt come from those closest to you

Mothers have to control the way they speak in front of their children. The mother knows best about the child, so the mother knows best where the child's weakness lies.

If the mother often points out the child's weakness when she speaks, with sarcasm, criticism or blackmail, or knowing that the child cannot do it and deliberately asks the child to do it.

This is undoubtedly the sore spot that constantly stabs the child with the sharpest weapon. The child will be hurt inside, because the hurt of verbal violence comes from the people closest to him.

09. "Short and powerful language + appropriate silence" > nagging

Mothers should control the number of languages in front of their children and never nag. In fact, what scares children the most is the silence of the mother.

So, instead of nagging and nagging your child endlessly, tell your child in short, forceful language about what he has made or what he should pay attention to.

Next, the mother's silence was certainly more useful than continuing to speak. Don't think that the child doesn't understand, maybe he's pretending to be indifferent now, but is actually observing whether the mother values what she says.

So, dear mothers, don't wait for your child to grow up and talk about him, how do you have such a character, who are you like? Obviously, parents are the child's enlightenment teacher, the child's personality depends on your usual attitude towards the child, for the child, long snack bar!

After becoming a mother, I have this common name that countless people have: "Mom", and I am proud of it. It is precisely because of this pride that I suffer more from gains and losses, and I want to learn more for my child and do more for him.

I hope to give my child a good childhood, a good growth environment and a good future, because the mother knows that the child will one day leave herself and live her own life.