Now the cost of raising children is very high, many families have also given birth to two children, for parents, the pressure of raising a baby is still quite large, so when living a life must learn to be careful, in order to live a more complete life.
A neighbor's family just bought a house a few years ago, originally planned to delay a few years to have a second child, but the mother is 35 years old, so she can't afford to drag it out, and it may be worse to become an elderly pregnant woman, so soon they are pregnant with the second child, the life is a little tighter, and the adults and children are a little guilty.
1, too "frugal" for children
The second-born baby is a daughter, and relatives sometimes wash the old clothes worn by the child and send them to her, and the mother is very happy to accept them for the child to wear.
Some of the clothes were torn, and her mother sewed and mended her to continue to wear, and as a result, when she went to kindergarten, her classmates laughed at her and dressed like a beggar, and her daughter's heart was also deeply hit, because her mother never bought her new clothes.
The mother feels that the financial pressure is a little big, and the children do not talk about pomp, so they can just wear it, so they will refuse their daughter's request to buy new clothes every time.
Children become very inferior in front of kindergarten children, and are often ridiculed by others, so their personalities have also changed.
2. Non-compliance with the rules
Mothers usually ride the tram to pick up the child from school, and when the weather is bad, she will take her to the bus, but there is an experience of taking the bus, which gives the child a big shadow.
Bus regulations children under 1.2 meters can take the bus for free, but for the 5-year-old daughter, she has grown to 1.3 meters, need to swipe the card to get on the bus, when getting on the bus, the captain reminds the mother to brush the tickets of two people, but the mother is very angry that my daughter is only 1.15 meters, not yet the height of the ticket, the clear-eyed people can see at a glance that the daughter has crossed the line, but the mother insists on not paying money, and scolds and grins, in order not to affect other passengers on the bus, the captain let them go.
After getting out of the car, the mother scolded her daughter with a split head and a face, "Do you think there is a mine at home?" When you get on the car, you will not bend down or bow your head, a dollar is also hard to save by your mother, the next time you have no eyes, you will walk home! "The daughter feels that it is right to get on the car and pay money, but the mother's psychology of loving to take advantage of the small is forcing her daughter to make changes step by step!
3, like greedy and cheap
When the daughter wants to eat bread, her mother will take her to the bakery, but never buy it, because every bakery will have a new product to try, the clerk will be very enthusiastic to taste their new style, and the mother will take the initiative to ask the child to eat a piece.
After eating a piece, many customers will choose to buy or not to buy, and few continue to taste, but this mother will ask for more than a few pieces for her daughter, because she is not willing to spend money to buy, there is free food, why spend money?
One day the daughter said after school to invite the classmates to eat cake, the result led the children to try, was despised by the classmates, said that she loves to be greedy and cheap, but the daughter thinks that the classmates are too stupid, spend money to eat the same as this, why not eat free?
For parents, being meticulous is a virtue, and in the process of educating children, children should also learn to be frugal.
But frugality is good, parents should also consider the child's psychological development, do not ruin the child's pattern because of too frugality, after growing up, the gap between the child and the child is immediate, regret is too late!
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