The education method of a Tsinghua mother: 0 years old all the way to puberty
Guide
Her son entered Tsinghua University with a full score in the city and mathematics in the college entrance examination - her godson experience is not only novel but also interesting, and parents must want to forward + collect after reading it.
Early education is really important:
I started with a child who could speak and asked for his opinion on everything. Do something wrong (including breaking things), let him talk about what happened, why it happened, I will not scold him, I will not hit him; After the lecture, point out the problem and the corrective method, and say that you will pay attention to the points in the future.
Lack of concentration, do you sleep well at night? Are you eating too much? Can't understand the lesson? Find out the cause, find a way to solve the problem for the reason, and don't blindly scold the child.
To give him time to play, the hands-on itself is equivalent to the use of the brain. Parents and children make a schedule from after-school to sleep, and everything is according to the schedule.
I once read a post about the education of children, and I exchanged it with you:
First, conduct early education, focus on developing thinking intelligence, and do not force him to learn anything.
Second, be kind to all life, teach him to think in a different position, and no longer be displeased and not imposed on others.
Third, teach him to take water as an example when doing things, to be gentle when encountering things, and to take a detour in distress.
Cultivate your child's heart volume:
I told him that others were under no obligation to be nice to you. The human heart is uneven, just as the earth has mountains, river valleys, and plains. If someone else is good to you, you should be grateful to him; It's not good for you, that's his behavior, and it's normal. There is no absolute fairness in all things. The larger the amount of mind, the greater the energy that can be obtained, and the more you get without asking for it. Heart and compassion are important and have a decisive effect on the differences in a child's later life and circumstances.
The education of young children begins at the age of 0:
1. Breastfeeding is very important and is the best and safest food. Ensuring the health of the child also reduces the chances of breast cancer in the mother's 40s. Just after giving birth to a child, there may be a situation where the breast gland is not connected, and it must be cleared. You can't breastfeed a small child for the sake of your so-called stature.
2, I started the education after more than 20 days of children. When the child wakes up, I will let the child's small hand touch the various objects at hand. It is well known that the brain of a child develops rapidly from birth to the age of 1; At the age of 1-3, it is another stage, and the most important stage of life is the time when mothers are most needed to pay their efforts.
Half a year ago, let him touch and explain with his small hand, what is this item, what is the use, remember not to say "car, rice" to Xiaowa from 0-3 years old, etc., to directly say that it is a car or jeep, tractor or porridge, steamed buns, etc., so that children will absorb a lot of vocabulary.
When a child sleeps for 10 months, he sleeps for a long time and wakes up more, so he can go to find the whole set of "Shiwan Whys?" Encyclopedia of all kinds, 365 Nights, etc. "Books with pictures and texts." The elements in the finger diagram are told to the child with the text below the picture to stimulate the development of the child's cerebral cortex.
At some point, when you give him the book again, he will reach out and turn the next page, which means that he has an impression of this page and wants something new. For example, if we take children to nature (I take children to the park every Sunday, there is an environment of mountains and water), all kinds of plants, foliage, grass, small ants, small snails, etc. are the best props for children to observe.
The above is to let children contact the world through their hands, and the rest of the time when adults have no free time, they will put stories tapes or cartoons with beautiful pictures and more dazzling pictures for children, which is very good for children's image thinking. At the same time, he looked for a little shallow things with subtitles, such as disciple rules and Traditional Chinese studies, and showed them to his children every day, so that he would invisibly come into contact with many words. If the hourly thinking is stimulated well, then the words and words he sees will slowly move, and they will be invisibly applied to other places.
Listen to storytelling tapes before going to bed, arrange discs with subtitles during the day, tell encyclopedia knowledge atlases (bookstores have many types), idiom storybooks. The above stimulates the child's left brain and image thinking, and the next step is to develop the child's right brain. The right brain is the function of the left hand, every day to take a little free time to play games with children, use the left hand to throw small balls, use the left hand to pick up, etc., you probably set a number for him in your mind, and do other things when you are done.
Another addition to a brain exercise:
To draw pictures, we don't ask children to draw like real objects. As long as you can draw lines with your hands, it has an effect on the brain. The most afraid of not understanding the education of children said that the car drawn by children is not like it? At this point you have to correct that it is a deformed car drawn by the baby. In the education of 0-3 years old, in the way of encouragement can not be hit, it is not to ask him to draw more similarities in the physical object, but to exercise the groove of the cerebral cortex.
The brain develops to a certain extent, the child's desire to learn is relatively strong, and what adults should do is to satisfy him and find various books to show him.
About eating:
1, eat less does not matter, do not chase him, do not eat even if it is, a bowl is the basic amount. Don't ask to eat too full, seven points full, enough for the body to consume energy. In this way, there are many gullies in the cerebral cortex, which is conducive to memory and so on.
2, try to train children to eat less meat, eat more vegetables and fruits (can adhere to the best), do not let the body accumulate fat, affect the brain. Be sure to take the snack, replace it with fruit, and eat apples and bananas every day, both of which are related to intelligence and have a calming effect.
A doctor friend of mine once told me not to force small children to eat. Children have several periods of growth and development, especially in puberty, and the amount of food will naturally increase. If you open your appetite early, his meal will pass by the time of development, and by puberty you will not be able to let him eat less.
About scores:
How many points on the exam is not too much to express opinions, my principle is that learning is his own business. I only told him to analyze the reasons for the wrong questions on the paper, whether he did not understand or was careless, and self-correction. Nor would he be asked how high he ranked in his class (all the way through high school).
Mathematics will always write very simple problems wrong, and adults and children will regret saying, "What a pity!" If you are careful about mathematics, it is a full score" I have also encountered this situation, seeing the 99-point volume, I wonder how to make him not careless and not careless? About the third grade, the opportunity came in the misery of others, and there was a unit that built a house, and when it was halfway through, the house collapsed.
I took him to the scene for opportunity education, from the mechanics and other methods, because a little error in the calculation will cause the base foot to support the house to have a difference, the point that is less calculated will sink; In terms of building materials, cement has less labels, steel bars are smaller, and brick and tile quality is inferior, then the whole house is a dangerous house.
In order for him to have a deep understanding, I said that if you cause the death of others because of your calculative carelessness (that accident killed 6 people), how to compensate for human lives? How to compensate for tens of millions of economic losses? From the full score of the college entrance examination, this opportunity education was successful.
About homework
1, do homework after school: set the time, when the time is not allowed to do it. He said that he could not finish his homework and would be punished by the teacher tomorrow, but I told him that what time to do something, can not be diverted. The next day he got up early in the morning to do it, and I was equally forbidden to make him cry and go to school. After that, until I graduated from high school, I was the first to complete my homework first.
2, the teacher assigned homework to ask parents to check the signature: let the child check it himself, check it well, and take it to me to sign. Ask when signing: You are not wrong after checking, he is sure that he is right, you sign. If you see a wrong question, don't point it out to him, so that tomorrow's homework book has a red cross. In the face of this situation, you just need to say why you didn't check it out yesterday, don't be too strict, don't let the child worry about when you hit him, everything is mainly reasonable, so that he will be much more serious next time.
In the first grade, parents should talk to their children well, so that he understands that learning is the stage of laying the foundation for their own lives, learning is not learning for parents, it has nothing to do with parents, parents have parental responsibilities; Letting the child check on his own is to let him manage himself as much as possible, so that he can learn to take responsibility for his own life. If the child comes home the next day after the parent signs and says, look, there is a wrong question that has not been checked, and the parent is speechless.
3, about dictation: My solution is to ask him to use silent writing to complete. I said you can think of all the new words you learned and write them silently, that's not proof that you're great! He brought the language book and put it in front of me, and I said take the book away, and my mother believed that you would not read it.
4. Teacher's complaint and punishment for homework (about criticism): My son was also punished in the first grade of elementary school. I picked him up from school and waited for him to finish his penal homework while listening to the teacher count how his son was not serious in class, how to have things happen with his classmates, and so on. After returning home, carefully ask the situation, if the classmate is wrong, do not criticize him; It was his own problem, and he whispered to him how to pay attention to and correct it. It is important for parents to use reason to dispel the negative emotions he may have towards the teacher. It is mainly parents and teachers who are attacking children's self-confidence. If the child is scolded at school, the mother who is the mother that night should understand things clearly, dissolve the child's emotions, and repair his self-confidence. Self-confidence in a person's life is very important.
If you don't understand, ask
After going to junior high school and high school, this sentence is really important, and you can't pile up problems. You take your son in your arms and tell him that the knowledge you learned that day should be understood, so that you will not have a burden to learn, if you do not understand and you are not in a hurry to deal with it, the pile is more, it will take up more time to spend you, and people are tired, you say that Mommy is right? What you and your classmates have learned is the same, and in the future, everyone will open the gap in grades, which will see which one can do what they do not understand and ask the teacher in time.
Teachers like students to ask the teacher or classmates after class, daddy, mommy, teacher hope that you can grasp the knowledge you have learned, enrich your knowledge. A classmate in my son's class, just do to ask classmates, often have do not understand the phone to ask my son, in the third year of high school time can be up to 2 hours, that classmate finally went to Peking University.
adolescence
Your son is in the first year of junior high school and has entered puberty. When you find that he is beginning to be impatient when talking to him, you can't be wordy in front of him, don't force him to do anything, you have to focus on his will and respect his choice of problems. At this time, children are most likely to rebel against the ideas of adults, if adults are too strong, children will bump into each other, forming a habit of children talking very hurtfully. When my son was adolescence, we didn't know what time to sleep every night, we slept first, we didn't take the initiative to talk to him, and each person did his own thing. When we got to the second semester of the second semester of junior high school, my son took the initiative to talk to us, talk about games, talk about things in school, and we knew that my son had successfully passed puberty.