Li Meijin parenting classic quotes:
1. It is best to be raised by the mother before the age of 1, or even before the age of 3.
Recognition of people is the earliest emotional phenomenon, and the early happiness and satisfaction of children are related to the caregiver, also known as attachment, so that parents can obtain the psychological capital to raise children.
When Puyi was a child, "no evil and no evil", no one listened to his words, liked to tease eunuchs, and officials did not dare to say him, but only listened to the words of the nursing mother Wang Jiaoshi, because before the age of 3, he was raised by a nursing mother, and his psychology became attached.
2, the child's psychological sunshine in the process of growing up is more important than intelligence
Every day, we must care about whether the child is doing well in school, how to get along with the classmates, rather than go to college, but also make the child happy and happy.
But now many parents are forcing their children, afraid that their children will lose at the starting line, and the children with high-intensity learning pressure will not be able to kick out.
Many juveniles who commit crimes, their souls are twisted and painful.
3. Before the child is 6 years old, parents should learn to say "no".
It is also necessary to manage children from the following aspects, restrain willfulness, prevent repression, learn to control, learn to be patient, prevent selfishness, and experience setbacks.
Before the age of 6 is the process of the child forming a personality, after which his success or failure has been determined, 0-6 years old is a microcosm of life, learning habits, living habits and life self-care, are condensed within the age of six.
4. After the dispute between the second child, do not protect the small, but educate the big.
For example, if you share food, adults should not interfere, give things to the big one, let the big decision be divided into small ones, then the big heart will think "Since my parents trust me so much, then I certainly can't treat my brother (sister)", and the problem of the second child is solved at once.
5) If a person has not been treated well when he was a child, do not expect him to be kind to this society.
The world you create for your child is cruel and miserly, then his world is cruel and miserly, so whether the child is living well or not depends on what kind of world you give.
6, there is a kind of person who is grumpy and easy to get excited, and the early years of raising must be indebted; There is also a kind of peace and generosity, and the early years of raising must be very in place.
What melon to plant and what fruit, don't think that you owe him, he gives you something in return.
7, many problems of minors are lagging behind, when you find that children are difficult to educate, in fact, the problem has been very early.
When you yell at your child for a long time, you are most likely to have such a situation, the child will not show timidity or irritability at that time, but when puberty, all the problems will erupt, which is the fruit of your long-term yelling.
8. When the child's request is unreasonable? How? Don't care, don't fight, don't preach, don't walk away, just watch from the side, and then gently but firmly refuse.
9, to cultivate children's frustration and willpower, resistance to setbacks is not cultivated by intelligence, but by physical strength.
For example, when a child learns to swim and the adult walks away, what will the coach do? The child will be driven underwater, the child will choke on the water, but don't worry, it won't drown, the coach will make sure it's safe. When you finish the practice to pick up the child and go home, ask the child what it feels like, the child will definitely say "scared me to death, choked on several mouthfuls of water", you take the opportunity to say to the child, "You must remember this feeling, no matter how much difficulty you encounter in the future, as long as you flutter will not die"
10, children's problems are often created by adults, and each psychological or behavioral problem of children must be related to the behavior of parents and the way parents educate.
Parents are the child's first teacher, parents' words and deeds will have an impact on the child, the appearance of parents will be reflected in the child, so the parents' behavior should not be deviated.